need help with eating?????

I need some advice on what to do.  I am eating way to much and all the time.  I try  to drink lots of water and yet I still eat like a fricken pig.  I make myself sick at times and thats not right.  I am so mad, sad, and frustrated with everything in my life and I m turning to food.  I want to go to a counciling meeting but not now I don't think I could handle that right now I don't want them to make me feel bad on what I am doing when I already feel bad enough the way it is.    Does any of this make sense?   I can eat what ever and sometimes it makes me sick and other times it don't does this happen to anyone else?  Something will work one time then another time nope....... whats up with that?  Any ways any ideas please let me know.........Thanks guys

You are on an emotional rollercoaster, girl.  Stop beating yourself up.  Perhaps you are making bad choices.  But what good is it going to do you to get mad about what has already happened?  Can't take it back, my dear.  A few things that help me....

1.  Ask someone else to "plate your food" and tell them how much you can have.  Complain about it and eat it.  Then be done.
2.  Don't buy snacks.  That may mean asking someone to do the shopping for you.
3.  Put pictures of the "old Marsha" up and around the food.  This, for me, would be a good enough reminder to me.
4.  Your dad would not want you doing this to yourself.  So stop it!
5.  When all else fails, pick up the phone and call a friend.  Or get on the computer and pound the heck out of the keyboard.  Blog.
6.  Learn to knit.

Food was our best friend.  And it shouldn't be.  But sometimes we have to take a couple steps back before we can move ahead.  You know that!  So stop beating yourself up.  It won't do you any good.

Ever thought of buying one of those boxing bags?  I bet you could get out a lot of anger on one of those bad boys.

hugs!
k

Marsha,

I agree with Kelly you need to forgive yourself and move forward working at regaining control one day or even one meal at a time.  One of the first things to be aware of is grazing I know this got me in trouble for a while, but once I stopped it I felt better about myself and the weight started to drop again.  Since there are others in your household who may still buy and eat the snacky foods perhaps have them in a cupboard that is out of the way for you.  I am planning on doing that for my sweetie....I will have a cupboard of food just for him and then my main cupboard for me. 

I would suggest getting to a coffee or the PNC support groups if you can swing it there is no shaming there trust me I want and confessed my issues earlier this summer/fall and received nothing but support. 

I hope that this can help some and PM me if you need to.  I hope things start going better for you!

Love & hugs!
Nicole

You've had a LOT of stressful, emotional, sad times in recent days.  Probably the easiest temporary "feel better" thing is to eat - in the short term.  Old, bad habits!  I'm not sure if you're thinking if you go to a group conseling meeting that you'll end up feeling worse, but my personal therapist has never gotten down on me about food, and 1/2 the time I end up sharing feelings about non-food issues.  And, feel LOADS lifted when I leave.  It's a great release if you can open up and be honest about stuff.

 If you have time in your life for individual therapy with someone, I highly recommend it.  Especially if you go to someone who specializes in eating issues or disorders (emotional eating for me).  Even when i'm eating "bad," she reminds me there is no good or bad, and you're not being good or bad, it's just a good choice or bad choice and you're choosing to eat unhealfully or not. 

I'm sure you'll get lots of other great feedback.

Marsha,

You just have to remind yourself why you had surgery in the first place.....You've gone through the ringer lately.......So I'm not surprised your turning to food.......

I've been grazing also.....So this week instead of grazing on bad stuff, I have an apple or yogurt.........

Up your protein intake, that will help you feel fuller.......Drink lots of water......Go for a walk, call a friend, start a hobby......Just keep busy......Journal your feelings.......

And last but not least, Give yourself a break.......

Take care and good luck.....Kelly

Marsha...you have received some great advice. I just want to say I love ya sweetie!!!!

Gentle hugs...be kind to yourself...you are so special.

connie d

Lisa Joy tried a 5 day kick start plan that she found on Bariatric Eating through a book she bought. Perhaps try something like that its suppose to help get you back on track. I do not know much about it but I'm sure she would not mind telling you about it you PM her. Otherwise all I can think of focus more on dense proteins perhaps that will fill you up longer. I know its hard to go through everything you have been through lately to turn to food. That is what we are so used to or at least I am. I found that I just can't keep that stuff in the house anymore. I have say no more snacky stuff unless its full of protien. I don't do sugar at all (unless is natural like in milk) so that is not an issue for me. Excersie has been my thing lately to keep me distracted.

Best wishes to you. It will get easier!!

Seriously Marsha, I agree with the rest of them. You need to give yourself some slack right now.  You have had the worst year EVER and you need to allow yourself to just be human because if you get anxious about your eating it's just going to cause you to eat more because you're adding stress and guilt.  Just take it one day, geez...in your case, one hour at a time, make a decision to try and make healthier choices and if you screw up, let it just go and try again the next time. 

Take care sweets - know that we're all praying for you and hoping that the new year will bring a little less stress in your life!