I cant believe...
I gotta be quite honest here.
I started looking into surgery about 4 or 5 years ago now. I came here, made a profile and lingered a bit, talked with some people, in fact I remember the women who made me change my mind and not have the surgery, her name was Jessica O. she passed away not long after that. And I watched these boards trying to gather the strength to post, or ask questions or be open to others, and what I seen shocked me more then you could imagine, there is allot of catty stuff here, allot. And that's very sad. I posted and said how on my two weeks pre op diet I had cheated, I kid you not I got emails saying my surgeon shouldn't do surgery on me cause I wouldn't make it, Id fail. Now to have someone, who's 1 2 3 years out tell me that Id fail because I cheated once really bothered me. You see those same people posting on the message boards being nice, and behind that they are emailing nasty things.
This is a place for EVERYONE to come and let their feelings, thoughts, and anything else they want out. It shouldn't matter what others think, this is a place for people who are heavy or have had the surgeries can gather with others for support, not for someone to take their losses or lack of out on others.
I have chatted with a few here that I find very nice, caring and friendly. But I keep myself distant because I have seen the catty women who pounce to hurt someone to make themselves feel better. I don't believe all the people here are like that, not a bit, but I do believe that it makes it hard for people who are new to try to get through being here.
I really don't mean to **** anyone off, that's just what I see, as a newby. I truly believe that if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. It just hurts others...
I started looking into surgery about 4 or 5 years ago now. I came here, made a profile and lingered a bit, talked with some people, in fact I remember the women who made me change my mind and not have the surgery, her name was Jessica O. she passed away not long after that. And I watched these boards trying to gather the strength to post, or ask questions or be open to others, and what I seen shocked me more then you could imagine, there is allot of catty stuff here, allot. And that's very sad. I posted and said how on my two weeks pre op diet I had cheated, I kid you not I got emails saying my surgeon shouldn't do surgery on me cause I wouldn't make it, Id fail. Now to have someone, who's 1 2 3 years out tell me that Id fail because I cheated once really bothered me. You see those same people posting on the message boards being nice, and behind that they are emailing nasty things.
This is a place for EVERYONE to come and let their feelings, thoughts, and anything else they want out. It shouldn't matter what others think, this is a place for people who are heavy or have had the surgeries can gather with others for support, not for someone to take their losses or lack of out on others.
I have chatted with a few here that I find very nice, caring and friendly. But I keep myself distant because I have seen the catty women who pounce to hurt someone to make themselves feel better. I don't believe all the people here are like that, not a bit, but I do believe that it makes it hard for people who are new to try to get through being here.
I really don't mean to **** anyone off, that's just what I see, as a newby. I truly believe that if you don't have anything nice to say, don't say anything at all. It just hurts others...
I wasn't going to say anything but this is getting ridiculas!
GROW UP!!
No one is perfect and no one said this was going to be easy and that we ALL were going to be perfect once we had the surgery. If you want to get real technical, we ALL were failures and that's why we had the surgery in the first place. I'm one that has struggled the last 1 1/2 years with my weight, I'm not perfect and yes I want to change but right now I can't and until I figure what is going on this is who I am. Linda left on her own, and I'm sorry she left but that was her choice and for everyone else this is to be a place to come and vent, learn and talk to people that have been through surgery and might have some of the same problems or issues.
It's sad that people feel they need to leave, and even though I haven't met a lot of you I have been reading for years and have gone to the Sat coffees and I think your all great! Lets not let this tear our "family" apart.
This was not intended to offend ANYONE this is just in general. Lets move on and be the support we ALL need with this journey
GROW UP!!
No one is perfect and no one said this was going to be easy and that we ALL were going to be perfect once we had the surgery. If you want to get real technical, we ALL were failures and that's why we had the surgery in the first place. I'm one that has struggled the last 1 1/2 years with my weight, I'm not perfect and yes I want to change but right now I can't and until I figure what is going on this is who I am. Linda left on her own, and I'm sorry she left but that was her choice and for everyone else this is to be a place to come and vent, learn and talk to people that have been through surgery and might have some of the same problems or issues.
It's sad that people feel they need to leave, and even though I haven't met a lot of you I have been reading for years and have gone to the Sat coffees and I think your all great! Lets not let this tear our "family" apart.
This was not intended to offend ANYONE this is just in general. Lets move on and be the support we ALL need with this journey
No one had a "goal" of running anyone off the board. I am extremely sad that Linda decided to leave, and even sadder because I suspect I'm one of the people who's post she didn't like. I disagreed with her. But unless something happened in a pm to her, I haven't seen anyone suggest that she leave. That was HER decision. I hope she comes back, she IS inspirational. But she needs to learn to accept that not everyone will share her opinion about how this war we're all fighting should be fought. This simply is NOT a "one-size-fits-all" kind of journey. THAT IS MY OPINION.
BUT I HAVE NEVER SEEN A POST WRITTEN WITH THE KIND OF VENOM YOU JUST DEMONSTRATED, 26TO0. Your words are self-righteous, hateful, judgemental, uninformed, and just plain UGLY. Most highschoolers I know have WAY more class than you just displayed.
IN MY HUMBLE OPINION, the ONLY person here who ought to be ashamed is YOU. Frankly, I'm embarassed FOR you, and I don't know you from Adam. You rarely post here, yet you feel qualified and justified to spew your gross assumptions at us all? You really SHOULD be ashamed of yourself. Not everyone who posted any sort of disagreement with Linda's opinion is failing, or gaining, or "f'ing up" as you so eloquently put it. We simply are expressing our opinions, like it or not.
Wow. I will refrain from spewing some of the less mature thoughts your posts have caused me to have - but Good Lord...
BUT I HAVE NEVER SEEN A POST WRITTEN WITH THE KIND OF VENOM YOU JUST DEMONSTRATED, 26TO0. Your words are self-righteous, hateful, judgemental, uninformed, and just plain UGLY. Most highschoolers I know have WAY more class than you just displayed.
IN MY HUMBLE OPINION, the ONLY person here who ought to be ashamed is YOU. Frankly, I'm embarassed FOR you, and I don't know you from Adam. You rarely post here, yet you feel qualified and justified to spew your gross assumptions at us all? You really SHOULD be ashamed of yourself. Not everyone who posted any sort of disagreement with Linda's opinion is failing, or gaining, or "f'ing up" as you so eloquently put it. We simply are expressing our opinions, like it or not.
Wow. I will refrain from spewing some of the less mature thoughts your posts have caused me to have - but Good Lord...
Imperfect does not = unsuccessful
26to0,
WOW......Some of these posts have brought tears to my eyes.......This is a support forum.....Not a bashing forum......I always try to see both sides, but I just don't this time........People are entiltled to there opinions.......I didn't see where anyone cut down LindaAnne, some may have disagreed with her, but I didn't see any bashing or anything........Everyone needs to agree to disagree.....Everyone's WLS journey is different, just as the surgeons are different in what they do and tell their patients.....What works for some doesn't for others.....I don't think ANYONE has WLS to fail or F-up......I think WE ALL from time to time eat something we shouldn't, etc......I know when I eat something I shouldn't, I usually exercise an extra 30 minutes, that works for me, but it may not for someone else.......
LindaAnne has IMHO done wonderful with her WL......
I'm hoping once tempers cool down, people will understand that were all different, and have different idea's, goal's, etc....And it's okay......And that were all succsessful and not failures.........I really don't like the bashing of people.......Can we PLEASE just support one another? And agree to disagree?
I hope this is coming across as sincere and not catty. This is a great supportive board, and I'd hate to see it go down the tube.......
Kelly
WOW......Some of these posts have brought tears to my eyes.......This is a support forum.....Not a bashing forum......I always try to see both sides, but I just don't this time........People are entiltled to there opinions.......I didn't see where anyone cut down LindaAnne, some may have disagreed with her, but I didn't see any bashing or anything........Everyone needs to agree to disagree.....Everyone's WLS journey is different, just as the surgeons are different in what they do and tell their patients.....What works for some doesn't for others.....I don't think ANYONE has WLS to fail or F-up......I think WE ALL from time to time eat something we shouldn't, etc......I know when I eat something I shouldn't, I usually exercise an extra 30 minutes, that works for me, but it may not for someone else.......
LindaAnne has IMHO done wonderful with her WL......
I'm hoping once tempers cool down, people will understand that were all different, and have different idea's, goal's, etc....And it's okay......And that were all succsessful and not failures.........I really don't like the bashing of people.......Can we PLEASE just support one another? And agree to disagree?
I hope this is coming across as sincere and not catty. This is a great supportive board, and I'd hate to see it go down the tube.......
Kelly
I don't know you... and you obviously don't know anyone here. What you basically did is shoot a missle into a crowd of citizens during wartime. If you have a problem with someone, PM them... otherwise, shame on you!! I honestly cannot believe people older than me act like this - WOW... this is just absolutely disturbing.
Your post speaks of your personality:
"little worlds of underachiving"
"whiners and excuse makers"
"you f*ing up"
I like Linda Anne. Yes, she has done well... so have thousands of others. Yes, she is inspirational... so are others. And being that she is like many others, I don't think anyone here has anything against her achievements - because there are TONS of people on OH just like her!! That is the point of this journey... to find success and what it means to us!
Yes, she chose to leave for some reason that I honestly don't know... at the same time, lots of people have claimed that they were 'leaving' a thousand times... old news. Frankly... I think Linda Anne is strong enough of a woman to face her own battles. I can't imagine that Linda Anne would even approve of a post like this... she is kind-hearted, well-meaning, well-spoken and straight forward. You are foul-mouthed, make horrible assumptions and are the cat sitting at the bowl of milk.
Shame on you... if no one is allowed to fail, struggle or fall once in a while on this forum... then we would have NO NEED FOR THIS FORUM... and you would not have needed to get WEIGHT LOSS SURGERY. Erghh.. I am truly sad if you are correctly representing the feelings of Linda Anne.... I always looked up to her as a confident and cheerful individual.
Your post speaks of your personality:
"little worlds of underachiving"
"whiners and excuse makers"
"you f*ing up"
I like Linda Anne. Yes, she has done well... so have thousands of others. Yes, she is inspirational... so are others. And being that she is like many others, I don't think anyone here has anything against her achievements - because there are TONS of people on OH just like her!! That is the point of this journey... to find success and what it means to us!
Yes, she chose to leave for some reason that I honestly don't know... at the same time, lots of people have claimed that they were 'leaving' a thousand times... old news. Frankly... I think Linda Anne is strong enough of a woman to face her own battles. I can't imagine that Linda Anne would even approve of a post like this... she is kind-hearted, well-meaning, well-spoken and straight forward. You are foul-mouthed, make horrible assumptions and are the cat sitting at the bowl of milk.
Shame on you... if no one is allowed to fail, struggle or fall once in a while on this forum... then we would have NO NEED FOR THIS FORUM... and you would not have needed to get WEIGHT LOSS SURGERY. Erghh.. I am truly sad if you are correctly representing the feelings of Linda Anne.... I always looked up to her as a confident and cheerful individual.
WOW! I don't post her often and one of the reasons why is because of this. The other is that when a person is failing there is no support, only blame. I have issues and I am not using my tool properly. Mostly because of addiction transfer. I don't post here because I don't fit into the close knit group. I don't post here because I am failing and I know it. I also know why and it is a struggle for me EVERY single day.
As for what has happened....I have no clue. But this BS has to stop. Seems like when there is drama on this board it is usually involving the same people. I seem to remember someone awhile back choosing to leave this board, because of more drama involving Linda Anne. I imagine that she is an inspiration to many of you. I imagine that she has helped many of you. As for a person leaving the board or not that is COMPLETELY their choice. So don't you sit here and point fingers at ALL the board. That is like saying that McDonalds is the reason that we got to be obese in the first place!!!
As for what has happened....I have no clue. But this BS has to stop. Seems like when there is drama on this board it is usually involving the same people. I seem to remember someone awhile back choosing to leave this board, because of more drama involving Linda Anne. I imagine that she is an inspiration to many of you. I imagine that she has helped many of you. As for a person leaving the board or not that is COMPLETELY their choice. So don't you sit here and point fingers at ALL the board. That is like saying that McDonalds is the reason that we got to be obese in the first place!!!
"As for what has happened....I have no clue. But this BS has to stop. Seems like when there is drama on this board it is usually involving the same people. I seem to remember someone awhile back choosing to leave this board, because of more drama involving Linda Anne."
Where in the hell did this come from? The person who posted this post did it all on their own. But you take the opportunity to knock Linda Anne? Kick her when she's down. WOW -- your attitude is worse than any of the others I have read so far.
So when someone makes a comment about Linda Anne it is now her fault? This type of drama created by these mean comments is what causes all the hurt and anger on this board. And you perpetuating it with your indirect comments toward Linda Anne is totally uncalled for. What happened to cause her to leave, and you not having a clue isn't the only thing you apparently don't have a clue to. Great way to stop the drama and support people.
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