I cant believe...
I am sorry all of this is happening and that you feel the need to protect your friend. Your post alone makes me want to leave the boards because of the unnecessary drama. I have never been negative in my posts to someone and nothing but supportive. I have no idea what groups you are referring to and care about Linda Anne post's just as much. I think we all need to read the lines and not between them. Your remark to Paul was disappointing and out of line. Linda Anne if you are reading at all please know that I don't want you to go away. You have have been a great influence on my personal goals and true inspiration.
Jennifer
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From your avie, it would appear that you have been very successful with your WLS tool. That in itself is truly a wonderful thing and serves to encourage and inspire others, including me. The words in your post, however, do not, particularly because they are not aimed well. I, too, find Lindaanne to be an inspiration because she is constantly striving to be better. Her taking that approach helps inspire me to be a better person and more successful with my own WLS tool. I also find inspiration in the way others are managing their post-WLS life a bit differently because they have again found joy in their lives even if they are not at goal because they are working to overcome more than just their weight issues, be it other addictions, mental health issues, family strife, prior abuse, etc., etc. We cannot know what demons everyone here is struggling to overcome, so rather than besmirch those that don't meet your standard for post-WLS behavior success, gently encourage them to do better with their weight management and help celebrate their successes in all aspects of their lives. The bond of common struggle is a strong one; we all need that here, including me, you, Lindaanne and the other folks who posted replies to your thread or who have read it.
RP
From your avie, it would appear that you have been very successful with your WLS tool. That in itself is truly a wonderful thing and serves to encourage and inspire others, including me. The words in your post, however, do not, particularly because they are not aimed well. I, too, find Lindaanne to be an inspiration because she is constantly striving to be better. Her taking that approach helps inspire me to be a better person and more successful with my own WLS tool. I also find inspiration in the way others are managing their post-WLS life a bit differently because they have again found joy in their lives even if they are not at goal because they are working to overcome more than just their weight issues, be it other addictions, mental health issues, family strife, prior abuse, etc., etc. We cannot know what demons everyone here is struggling to overcome, so rather than besmirch those that don't meet your standard for post-WLS behavior success, gently encourage them to do better with their weight management and help celebrate their successes in all aspects of their lives. The bond of common struggle is a strong one; we all need that here, including me, you, Lindaanne and the other folks who posted replies to your thread or who have read it.
RP
I have to agree....when I slipped off the back of the wagon I chose to go MIA. Now that I've decided to climb back on...well I can't believe how different things are here.
But, I'm going to use this site for what I need it for...support and motivation. I'll give what I can and take advice and even criticism as fellow posters feel the need....I'm hoping to be a success like Linda Anne!
But, I'm going to use this site for what I need it for...support and motivation. I'll give what I can and take advice and even criticism as fellow posters feel the need....I'm hoping to be a success like Linda Anne!
What I can't believe is how far off course this message is.
If anyone even remotely thinks that their post may be controversial - please, don't post it. We are only reading words here, we can't see the person's expressions or hear their words.
This message is designed to provide support, not to create division. I've been on many, many message boards and something like this always comes around. Rather than just allowing someone to leave gracefully, it blows up into a drama - just like this.
Linda Anne has been a great support for many, but she, like the rest of us, is not perfect. However, striving for perfection is an admirable goal and the person should not be chastized for wanting to live their life with that goal. That said, it is not a goal I would make for someone other than myself.
I think we need a "time out." No more ugly posts. Time to get back on the support wagon.
If anyone even remotely thinks that their post may be controversial - please, don't post it. We are only reading words here, we can't see the person's expressions or hear their words.
This message is designed to provide support, not to create division. I've been on many, many message boards and something like this always comes around. Rather than just allowing someone to leave gracefully, it blows up into a drama - just like this.
Linda Anne has been a great support for many, but she, like the rest of us, is not perfect. However, striving for perfection is an admirable goal and the person should not be chastized for wanting to live their life with that goal. That said, it is not a goal I would make for someone other than myself.
I think we need a "time out." No more ugly posts. Time to get back on the support wagon.
Linda
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