My hubby is worried!!??!!

Hi, I am just wondering how to deal with this issue and wondering if any of you have experienced this. My hubby is happy that I am going through w/ WLS (hopefully in Feb. or March)
BUT...... he is suddenly talking about being worried that after I lose weight and look and feel better that I will not be happy w/ the life we have created for the last 20+ years.  I want to reassure him that most of you or hopefully all of you have not decided to leave your spouse or partner after geting healthy! Please respond for his sake! I don't know the stats of this issue but I want him to know that nothing in our relationship will change for the worse, it will only get better!!

I once heard and believe this:  If you have a good marriage before WLS you will have a good marriage after.  WLS CAN put a "strain"on a marriage.  You have to have great communication and dedication and all will be ok.  I love my DH even more now.  HE DID go thru a "jealous" stage tho!!  Any guy look or talk to me and oie vey!!  BUT after tons of REASSURANCE that he is the only one for me (kept telling him:  you have been with me thick and thin so why would I leave you when I am thin??), he has learned I am not leaving.  Just as he has to be patient with your life stlye changes you have to be patient and understanding with his insecurities/jealousy or what not.....couseling might help as well as taking him with you to everything WLS related.
Hang in there!! 

The stats are high for divorce after WLS. We can't sugar coat that for you.

And the quote Sandie shared with you is also what I've heard many times over!

However, if you're marriage is solid now, it should only improved after you lose weight and gain more self respect. That's what I would focus on vs. the so-called stats!

I agree with the above posts.
When I initially lost a bunch of weight I changed.  I colored my hair, wore make-up again, wore cuter clothes.  I made so many changes in a very short period of time he couldn't keep up with me.  But as time went on he saw that I was just innocently having fun with my new life - not to the point of excluding him - just enjoying the fruits of my labor.  I think this scared my husband a little bit.  Many people said "you better watch out, she's gonna leave you".  Wrong.  And he knows that.  Then things settled down and he saw that it was still me, just a happier me.

On that note, your new white coat looks awesome on you.  So, you go girl!!!

I agree with you Sandy...what a great reward to yourself by new hair color, clothes, make-up, etc.  It might be a shock at first, but then (hopefully) he will be happy for me.

Stephanie