Will my husband find out how much I weigh??

Hi, I am meeting w/ Dr. Benn tomorrow and I was just wondering what that all involves? Ok here's the real thing about tomorrow, I have not been able to tell my hubby how much I weigh, ( I guess I am embarrassed) and I am wondering if tomorrow is when he will find out at the visit? Was anyone else as worried about telling their spouse, I feel like such a failure already that saying the number 247 out loud to him will just about make me cry!! How do I tell him? Do I need to tell him? Will he hear those numbers at a visit or in the hospital? Or am I just being a baby and need to just tell him and get it out there??!!

First of all, it's just a number.  It's the start of your journey.  Do you want him to support you?  Do you want to be able to share your milestones?  Well honey, that first milestone is an important one.  If he is coming with you, that shows that he is a supporter.  Yes, it's embarassing.  It was for all of us.  But you stand at a starting point of something beautiful...why not share that with him?  

Eventually he will know.  Because eventually you will be thrilled to tell people you are down 100 or down 80 or whatever.  Just tell him that the number embarasses you, but you are doing this for your health and that you want him to support you no matter what that number says.  He may already know, or at least have a guess.  You could tell him a super high number and then 247 won't seem so bad. 

I started my journey at 430.  It's all relative, but I too was embarassed.  But it's just a number.

linda

paul said it all very beautifully.  it really it just a number and your husband probably won't even give it a second thought.  Sounds like he's a supportive guy who would love you at any weight... 

if it really is bothering you, tell him now, otherwise, it will just be mentioned in passing tomorrow.  You will be ok either way.

hugs to you and my best to you both!

Linda - I know exactly what you are talking about.  When I was pregnant my husband used to coame to almost every appt with me and I always made home turn around when they weighed me.  When I started this journey I asked him to guess my weight and he was within 5 pounds.  It was a weight off my shoudlers (no pun intended) when we finally discussed it openly.  Tell him - you will feel better and as you start to melt away, it won't matter anymore - as Paul said, its just a number!

Lisa

Paul couldn't have said it better!  He loves you now when you are obese/overwieight!  It doesn't matter to him what you weigh.  He will love you no matter what.  It's ok.  Don't worry.  But if you are...it's ok to tell your hubby that you don't want him to know where you started...but o so much more fun to see where you go!  In time you will feel comfortable telling him where you came from.  Good luck to you!!!

Man do I get what you're saying!  I NEVER let my hubby know what I weighed, until I had dropped WELL over 100#!  I started at 377.  Ugh, I hate saying that even now.  But no, to answer your question, MY hubby did not find out how much I actually weighed until I decided to share that number with him.

I've also found that I hate telling people (outside of all my wonderful WLS friends!) how MUCH I've lost - because you can darn near HEAR the calculator go off in their heads! 

"My goodness... if she's lost 155 pounds, and she still must weigh at LEAST ###..... then she must have weighed [155 + ### =] HOLY CRAP!!!

Nope.  Still not comfortable with numbers.  So I just tell people "I've lost an overweight super model."  Let 'em chew on THAT for a bit!

I have NEVER in my life told ANYONE what I weigh, not even my husband.
He has/had gone to every doctor appointment and surgery with me, up to his deployment 2 days after my band surgery on 6/27/08. Yes, I was embarrassed and felt, "How could I ever let myself get so unhealthy?" I knew the cat would get out of the bag and felt relieved when it did. All he said was, "I'm glad that your working on getting healthier." He comes home on mid-term leave this Sunday/Monday and I'm happy to say that I've worked off 50+ pounds! He helps me by asking almost every time we talk, "Did you work out today?" and tells my often that he is very proud of me for working to get healthier. When he asks for my weight, I'm no longer worried about  his reaction to the number. No wonder why I married him!

 My husband knows my number.  I told him before surgery.  He was a little shocked because it was higher than what he thought... but he didn't really care that much... and if you were to ask him now what it was, he wouldn't remember, most likely.  

Kristen

OMG...the title of your post totally made me laugh...not because it is funny or I am laughing at you by any means, but because I was actually right where you are now.  Isn't it amazing how we can convince ourselves that others don't know how "fat" (and goll darn it I hate that word) we are.   If your husband is coming with you to your appointments and he wants to share this journey with you, it is amazing.   Let him in.  Bring him with you on this crazy ride you will be taking.  Trust me...he doesnt care about a number.  If he is there with you....its YOU he cares about.  At 5'3 and 350 pounds I think I was wider than I was tall.  And knowing the "number" didn't change one fact about where or who I was.  It's just the starting point.  I can honestly say I know how you feel....and one day you will look back and think...look how far I have come.  Good luck to you as you find the healthier you!

Amy