hello sorry long

Marsha F.
on 1/18/09 6:12 am

Hi everyone,

Thanks Angela for posting about my dad.  I am very sad to say My dad passed away saturday morning at 5:20am.  I took the boys up there thursday to see him we went up there friday and he signed papers for me for POA.. he told me where his money was and to get it.  I left him sat around noon went to my lawyers got things straightened out went to my dads my brothers car was there but he wouldn't answer the phone or the door so 4 hours after me and the police tried I called the police back and asked them beings I had POA if I could crawl through the window and open the door they said yes.  Well I was scared so I had the poor neighbor boy do it for me and my brother was hiding in the house in the dark.  The cops showed up and **** went down.  I took the safe with the money and papers and left.  I took the safe to a locksmith saturday afternoon before I had to return it back to my brother and needless to say there was NO money in it.  He had spent all of it.  I am glad I didn't have to tell my dad that.  So by the time I left breckenridge and got back to fargo it was late friday night and I figured I would go see dad sat morning and was hoping he wouldn't ask about his money.  Well sat at 5:30am the hospital called me and told me he passed.  I told the nurse to shut up and it wasn't nice to say that I went right to the hosptal with my dads girlfriend and I walked around the corner and his door was shut.  I started crying and opened it and it was just him and his bed no machines or anything he looked peaceful.  I tried to wake him I told him I was back and everything was okay and he wouldn't wake up.  I tried shaking him and he wouldn't wake up.........then I knew it was true........ I thnk he knew what my brother had done and din't want to deal with it and beings he was reassured I would take care of things he felt at peace.  I wondered if I would of left things alone and not had him sign papers for me would he still be here.  If I would of handled things differently would he still be here...... I know it wasn't me and it was just his time to go.......my brother on the other hand will not let me help plan the funeral and I am waiting for the funeral home to call me back with the details....... I am done with everyone there my dad died and so did everyone else.  Thank you so much for you love and support these last 3 months. 
Marsha

 
(deactivated member)
on 1/18/09 6:31 am - Winona, MN
Sorry to hear about your struggle there is nothin worse then family fighting (I don' know your story but I can't imagine how hard it is that at a time like this when family is what your suposed to depend on and be able to lean on and you can't cuz others will not act as a family) you are in my thoughts and prayers and PLEASE remember that it was nothing that you did that it was your fathers time to go and even if he hadn't have been sick and it was his time to go he would have. He is in a better place in no pain and he is smileing down on you and your family! Keep your head up your "family" is here for you! You are in my thoughts and prayers!
~Valerie~
lafoster
on 1/18/09 7:14 am - Rosemount, MN

marsha - so sorry to hear about your dad!  He is at peace - wishing that for you and your family. Hugs.

 

Diamond Girl
on 1/18/09 7:42 am - Ham Lake, MN
(((Marsha)))
So sorry for your loss, my thoughts & prayers are with you.

May you find comfort and peace in your days ahead. Hard not to question, but when it is a person's time, it is their time - we don't control that.

In peace.
        
Kristy A.
on 1/18/09 8:15 am - South Burbs, MN
Marsha- Wishing you much peace in the days ahead as you grieve your dad.

Kristy   (weight loss below does not include 16lbs lost during pre WLS diet)
START:  325                            Day of Surgery :309                          GOAL:  180


lindamomof3
on 1/18/09 8:38 am
Marsha, Sorry to hear about the passing of your dad. I am not sure of the whole situation, but I am thinking about you and praying for you.  If you need someone to talk with let me know, I am just a few minutes away!!    Linda
Lorri K.
on 1/18/09 9:29 am - Elk River, MN
So sorry for your loss Marsha. My prayers are with you.

Lorri
    

Darla S.
on 1/18/09 9:32 am - Maple Grove, MN

I'm sorry for the stresses you've had throughout all this.  I've shared my thoughts with you  - now, I pray for your peace and acceptance.  It'll come, honey.  Once you can truly let go of the drama and focus on your dad, and HIS peace, you'll be okay.


  Imperfect does not = unsuccessful

ltlkim9424
on 1/18/09 11:00 am - Lakeville, MN
Marsha,

I sam sorry to hear about your dad. All I can say is I took care of people for 8 years in nursing homes and private care and it was so hard to see people and families suffer. Know he is at peace now and in a better place. I will pray for you and your family to find your peace.
CheriLynn
on 1/18/09 11:04 am - Paynesville, MN
Hugs Hun, I am so sorry for all that is going on. 

 5'2" - High Weight=224 / Current=145My Goal= 130

Believe in Miracles... 

 

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