OT Anyone lonely??

This is way off topic, but does or has anyone felt lonely?  I mean, I am so lonely for male companionship, not in a sexual way though.  Does that make sense?  I have no boyfriend and have been divorced for several years.  I feel intimidated and embarrassed because of my weight, so there is no way I can approach someone.  Just wondering if anyone else has felt this.

YES!  I felt lonely even in my marriage because my weight came between us in a lot of different ways.  I am now about 8 months out and things are much better.  It's a weird thing, though, that when women pay attention to how I look now, I still feel bashful due, I suppose, to spending so many years being at least 100 lbs heavier than I am now. 

Anyway, I think you would be surprised at how many men prefer the company and companionship of women to that of men, regardless of their respective sizes.  If you go into social situations where physical relationships are expected to develop and what you want is simply social companionship, things will be much more awkward than if you choose social situations where conversation is the order of the day.  A mixed WLS support group might be a good place for you to become more comfortable in such a setting and you might meet some truly wonderful people.....men and women.

Good luck,

RP

I am right there with you and I feel lonley and I have tried to work through this I am ok with being single but I would just love a real male friend even my two best friends are guys but they both have moved away and its been tough so yes I feel it to and I can't wait till my weight is down and guys can see me for me and not just my weight. Hang in there it will work out!!
~Valerie~

It was always hard for me to get out and meet people at my highest weight... I always told myself that I just didn't know how to make friends (but I knew deep inside that I DID know because it junior high.. before my weight exploded, I was VERY social). Getting together with people from OH has REALLY helped. They are on the same wave length as me and understand what I am going through.

I am still very scared to date... simply because I can't imagine anyone wanting to be with me while I look like this. Probably irrational.. at any weight... but it's how the head is working (or NOT working) right now.

hi yes i do feel like that as well.i have been divorced for about 5 years now.i am single and have been for about that long.people/men look at me,but its because i am so big....i wish i could find a man just to be around at least and to be here for me during this process....so you are not alone....take care.