When did you decide.......
I was talking with a friend the other day and in our conversation she asked me when I had made a decision about something that had happened in my life several years ago...anyway my answer to her was it was the day that I said YES to myself. The day that I said that YES I am worth it and Yes my kids are worth it. I was willing to make any sacrifice and fight for what I knew I deserved. Once I had made that desision, I knew that I was going to be ok, because with the help of my loved ones and God on my side, I was going to be the person I was meant to be. I thank God everyday for being able to have the strength to say YES to myself and choose to live!
I ask you as a time of reflection and perhaps to maybe help someone else that may be struggling, When did you say YES to yourself? When did you deside that you mattered and that you are strong enough and who you are is enough?
This may be an Off Topic subject, but it really is not because in a way we all have been there for one reason or another. We all made the decsion to pursue WLS or we would not be on this board, so in a way we have said YES to our selves already, so I know you guys all get that statement.
Years ago, I was in an abusive relationship and had 2 small children. After years of being afraid of being alone and being afraid of raising 2 small kids on my own, I finally said YES to myself and Descided that my Kids and I deserved to be happy and safe. Even though it did not seem like it at the time, I was not going to improve my situtation until I said YES to myself and that I was worth it....
I just wanted to put this out there incase there is someone out there, lurking that may be struggling with this very same thing, and to hopefully give you some hope for a better day and that YES you are worth it, and YES you are loved and YES so are your children!!
CarolN
I ask you as a time of reflection and perhaps to maybe help someone else that may be struggling, When did you say YES to yourself? When did you deside that you mattered and that you are strong enough and who you are is enough?
This may be an Off Topic subject, but it really is not because in a way we all have been there for one reason or another. We all made the decsion to pursue WLS or we would not be on this board, so in a way we have said YES to our selves already, so I know you guys all get that statement.
Years ago, I was in an abusive relationship and had 2 small children. After years of being afraid of being alone and being afraid of raising 2 small kids on my own, I finally said YES to myself and Descided that my Kids and I deserved to be happy and safe. Even though it did not seem like it at the time, I was not going to improve my situtation until I said YES to myself and that I was worth it....
I just wanted to put this out there incase there is someone out there, lurking that may be struggling with this very same thing, and to hopefully give you some hope for a better day and that YES you are worth it, and YES you are loved and YES so are your children!!
CarolN
'Live Simply. Love Generously. Care Deeply. Speak Kindly. Leave the rest to God!
'The will of God will never take you where the Grace of God will not protect you.'
Carol,
What a touching thread........I'm so glad you said "Yes" to yourself.......You are such a wonderful friend and have come so far and have a wonderful caring hubby......I can't wait to see what the future holds for you.......All good......
I hope your thread will help someone out there that is in an abusive relationship...Anything is possible....People don't need to stay in a abusive relationship. There is all kinds of help out there for those that need it.....You really just got to WANT it, and like you said, say YES to yourself.......
Great thread.....And Thanks for sharing it with us......
Kelly
What a touching thread........I'm so glad you said "Yes" to yourself.......You are such a wonderful friend and have come so far and have a wonderful caring hubby......I can't wait to see what the future holds for you.......All good......
I hope your thread will help someone out there that is in an abusive relationship...Anything is possible....People don't need to stay in a abusive relationship. There is all kinds of help out there for those that need it.....You really just got to WANT it, and like you said, say YES to yourself.......
Great thread.....And Thanks for sharing it with us......Kelly
Thank You Kelly,
Yes, I have a wonderful Hubby and alot of great friends. I just felt compelled to reach out here. I think those hormones are kicking in again!!! LOL
Carol
Yes, I have a wonderful Hubby and alot of great friends. I just felt compelled to reach out here. I think those hormones are kicking in again!!! LOL
Carol
'Live Simply. Love Generously. Care Deeply. Speak Kindly. Leave the rest to God!
'The will of God will never take you where the Grace of God will not protect you.'
Carol:
I don't think this is off-topic at all. A little over a year ago, I said that ,YES, it was worth the surgery and post-op complications risk to improve my health. Between pre-surgery weight loss and post -surgery weight loss, I am down 150 lbs from where I was when I made that decision. This year I have decided that, YES, I want to finally accept myself as I am...something I have never done before and I will be 49 years old in a few months. As challenging as the physical part of the WLS journey has been, I actually expect the journey to self-acceptance to be harder because the outcome of that efffort is harder to measure, impossible for others to see directly, and could be a very tenuous thing given how much practice I have had wallowing in my own flaws for most of my life. Despite those obstacles, my WLS journey so far has given me some confidence that I can face my dragons of self-doubt and finally, finally, finally put them to rest.
RP
I don't think this is off-topic at all. A little over a year ago, I said that ,YES, it was worth the surgery and post-op complications risk to improve my health. Between pre-surgery weight loss and post -surgery weight loss, I am down 150 lbs from where I was when I made that decision. This year I have decided that, YES, I want to finally accept myself as I am...something I have never done before and I will be 49 years old in a few months. As challenging as the physical part of the WLS journey has been, I actually expect the journey to self-acceptance to be harder because the outcome of that efffort is harder to measure, impossible for others to see directly, and could be a very tenuous thing given how much practice I have had wallowing in my own flaws for most of my life. Despite those obstacles, my WLS journey so far has given me some confidence that I can face my dragons of self-doubt and finally, finally, finally put them to rest.
RP
Thanks for that insight, RP.... It is such a rewarding feeling to know that we can look in the mirror and like who we see!! It is hard to get to that point and it is even a bigger task to learn to look deeper than our own skin!!!
You have done a great job and I look forward to one day meeting you....
CarolN
You have done a great job and I look forward to one day meeting you....
CarolN
'Live Simply. Love Generously. Care Deeply. Speak Kindly. Leave the rest to God!
'The will of God will never take you where the Grace of God will not protect you.'
Imperfect does not = unsuccessful
Congrats to you Trish for saying YES!!! You are worth it and I can tell a very strong person. No matter what degree of abuse we have encountered, it is still abuse, whether physical or emotional still takes alot out of us and is demeaning. We all need to be able to stand up to abuse and make a decision for it not to be a part of our lives. We are worth it and deserve to be happy and safe and secure and feel good about ourselves.
I am so happy you said YES to your self and you are here with us today!!! Thanks for sharing!!
CarolN
I am so happy you said YES to your self and you are here with us today!!! Thanks for sharing!!
CarolN
'Live Simply. Love Generously. Care Deeply. Speak Kindly. Leave the rest to God!
'The will of God will never take you where the Grace of God will not protect you.'
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