When did you decide.......
Carol,
Another thought provoking post, lots of people doing lots of indepth thinking these days.
I said yes to myself about 10 years ago, when in an abusive relationship the man sliced open my right arm from hand to 1/2 way to elbow. Took about 30 stitches to close. Got rid of him, no idea where he is and really could care less, he has no power over me anymore!!!
Between that and my father starting any conversation we had, "How much do you weigh now?" I decided I would hang the phone up on him when he did that. It took about 2 years for him to get the message, but he finally did. Now he is proud of me, and when he slips and says the wrong thing due to Alzheimer's I remind myself to be happy for the time I have with him.
My best friend, my daughter Laurie, had the surgery in Mar 02 and as I saw her melt away and the changes in her Cystic Fibrosis and other health. I began to look into WLS. I am so glad I did. I had surgery June 05, will be 4 years out then. I now have a beautiful granddaughter known here as Princess Nemi that is 2 years and 4 months old. The absolute joy of my life. WLS has made it so I can keep up with her energy and not be as tired as I know I ould have been 120 lbs ago.
Even with being pretty sick
the first 6 months, I would do this surgery over again any day. I just wish I could get the lobotomy that would make it easier to not like chocolate, bread and pasta still... 
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My BF Marlin has been there every step of the way and I am not sure how much of that first 6 months I could have handled with out him. He as always believed that YES was the only choice for me. Thank You Love.
Yes, saying YES to ourselves is a really important thing to to, and reminding ourselves why we said YES is fantastic. Thank you for posting this.
Karen
Another thought provoking post, lots of people doing lots of indepth thinking these days.
I said yes to myself about 10 years ago, when in an abusive relationship the man sliced open my right arm from hand to 1/2 way to elbow. Took about 30 stitches to close. Got rid of him, no idea where he is and really could care less, he has no power over me anymore!!!
Between that and my father starting any conversation we had, "How much do you weigh now?" I decided I would hang the phone up on him when he did that. It took about 2 years for him to get the message, but he finally did. Now he is proud of me, and when he slips and says the wrong thing due to Alzheimer's I remind myself to be happy for the time I have with him.
My best friend, my daughter Laurie, had the surgery in Mar 02 and as I saw her melt away and the changes in her Cystic Fibrosis and other health. I began to look into WLS. I am so glad I did. I had surgery June 05, will be 4 years out then. I now have a beautiful granddaughter known here as Princess Nemi that is 2 years and 4 months old. The absolute joy of my life. WLS has made it so I can keep up with her energy and not be as tired as I know I ould have been 120 lbs ago.
Even with being pretty sick
the first 6 months, I would do this surgery over again any day. I just wish I could get the lobotomy that would make it easier to not like chocolate, bread and pasta still... .My BF Marlin has been there every step of the way and I am not sure how much of that first 6 months I could have handled with out him. He as always believed that YES was the only choice for me. Thank You Love.
Yes, saying YES to ourselves is a really important thing to to, and reminding ourselves why we said YES is fantastic. Thank you for posting this.
Karen
Well,,, geez mom u really know how to make a grown person cry lol.... Thank you, if it wasnt for you i wouldnt be here and neither would monkey.. It took alot of understanding from you when i first went threw surgery, and you didnt understand the constant puking and wished somedays i would just stop doing it cuz it would make you gag, and then when you had the surgery you completely understood where i was coming from.. and now here we all are all these years later.. I got out of saying YES a chance to live life better cuz my CF calmed down alot, and i also got my beautiful daughter Nemiosa Raema Kennedy, who is the center of my entire world.
I have to say thank you for being there since i started the project, back in 2002 it was easy to have the surgery, just meet with your regular dr and talk about it, and then go to one of the consoltation seminars that the surgen had and then right after the hour or so long talk each person talked to the surgeon n got there date scheduled... now you have to jump threw so many hoops to get anywhere with the surgery... I have faith in people that are strong enough to with stand all the pieces it takes to do WLS and i say to those who need it fight for what you want and say YES to yourself...
Thank you for putting this question out to everyone. it is a great topic...
Thanks to everyone that has been there for me and who has say kind and happy thoughts toward my family and all that we have been threw in the years..
Laurie, Jay n Princess Nemi
PS. mom you are a pain, you really know how to get into the bottom of someones heart. but without you i wouldnt be where i am today with Nemi and school and everything else. so TY for it all..... love you always
I have to say thank you for being there since i started the project, back in 2002 it was easy to have the surgery, just meet with your regular dr and talk about it, and then go to one of the consoltation seminars that the surgen had and then right after the hour or so long talk each person talked to the surgeon n got there date scheduled... now you have to jump threw so many hoops to get anywhere with the surgery... I have faith in people that are strong enough to with stand all the pieces it takes to do WLS and i say to those who need it fight for what you want and say YES to yourself...
Thank you for putting this question out to everyone. it is a great topic...
Thanks to everyone that has been there for me and who has say kind and happy thoughts toward my family and all that we have been threw in the years..
Laurie, Jay n Princess Nemi
PS. mom you are a pain, you really know how to get into the bottom of someones heart. but without you i wouldnt be where i am today with Nemi and school and everything else. so TY for it all..... love you always
Love you and nothing will ever change that. Thank you for giving me that beautiful Princess as a Granddaughter. I never dreamed of being a Grandma and what the joys of watching her grow from that very first sonogram to each time I see her now.
That is why I push you so hard to take care of your health, she needs the influence of the beautiful young woman that you are.
Mom
That is why I push you so hard to take care of your health, she needs the influence of the beautiful young woman that you are.
Mom
Great post Carol. Very thought provoking. I myself, thank God, have not been involved in an abusive relationship. But I see loved ones around me in them. It is heart breaking looking in and unable to do anything.
I said Yes to this band of mine. By saying yes, I have been able to believe in myself more and more each day. The weight lose is great but the health improvement and self confidence is priceless.
Lorri
Very good post.
For someone who hasn't had surgery yet, I've found that people on here are very inspiring and encouraging.
The first time I looked in to WLS I was talked out of it by my now ex bf. He told me that he didn't want me to do something so drastic and that it probably wouldn't work anyway. I wasn't allowed to do anything except go to work and then go home and sit with him, so I gained even more weight. Well, I came to find out who he really was after living with him for a while and putting up with his abuse. There are so many things that happened that I never shared with anyone, I didn't want people to feel sorry for me because of what I was going through with this relationship. So I just kept it all inside. Thankfully we had no kids so it was easy to just up and leave, but after dealing with someone like that, you really wonder if there is anyone out there who will love you for you and not run your life, bringing you down and be so abusive. This is the person I thought I was meant to spend my life with. I'm glad I made it out before we went any further than engagement. I still see him from time to time because I am good friends with his sister, and everytime I see him I either want to yell and scream at him, or everything that happened comes flooding back and I just want to hide. Being in a relationship like this can ruin a person, and I wish no one had to go through this.
I've been blessed with a wonderful husband who loves me and cares about me more than anything, and my happiness and well being are a high priority to him. I know I won't be going through this alone, and I'm sure all will go well, but I have to leave everything in God's hands. Everything that has happened so far hasn't been just my doing, if at any time this was not meant for me, it would have been stopped, just like it was before. I honestly think part of the reason it didn't work out before is because I didn't have someone there who was strong enough to help me through it all. People say things happen for a reason, and God is the master planner, He knows what's best for everyone and He is in control. I have never accepted myself for the way I was and I spent my life being miserable, with my mom, my sister and the few friends I had being the only ones there for me when I needed them. This time when I looked into WLS, everything seemed to be working out well and I was praying daily that this would work out for me this time, I wanted it more than anything. People don't realize how much being over weight holds a person back and for months after I got married, I thought that was what I was doing to my husband since I wasn't able to or scared to death to go out and do some of the things he wanted to do. I decided if this was not part of the plan in my life, God would put a stop to it again. Everything has happened so suddenly now, I'm so thankful that it's all working out. I know I'm rambling, but for someone who has been overweight all her life to finally say yes to something like this, that is like a second chance to life -- it's an awesome thing to have that kind of an opportunity. This will be a life changer for me and it won't just be me who benefits from it. I can't wait to be able to go out and do things with my husband and niece and nephew and do all those things I've always wanted to spend time doing.
For someone who hasn't had surgery yet, I've found that people on here are very inspiring and encouraging.
The first time I looked in to WLS I was talked out of it by my now ex bf. He told me that he didn't want me to do something so drastic and that it probably wouldn't work anyway. I wasn't allowed to do anything except go to work and then go home and sit with him, so I gained even more weight. Well, I came to find out who he really was after living with him for a while and putting up with his abuse. There are so many things that happened that I never shared with anyone, I didn't want people to feel sorry for me because of what I was going through with this relationship. So I just kept it all inside. Thankfully we had no kids so it was easy to just up and leave, but after dealing with someone like that, you really wonder if there is anyone out there who will love you for you and not run your life, bringing you down and be so abusive. This is the person I thought I was meant to spend my life with. I'm glad I made it out before we went any further than engagement. I still see him from time to time because I am good friends with his sister, and everytime I see him I either want to yell and scream at him, or everything that happened comes flooding back and I just want to hide. Being in a relationship like this can ruin a person, and I wish no one had to go through this.
I've been blessed with a wonderful husband who loves me and cares about me more than anything, and my happiness and well being are a high priority to him. I know I won't be going through this alone, and I'm sure all will go well, but I have to leave everything in God's hands. Everything that has happened so far hasn't been just my doing, if at any time this was not meant for me, it would have been stopped, just like it was before. I honestly think part of the reason it didn't work out before is because I didn't have someone there who was strong enough to help me through it all. People say things happen for a reason, and God is the master planner, He knows what's best for everyone and He is in control. I have never accepted myself for the way I was and I spent my life being miserable, with my mom, my sister and the few friends I had being the only ones there for me when I needed them. This time when I looked into WLS, everything seemed to be working out well and I was praying daily that this would work out for me this time, I wanted it more than anything. People don't realize how much being over weight holds a person back and for months after I got married, I thought that was what I was doing to my husband since I wasn't able to or scared to death to go out and do some of the things he wanted to do. I decided if this was not part of the plan in my life, God would put a stop to it again. Everything has happened so suddenly now, I'm so thankful that it's all working out. I know I'm rambling, but for someone who has been overweight all her life to finally say yes to something like this, that is like a second chance to life -- it's an awesome thing to have that kind of an opportunity. This will be a life changer for me and it won't just be me who benefits from it. I can't wait to be able to go out and do things with my husband and niece and nephew and do all those things I've always wanted to spend time doing.
2 1/2 years ago I had what I call a quarter life crisis. I got married at the age of 20 and to a gambling addict. I was the typical co-dependent person and by the time I was 27 I just couldn't take the gambling anymore and since I couldn't control him I started acting out in bad ways that just wasn't me. I sought help and from that day on I knew all I could do was change myself. I separated from my husband for about 6 months and it kind of woke him up (and me as well). We both got help for our issues and got back together. When we got back together that is when I finally made the decision to have surgery. He wasn't totally on board with it right away neither was my other family but I didn't care I knew this was the right decision for me. Soon I gained the support from them; some sooner than others but now they are happy with my results but most of all I am happy! It was the best decision I ever made. Now I'm so in love with my husband again and proud of all the work he's done and I know he feels the same about me. Its still is a daily struggle though and it always will be but I think we are now both stronger than ever. The best part is in about 6 months we get start trying for a baby and start the family we have wanted for the past 9 1/2 years.
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