Does anyone else ever feel like this?
I’m feeling kind of down lately about the way I look. I don’t know why but lately I just look in the mirror and can see all the negative things about my body. Especially my stomach with all that extra skin it pokes out no matter what kind of shape wear I have on and I just feel like I’m having those chubby days all over again. As I’m getting ready for a vacation that I’ll be taking in a week I’m trying on these shorts and capris and nothing looks right or feels right. Its like I’m in between sizes or something I feel most 14s are too small and a lot of 16 are too big. I’m like at that size on the edge of plus size and average size and nothing seems to fit right. Even though the scale doesn’t say I’m gaining weight I feel like I am. Sorry to be such a downer this morning just not feeling upbeat today and trying to figure out what I need to do to get out of this attitude I have about myself. I am happy with my weight loss and where I'm at but I think now that I'm not losing weight I don't get that validation I use to when I see the scale move or when I'd try on new clothes and they'd be way too big. I think what I need is to way to be ok with who I am and how I look without having to be validated by that darn scale.
Start 323 ~ Current 199 ~
Kathy, you are not alone. The downside is that you will probably never be satisfied...but that doesn't mean you cannot be happy. It takes a lot of effort to learn to love your body. We are our own greatest critic. We see our own flaws long before other people see them. Our tolerances for our own bodies are lower than anyone elses. I stuggle with self-esteem, but not nearly the way I did 200+ lbs ago.
You are at a level now where the wow moments are not as frequent or don't mean as much. But wow moments don't always have to be physical. A wow moment can happen when you simply move yourself toward feeling better about yourself. When you can see yourself without a thought about size, that's the BIGGEST wow moment. Some people have gotten there. I know I have a ways to go.
You are at a level now where the wow moments are not as frequent or don't mean as much. But wow moments don't always have to be physical. A wow moment can happen when you simply move yourself toward feeling better about yourself. When you can see yourself without a thought about size, that's the BIGGEST wow moment. Some people have gotten there. I know I have a ways to go.
Kathy...you have done a wonderful job with your weight loss. Don't be down on yourself.
Yes, it gets harder. Closer to goal you get and once you get to maintenance you don't get those constant highs anymore.
You will still be losing inches and a few more pounds as long as you follow your program. It is hard to be at in between sizes. Hang in there it will change.
Maybe you need to change up your exercise routine. It is nice out now...walk a little more if you can. Be sure you are getting in plenty of water too. Those pounds and inches will continue to fall off.
I am down about the way I look too. I just try not to dwell on it too much. I have plenty of loose skin...causes extra bulges and such. It is still far better then all the FAT!!
Hugs sweetie....connie d
Yes, it gets harder. Closer to goal you get and once you get to maintenance you don't get those constant highs anymore.
You will still be losing inches and a few more pounds as long as you follow your program. It is hard to be at in between sizes. Hang in there it will change.
Maybe you need to change up your exercise routine. It is nice out now...walk a little more if you can. Be sure you are getting in plenty of water too. Those pounds and inches will continue to fall off.
I am down about the way I look too. I just try not to dwell on it too much. I have plenty of loose skin...causes extra bulges and such. It is still far better then all the FAT!!
Hugs sweetie....connie d
Hang in there, Kathy!
I love what Paul has said so I won't duplicate...
But I have one thought. Do you still have an old pair of pants? If so, take them out & lay them on your bed or floor. Put the new one's on top & look at the difference! I bet it will put a smile on your face.
Or, take out the dreaded before pic & just remember HOW FAR you HAVE already came!!!
Chin up, girl!
I love what Paul has said so I won't duplicate...
But I have one thought. Do you still have an old pair of pants? If so, take them out & lay them on your bed or floor. Put the new one's on top & look at the difference! I bet it will put a smile on your face.
Or, take out the dreaded before pic & just remember HOW FAR you HAVE already came!!!
Chin up, girl!
Kathy, I totally get what you're saying. And apparently, you and I are at about the same size - my 16's are getting a bit baggy, yet I can't IMAGINE fitting into 14's! (Not unless aided by PS!) But I am a large person by nature. If I got to a BMI of 25, I'd STILL be a large woman! And I'm okay with that. Do I love my muffin top? HELL NO! But I'd rather have the muffin top I sport now, than the spare tire I carried around before! It's all about perspective.
And it's a rollercoaster ride, emotionally. You DO need to stay focused on how far you've come! Look at those before pictures - side-by-side with NOW pictures! (Mirrors are a joke. They lie to your face.) If you can bump up the exercise, do it! (are you listening to yourself, Darla Dee???)
You have made awesome progress just by showing up at MG coffee, and again at the Depot. KEEP COMING! These nut jobs will make you smile and feel good about yourself even if you don't WANT to!!! And it's a pretty well known fact that people who take advantage of support groups post-op are more successful in the long term. Give yourself that gift!
And it's a rollercoaster ride, emotionally. You DO need to stay focused on how far you've come! Look at those before pictures - side-by-side with NOW pictures! (Mirrors are a joke. They lie to your face.) If you can bump up the exercise, do it! (are you listening to yourself, Darla Dee???)
You have made awesome progress just by showing up at MG coffee, and again at the Depot. KEEP COMING! These nut jobs will make you smile and feel good about yourself even if you don't WANT to!!! And it's a pretty well known fact that people who take advantage of support groups post-op are more successful in the long term. Give yourself that gift!
Imperfect does not = unsuccessful
I hear you loud and clear, I just had this conversation outloud today. That Paul is a smart guy, believe him, I have to talk myself into it sometimes too, but when you sit back and really analize it, you done good girl! It was nice to meet you at Hopkins Coffee, hope to see you again soon
I know exactly what you mean. Sometimes I feel like I am delusional. People tell me I look good but all I see is the person I WAS. And when I do happen to see the person I am, I don't recognize her. Things are very....off. My mind can't catch up with reality and I still react like the really fat person I was. Hopefully some day, with a little effort every day, we will get our brains and reality to become ONE.
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