Very off topic

Hey everyone how are all of you?  First off have a Happy Easter!!!!  Now this is way off topic but I just need to vent or something..........   Lately I have been missing my dad like crazy I smell him at times and it seems so real.  I have talked to my grandma 4 times since and sometimes she is happy to hear from me and others she hates me......  I asked her if she would like me to come see her this weekend and she said don't break your neck over it.  I was once hurt again by that and called her back a hour later and asked what she meant by that.  It hurts so bad that she is treating me like that well after talking to her she thinks I killed  my dad she thinks I wanted his money and That I took him off his breathing machines......WTF old lady........  My dad had no money so once again Jr. is telling her crap.  Oh ya and he told her that now there is no money I am losing my house.  And of course she believes him.  OMG  hello.........  I talked to my dads girlfriend(my new mom) and she thinks we should go see her and confront her with all this and dummy too but he would just run away cuz he knows he would be caught.....  Sometimes when I ask gramms where she heard this from she says from laurie and she hasn't talked to gramms since the wake.  I know I should just let go but for gods sakes thats my Grandma and it hurts so bad....... I lost my dad I don't want to lose her too.   Can you believe anyone having such a jacked up life.   What a fricken soap opera........... Anyways dumb assssss didn't get flooded out  Now I am hoping for a tornado just at his place.....so pray with me people.............Well enough of that for now thanks for listening.  Does anyone else have such a jacked up family?????  Thanks guys.......

Marsha I love you!!!

My heart is breaking for you.

(((((HUGS)))))   connie d

Yes, for years I put up with a jacked up family and finally I had to let it go.  They needed to work out their own insecurities.  Instead of trying to fix the problem I just confronted them and said...you're hurting me...I can't help what you hear from someone else, I can't stop them from lieing about me or telling you false things about me.  If you have a problem with me...come to me.  I love you and will tell you the truth, whether it hurts you or not.  But I need to have peace in my life and I'd rather my life have your love and acceptance.  If you can't give it to me, than I need to let you and your anger go out of my life.  One brother left my life for a couple years, and that hurt, but I figured God would make it right eventually...and He did.

You have a family, concentrate on them, put your love and energy on them, not on the negativity from your brother.

My dad died 9 years ago this weekend, and I continue to miss him and mourn him everyday, but he's with me, I know it, I feel it.  I'm happy he's still watching over me.

I wish you peace in your life. 
Hugs and Have a very happy Easter,
Edi

(((Marsha)))

I feel for you.......There's really nothing you can do with what is told to your Grandma.....You can voice your side, and hope she listens......

Yes, I have a jacked up family.....I tried to make it work for the past 3 years.....With the help of my counselor I finally made the decision to say Goodbye.....Last summer I told My Mother, Father, brother Goodbye......I also ended up getting a restraining order on my Brother & Sisiter in law.......They got out of hand with their Mouths with threats......It's hard to go through life without family, but I'm better off......I'm mentally healthier.....

Good luck to you.......I hope you can move on and enjoy Easter with your family.....

Kelly

I feel for you right now.  I lost my dad 19 years ago next week and still have moments that I miss him a lot.   I think you need to do what Edi said and just tell your grandma how you feel about her and that you would like her in your life but if she is going to believe what others say and not what comes from you then maybe its best (even though hard) to move on and surround yourself with more positive people.   

WIsh I had great words of wisdom but just letting you know I am thinking of you!

You know I'm right there with you with missing your dad, only time has helped ease my pain a lot.  7 years ago, I'd cry at the slightest thought of him.  Today, I only smile at the memories.

As for your family?  I can only offer you my suggestion.  IF IT WAS ME, I'd write a letter to your grandma and tell her how you feel.  Share the REALITY of what happened with your dad, his money, and your brother.  It's up to her whether she chooses to believe you or your brother, but at least you will have given her something to think about.  Let her know how you feel about your relationship with her, and how you'd prefer it to be.  Write it, read it, edit it - take your time, work on it until it sounds just right.  THEN - you have to decide whether or not to send it.  Sometimes, just writing it all out can help a person.  Sometimes, sending it can hurt a relationship.  But sometimes, JUST SOMETIMES, sending it can make things better. 

Love you, Marsha Marsha Marsha.  You are beautiful inside and out, and you deserve better than you're getting.  Do what you can to feel better.

Marsha- I feel for you. It is hard to lose a parent. And it doesn't help that your family is so jacked up right now. You definately need to confront your Grandma. I like Darla's idea of a letter; but face to face needs to be done as well. Maybe you could start with a letter and see how that goes. Sometimes it's easier to get down ALL that you need to say when you put it in the written word. I wish you luck. And if you ever need to talk give me a call (612-267-3991).

Hugs,
Lori

Marsha:

You have received some very good advice here  to which I can add nothing.  Your Dad must have been a wonderful man to have left you with so much love in your heart and such sadness at his passing.  Even without such profound loss in my life, I have pulled away from negative people as I struggle to define the new me.  It has helped to do so.  You don't need to let the naysayers in your life drag you down either, even if they are family.  It is time for the new Marsha to shine.  I think your Dad would have wanted that for you.

RP