HOW DARE WE NOT BE THE SAME
Amy - don't be scared but be aware. I too haven't experienced these feelings much either, but I know they are real. This is a great topic of conversation for a board like this so I'm glad RP brought it up, although I don't wish this stuff on anyone.
I've been fortunate too to have a supportive family and spouse and we've grown into the new me and now it's the status quo after all this time.
This is just another bump or twist in this journey that we all have to figure out for ourselves....somehow.
Lori J.
It's better to be imperfectly happy than perfectly unhappy. 
Thanks you Rick. Sign my name to that post too. I am trying to figure out who the real me is every day and get over my horrible insecurities.
wow..sign my name to this post also.I can't even put into words how I feel about this issue. I have sat in this house doing nothing but cook, clean and do for everyone else for so long. That now when I want to have some space to go for a walk, window shop at the mall ( because I can actually walk around the mall and not get winded) or go out with girlfriends to a bar for a few hours ( wow--I don't feel like I'm squeezing in the booth anymore) I get dirty looks and and questioned on what's going on. I have ingnored my friends comments on how I need to do something for myself and not everyone else all the time.
Well..sorry to say, this is my time. People are going to have to deal with it. And perhaps my super negative about life in general, can't do anything but complain and b#tch spouse is beginning to worry about things.
Ugh..enough rattling on.
N
Natalie:
You are not rattling on. This inner transformation is a real ***** and getting through it to be able to survive and thrive as a thinner, more fulfilled person is every bit as important as shedding the weight. This is your time. Embrace it, even if it scares the crap out of you because the ripple effects of doing that wil make some people react badly. Your courage and hard work has earned you a better inner life.
RP
You are not rattling on. This inner transformation is a real ***** and getting through it to be able to survive and thrive as a thinner, more fulfilled person is every bit as important as shedding the weight. This is your time. Embrace it, even if it scares the crap out of you because the ripple effects of doing that wil make some people react badly. Your courage and hard work has earned you a better inner life.
RP
I just read this and want to write my response before I read any other ones. I have wanted to ask a question for so long but as I have said before I don't know how to put the words right.
The question I wanted to post is. How our lives change after the weight loss and things that come with the weight as far as self est em and all the rest of it putting up with stuff (unhealthy relationship's) etc. How does our partner or friends react and are they supportive with all that goes with it. I myself put up with very abusive relationship's, but did work on myself before I loss ed the weight. I ask myself would I have ever been with that person if I wasn't so overweight? Things do change with the weight loss no doubt. No matter how much I did weigh I still have the same out look as far as treating people how I want to be but now I expect that back for me. Sorry if I rambled and have to get to work but gosh this felt good to write this! Thanks RP.
Jan
The question I wanted to post is. How our lives change after the weight loss and things that come with the weight as far as self est em and all the rest of it putting up with stuff (unhealthy relationship's) etc. How does our partner or friends react and are they supportive with all that goes with it. I myself put up with very abusive relationship's, but did work on myself before I loss ed the weight. I ask myself would I have ever been with that person if I wasn't so overweight? Things do change with the weight loss no doubt. No matter how much I did weigh I still have the same out look as far as treating people how I want to be but now I expect that back for me. Sorry if I rambled and have to get to work but gosh this felt good to write this! Thanks RP.
Jan
Wow! RP, you have such a way with words! I, too, would like to sign my name to your post! I'm just sitting here shaking my head...I can't believe how many of us are going through this at the same time. And such a hard subject to talk about - I so much would like to discuss these feelings, these thoughts with others, but doesn't seem appropriate to do at coffee...and quite honestly, difficult to do face to face...I almost feel as though I am afraid. Oh, I could ramble on...I have so many of the same thoughts/feelings...and I just wonder if anyone else is thinking like this.
Thanks RP!
Hugs!
Thanks RP!
Hugs!
Teri 
Teri:
It is hard to talk about it. For me, anyway, the reason for that is that I have been afraid to let others see much of the inner me for fear that I would be found wanting or repugnant in the place I am most vulnerable. In the past couple of weeks I have let a couple of friends see a glimpse of that dark and mysterious place, fully expecting to have them run away in fright or disgust. They didn't and I can't tell you how relieved and grateful I am for their honest reactions. Suffice it to say that just thinking about it brings tears to my eyes. Anyhow, you are not alone by a long shot.
RP
It is hard to talk about it. For me, anyway, the reason for that is that I have been afraid to let others see much of the inner me for fear that I would be found wanting or repugnant in the place I am most vulnerable. In the past couple of weeks I have let a couple of friends see a glimpse of that dark and mysterious place, fully expecting to have them run away in fright or disgust. They didn't and I can't tell you how relieved and grateful I am for their honest reactions. Suffice it to say that just thinking about it brings tears to my eyes. Anyhow, you are not alone by a long shot.
RP
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