OT Heart is breaking

Kelly, honey, I get this so much more than you would believe...
Most of my friends are men, I think it stems from growing up with brothers, and then always working in male dominated fields.
It was never an issue with my DH until recently, and you know that whole story, or at least the highlights.

You need to do what is best for you, and obviously, what makes Marty happy, and protects your relationship with him, makes you happy. Ending a friendship is never easy, but sometimes, because of the extenuating cir****tances, we have to do such unpleasant things.
Just know that you have all the support a whole community here can offer you...
Love ya woman....

Betsy,

Thanks for being there for me today......We definitely will need to chat.....

Kelly

Hi Kelly
I don't have much input, just that God will help you through this.

Sending prayers your way.

((hugs))

Lorri,

Thanks for the prayers......I'm sure they will help....

Kelly

Kelly, my dear sister....
As one of your male friends I totally understand what is happening.  I want you to please understand something.  You and I are friends.  We will NEVER lose our friendship.  I will always be here for you as your big brother. 

If your marriage is as fragile as it sounds from this post, I will pray that you are able to resolve this soon because it is not worth a broken heart to be that restrictive.  I will humbly respect your new-found boundaries, but I cannot or will not cease being your friend.

Love ya,

P

Bravo Paul,
You brought tears to my eyes....You are a good person....

Carol

Paul my shrinking Brother,

Thanks......Yep, Carol said it.....Tears......

You're a great brother.......This whole male attention thing has taken it's toll.....Marty & I just need sometime to work it out......

Love ya back, Kelly

Hugs Kelly!

I'm sorry you are giong through this, but isn't it great to have the OH family here for support?

I agree with what others are saying. A marriage is more important than friendships, and you have to make compromises and sacrifices that allow both of you to be happy. Our spouses will be there for us no matter what, where as friends will come and go. Like many others, I also have a lot of male friends. This isn't a problem right now, but I know in the future it may be. As we change, things around us will change as well. That is just a part of the process. I know how hard it is to give up friends, but if I had to choose between my husband and our marriage or my friends, I would choose my husband.

Hope everything works out well for you and your husband. It's hard to give advice when it's something you're not or haven't yet gone through. I've been married less than 3 years so I'm not really an expert on the whole marriage thing yet. LOL

Jen,

Yep, I knew I could come here today and get support......I have a wondeful OH family.....

Thanks, Kelly

Thank you all....I knew I could count on you.....

Kelly