OT Heart is breaking

Hi everyone,

Not sure where to post something like this.....Not even sure if I should post something like this.....

This kinda goes along with my post yesterday........Of spouses needing some support and understanding us..........

I need to do something today that is going to KILL me inside to save my marriage.......

My hubby can't handle me having MALE friends.......We talked last night on the phone for 2 hours as he is gone on business.......The only thing that will save my marriage is to give them up.....To not talk on the phone or via e-amil with them.......

This is killing me......I've developed some wonderful friendships......But I have to put my marriage first.....He's comfortable with me talking at coffee with my male friends, but that's it.......

I sit here crying because this is going to be so hard..........I will need my OH family to get through this.......Maybe even a coffee outing.......Or something stronger.......

I just wish our spouses "Got it."

Kelly

Kelly,
I'm a Libra so I can see both sides of this - I totally understand your side and support you.  With 50% of marriages breaking up and all the people having affairs with contacts over the internet I can understand your husbands fears.  I would be leary if my husband was emailing and having long phone conversations with women even if I trusted him.  Friendships with the opposite sex can turn into more when they 'get' you and your spouse doesn't.  Maybe he needs time, he's had a lot thrown at him with the new you.  It's a big adjustment for everybody.
So sorry you're going through this.   Hugs,   S

Sandy,

Thanks for the support.......I agree, a lot has been thrown at him lately.....Me expressing my feelings on some subjects and now all the male attention, and a male relationship that he doesn't quite understand......I hope time will show him that I can have Male friendships, and that he has nothing to worry about, he's stuck with me.....22 years married he should know that.....:)

Kelly

Sorry you have to go through this.......It is because they are insecure!!!!  My hubby was the same way he was very jealous over T rex and There for I deleted him as my friend.  I put my marriage first.  Ya know I wonder if I was still big would that of mattered?  He notices now when men look at me or take a second look and then he sometimes gets weird.  Good lord I Love him and no one else.  No one would ever fill his shoes.  But I think If I were in his shoes I would be the same way scared he would find someone better,prettier, what not......... This is a very wild ride thats for sure.  You are such a beautiful person inside and out and I hope things work out for you............  Many Many hugs to you sweetie...........

Marsha,

Thank you.....Yep, This is a wild ride.....With mostly good.....But once in awhile there is a curveball.....

I'm so thankful for you all....

Kelly

Hi Kelly
 I'm here to listen or what ever you need. 
                  Take Care
                         Jan 

Jan,

Thanks.....I have your number......The balance is very hard.....

Kelly

Kelly,

I am sorry you and Marty are struggling with this issue.  The turmoil you feel is evident.  There must be other issues with security that need to be addressed. It' so hard to even come to a resolution that works for both of you.

I know you love your husband, why would he question your friendships?  I do understand, but then again when I think about it, it makes no sense?  Sorry I'm confused I know you must feel horrible.

Buffy

Buffy,

Thanks for your support......I guess Time.......I'm confused too......

Look out counselor here I come.......

Kelly

Kelly,
I'm so sorry you're having to deal with this.   I am about to turn a complete turn around on this situation.  I've been on the loser side of it with my husband worrying back in the beginning that I would leave for some other man once I lost the weight.   Now we're about to embark on my husband's own WLS and I do have a little fear of that in the back of my mind.   I do trust him and love him with all of my heart and sould but I wonder how I'll deal with this when it begins to happen.