TWO YEARS OUT? How the heck...

Darla S.
on 4/26/09 11:28 am, edited 4/27/09 12:24 am - Maple Grove, MN
I CAN HARDLY BELIEVE two years has passed!   When I was pre-op, and a "newbie" loser, I looked at others on this site who were even just 6 months ahead of me and wondered... "will I ever get there?" 

Tonight I sit here wondering - HOW THE HELL DID TWO YEARS PASS BY SO QUICKLY???

I'll tell you how.  The unspeakably precious friendships I've found as a result of this board, as a result of regularly attending PNC support group meetings and coffee get togethers.  It's true, time really DOES fly when you're having fun!  And having fun is EXACTLY what happens when I spend time with you all!  So if I'm going to offer any of you one snippet of unsolicited advice, it's to put yourself out there.  MEET people at coffees, support groups, or whatever random get-togethers you might read about here!  Yes, it's probably stepping WAY outside your comfort zone at first, we've all been hard wired to DETEST putting ourselves in social settings for fear of being the "invisible elephant" in the room.  NOW is the time to put that notion to rest, and REACH OUT!  You are BOUND to find some very special people who can help you along your journey!

So as I stare my two year "surgiversary" in the face, what about my life IS better? 

- My health, first and foremost.  The reason I did this, to up my chances of living a longer, BETTER life!  To be there for my kids, to be an active grandma someday!

- My wardrobe!  I'll NEVER be a "clothes horse", or even mildly fashionable.  But I can shop darn near anywhere I want, I've gone from a size 32 jeans 2 years ago, to a 16 today.  (Is 14 possible? MAYBE!  Will I bum out if this is it for me?  HELL NO!  I'm one heckuva happy camper!)

- I fit on/in anything I want to fit on/in!  I don't need to list anything here - whether you're pre-op or at goal, I know YOU all get what that means!

This is one heckuva hard ride, but SO VERY WORTH IT!  And I have come to realize that it's never going to be over, I'll have to take my supplements every day (so NOT a problem for me).  I have to work my tool every day.  I WILL make bad choices, and when I do, I WILL forgive myself, pick myself back up and get back in the proverbial saddle - FOR THE REST OF MY LIFE!

Am I at "goal"?  Nope.  To be honest, I don't even know what my goal is!  I was never given a number to shoot for, and as much as I wonder where I should expect to be, I appreciate NOT having some random number dangling in front of me.  Without that, I am encouraged to ALWAYS work my tool, as I did when I was newer to this WLS gig.  

Am I upset or ashamed that at 2 years out, I'm not "there" yet?  Nope.  WLS doesn't expire.  I've got the rest of my life to work for that.  I'll never be "done".

I will NEVER be comfortable with people calling me "skinny" or "thin". 

And butt bones are, quite literally, a pain in the ass!!!

Love you all 


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rickpete
on 4/26/09 12:36 pm, edited 4/26/09 12:40 pm - Elk River, MN
Darla:

Congratulations on reaching the two year mark and still inspiring the rest of us.  God, you are awesome!  Just sayin'  If you don't like "skinny" or " thin", how about "fabulous"?

RP
Darla S.
on 4/26/09 11:58 pm - Maple Grove, MN
I'll take that - it's so... subjective

You're pretty awesome - er, FABULOUS, yourself!!  


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Crafty1
on 4/26/09 1:27 pm - Twin Cities, MN
Congrats, Darla!  Time sure does fly, doesn't it?  I agree with you about putting yourself out there.  It felt awkward for me at first, but I've made some of the best friends from OH, group, PNC, and coffees (I need to attend more of these). 

I never got a number to shoot for, either, so that does encourage me to keep working at it.  I'm trying to lose what I've gained after being on Prednisone for over two years.  I looked at a pic of myself taken on "Big Pants Night" at PNC last year and I have such a puffy face from it!  That's gone now...whew! 

I don't know if my brain will ever catch up.  I still look around when someone calls me skinny or thing, or says "Don't lose any more."  Heck, if my body wants to lose it, I'm lettin' it go! 

I just realized when reading your post that my 4-year surgiversary was yesterday.  That time really does fly, and yes, I've had some fun during those four years, too!

Nancy  

Darla S.
on 4/27/09 12:15 am, edited 4/27/09 12:15 am - Maple Grove, MN
CONGRATS ON 4 YEARS, NANCY!!!  Will I ever get there???


  Imperfect does not = unsuccessful

Crafty1
on 4/27/09 9:08 am - Twin Cities, MN
Thanks!  And YES, you will get there! 

Nancy  

Kiba0003
on 4/26/09 4:21 pm - Corcoran, MN
Well, well, well... as I near my one year, you are almost at your two-year! You have been an amazing inspiration to me... and have helped me remember who I am! Without you and your bright personality, I wouldn't have woken up my bright personality... seriously! I was so shushed by my fat self.... and now, thanks to you and the rest of the group... I am moving toward an absolutely NEW and amazing life! You have done so well with your tool... keep on rockin' it!

2019: 11 years out and maintaining a loss of 150lbs.

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www.morethanmyweight.com

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Darla S.
on 4/27/09 12:18 am - Maple Grove, MN
I intend to - THANK YOU!!!


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Jackie A.
on 4/26/09 4:30 pm - Duluth, MN
Darla S.
on 4/27/09 12:19 am - Maple Grove, MN

Gosh - I HOPE you are talking about cushioned chairs!!!  If you're leaving dents in wood or metal, YOU'VE GOT ISSUES!!


  Imperfect does not = unsuccessful

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