OT: A Lost Soul

My MIL had a stroke not quite two weeks ago.  She spent 4 days in the hospital and a week in a rehabilitation center.  She was dismissed from the rehab center because she wouldn't cooperate with any kind of rehab work.  She has been at home with us since Friday night.  Whatever made her who she was evaporated with the stroke.  She recognizes people, but she spends day and night calling out every 30 seconds to whatever name comes into her mind to do things for her.  She does sleep, but at odd times and not for very long.  I have been trying to help my poor wife with her, but it just isn't enough.  We are going to have to find her a place in a nursing home this week.  She is such a lost soul.

RP

How sad.  You all have my prayers for a peaceful solution for all.

Rick, this is the first time I've every reply-ed to one of your postings.  After reading this last one I have to reply and say that you are a very very good writer and a intuitive guy.  I think you have a soft side and it comes across when you write about your wife, MIL and family.  Your wife is lucky to have a partner who is this caring about her mother.  Your family is in good hands with your strong decisions and gentle way. Continue posting, you're incite is shared by many.

Nancy

That's so hard, Rick...  I hope Shirley is at peace with what you need to do, I know how difficult it is.  As much as it fits in the great scheme of things, it's NOT FUN to have to assume the role of decision maker / caretaker of our parents. 

You both continue to be in my prayers...

I'm so sorry to hear this RP.

Good thoughts and prayers for strength, peace and understanding...

I am so sorry RP,  My thoughts and prayers are with you, your wife, and your MIL.  May God Bless You All...........

RP,

My thoughts and prayers are with you & your family.......I know this is hard, I've been there.....Hope all goes well.....

Kelly

Our thoughts and prayers are with you and your family Rick. I know how hard it is to put a loved one in the nursing home. It is the best thing for her and your family you can't continue doing home care you would be worn out both physically and emotionally before long . Hang in there.

My prayers are with you and your family. I know how hard it is at this time as we just went thru this with my MIL. Be strong and you will get thru this and remember, your wife needs you more than ever right now. When you do find a nursing home for her, that transition will be equally hard on your wife. Seeing your own mother in this state is so hard! Somedays you are just going to be strong for the both of you.

CarolN