Melancholy: Table For One
Alright people! We need to take some action.
Let's put some of these things in perspective.
A - we are NOT in control. Whether or not you believe in a higher power or not - ALL of our futures are uncertain. Have a sit down open out loud talk with yourselves. Yes it is okay to FEEL the sadness the uncertainty brings but also when FEELING all of these - remember to TRUST that there is a path that we will be led to to take. Nothing is by mistake in my opinion. I have trouble trusting that things will work out for the good in many situations and it's something I struggle with but on a glorious day like today lets pull ourselves up by our boot straps. There is a driver in our lives and whomever that driver is for you - whether it be God, Jehovah, or the universe there is a plan.
B - when things seem at there absolute worse there will be others who have it worse than you. Marriages - sure we all have stress, trouble, etc. right now someone is being threatened, beat or abused. Right this very instant. There is a man/woman cheating on their sig. other. Money woe's. Right this very instant there is a person sitting at a casino with a compulsive addiction who's partner is at work trying to make ends meet and with every bet/pull of the slot machine the partner needs to pick up more hours at their part time job to make up for it yet they can't stop.
Right now there is an elderly person sitting in a nursing home rocking back and forth talking to themselves counting floor tiles. This person hasn't had a visitor in years and they are LOCKED in their own mind and the only comfort is that they will meet their maker some day.
C - Right now there are people being laid off from jobs they've been on for 30 years. They know nothing else, their 401k plan is gone when the market went to **** and they are 64 years old. Their retirement is gone, their plans for the future are gone.
D - right now a wife of a service man who is 7 months pregnant just found out her husband was killed in this line of duty. She's been on bed rest and can't work. Her future is uncertain.
What I'm saying to this Melancholy thread is this - do not wallow in the fear of the uncertain future. But revel in the fact that their is one. Rick - your mother-in-law is not lost but in fact will be found here shortly. What a beautiful life she has had with all of those people that love her. You and your wife have a special place in Heaven as well as all of the people who have rallied around this woman whom you love. See past her illness - she's still there she's just on her way home so celebrate this. I don't say don't be sad - I have to work at expressing my sadness I truly do. But we are not sad because she gets to go to paradise we are sad because what we have known and who we have known will be gone. It is a change and for that we mourn.
A job does not define who we are. A move might be something that we may have to do to find the income to sustain our families. The move might not work and it might work and we mourn because we are uncertain about the change. Maybe we should celebrate the change embrace it as it may mean something even bigger in our lives is about to happen and a new path be taken. We might find happiness is a unfamiliar place. And if we don't - what was lost? We can go back to the comfort of the known until the next change comes.
We are all dying, we are all changing and nothing ever stays the same. Let's celebrate the short time we have on this earth and embrace the change as a new direction.
There is my pep talk for the day! Now when I have an issue and I post you must do the same for me - k!
I pray for my OH friends every night and the list keeps getting longer - I pray that you may embrace in the changes that are happening in your lives - they are happening in mine too. I pray that we can have a positive attitude going into these changes as positive attitudes will bring positive results and negativity breeds on itself!
I will join this table not because misery needs company but to come in and chase that misery right out the door!
Love you all!
Sal
Let's put some of these things in perspective.
A - we are NOT in control. Whether or not you believe in a higher power or not - ALL of our futures are uncertain. Have a sit down open out loud talk with yourselves. Yes it is okay to FEEL the sadness the uncertainty brings but also when FEELING all of these - remember to TRUST that there is a path that we will be led to to take. Nothing is by mistake in my opinion. I have trouble trusting that things will work out for the good in many situations and it's something I struggle with but on a glorious day like today lets pull ourselves up by our boot straps. There is a driver in our lives and whomever that driver is for you - whether it be God, Jehovah, or the universe there is a plan.
B - when things seem at there absolute worse there will be others who have it worse than you. Marriages - sure we all have stress, trouble, etc. right now someone is being threatened, beat or abused. Right this very instant. There is a man/woman cheating on their sig. other. Money woe's. Right this very instant there is a person sitting at a casino with a compulsive addiction who's partner is at work trying to make ends meet and with every bet/pull of the slot machine the partner needs to pick up more hours at their part time job to make up for it yet they can't stop.
Right now there is an elderly person sitting in a nursing home rocking back and forth talking to themselves counting floor tiles. This person hasn't had a visitor in years and they are LOCKED in their own mind and the only comfort is that they will meet their maker some day.
C - Right now there are people being laid off from jobs they've been on for 30 years. They know nothing else, their 401k plan is gone when the market went to **** and they are 64 years old. Their retirement is gone, their plans for the future are gone.
D - right now a wife of a service man who is 7 months pregnant just found out her husband was killed in this line of duty. She's been on bed rest and can't work. Her future is uncertain.
What I'm saying to this Melancholy thread is this - do not wallow in the fear of the uncertain future. But revel in the fact that their is one. Rick - your mother-in-law is not lost but in fact will be found here shortly. What a beautiful life she has had with all of those people that love her. You and your wife have a special place in Heaven as well as all of the people who have rallied around this woman whom you love. See past her illness - she's still there she's just on her way home so celebrate this. I don't say don't be sad - I have to work at expressing my sadness I truly do. But we are not sad because she gets to go to paradise we are sad because what we have known and who we have known will be gone. It is a change and for that we mourn.
A job does not define who we are. A move might be something that we may have to do to find the income to sustain our families. The move might not work and it might work and we mourn because we are uncertain about the change. Maybe we should celebrate the change embrace it as it may mean something even bigger in our lives is about to happen and a new path be taken. We might find happiness is a unfamiliar place. And if we don't - what was lost? We can go back to the comfort of the known until the next change comes.
We are all dying, we are all changing and nothing ever stays the same. Let's celebrate the short time we have on this earth and embrace the change as a new direction.
There is my pep talk for the day! Now when I have an issue and I post you must do the same for me - k!
I pray for my OH friends every night and the list keeps getting longer - I pray that you may embrace in the changes that are happening in your lives - they are happening in mine too. I pray that we can have a positive attitude going into these changes as positive attitudes will bring positive results and negativity breeds on itself!
I will join this table not because misery needs company but to come in and chase that misery right out the door!
Love you all!
Sal
It breaks my heart all the stress you've endured lately. I wish I could say or do something and make it all better, but I can't. Instead, would you consider yourself bear hugged for a full five minutes? Ready, set, now.....
Soothing prayers to you and your family.
Edi
Soothing prayers to you and your family.
Edi
Highest: 349
Lowest: 175
Surgeon's Goal: 189
My Goal: A healtier happier me!!
2014 update...regained but haven't lost faith.
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