Is this worth it??

I have never been so mad, my mom has now asked me 3 times since surgery if this has been worth it!! I told her most definetely so, I have lost 45#, I'm off BP meds, my back feels much better and I hope before summer ends to be off my CPAP. She just doesn't understand how I can still say that even w/ the issues I have had the last 3 weeks. I also told her it is an unfair question being only 6 weeks out and even in a year from now it would be unfair, if I was going to sit around regretting my decision I am going to have a miserable life, so my brain is not at any point going to go there!! I told my parents  a week before surgery about my surgery, I almost didn't tell them, but decided that they would be a good support system, well I guess if I have to defend myself each time I talk to her than I can't expect them to be supportive!! Sorry this is so long I just needed to vent!!!!!

It's okay, my dear-vent away.  It is hard for your mom to imagine the changes that have and will happen because of this surgery, despite the rough start you have had.  She has to deal with being scared that she could lose you from the surgery/complications....unfortunately she doesn't probably realize that the weight was going to cause many more complications WITHOUT the surgery.  As you get better and farther out, she will start to see how worth it all of this is, as will you.
So glad you are on the mend-give your mom some space and don't fret!  No matter what the outcome, we can choose to be miserable or happy.
hugs to you-
lynn

I think it's great you're happy with your choice, even with all that you've dealt with the past few weeks. Just think how great you'll feel in a few more weeks.  My guess is that your mom was very worried about your health and while you're over it, she isn't.  I bet in a few weeks, once she sees you're doing well and have recovered fully, she'll knock it off.  I hope she does anyway.  Good for you getting off your BP meds, losing 45# and getting relief from your back pain. You're doing awesome!

I agree with what the others have said.  It's your choice.  You did this for you and your health.  Losing 45 lbs. in six weeks is great!  And getting off BP meds is a big plus, too.  They took me off of 2 of mine in the hospital and I got off the third by the end of the year.

I didn't tell my parents.  In fact, they still don't know (you'd have to understand them).  I didn't want anyone discouraging me or telling me horror stories, and Mom can't keep secrets, either.  She'd blab to anyone and everyone.  And I've never been comfortable talking to either one of them about anything important.

I know this is something I needed to do for myself and decided that anyone who didn't agree wouldn't be supportive to me, anyway.  I've gotten much more support from people on OH and at coffee groups and such.  Feel free to come and vent away!

I can completely relate to your post. My mom was worried from the get-go. Always trying to find another way other than surgery. As time got closer to surgery she was more supportive about it. Then I had surgery and had complications. Then it was the I told you so... I knew something bad would happen. All that stuff. But, I think that my mom would agree with me today that it was the best thing. As a mom she was worried and her fears came from a place of love. Eventually she will begin to see how life has changed for you!! 

this is a great place to vent as we get it. So vent away.
Best wishes

It's frustrating when you want support from the people that are most important to you.  And they don't measure up to what you need at the time.  You've made an important decision without them and I'm sure they are skeptical.  But time will show them that you've done what is right for you.  Congratulations on your losses and getting through your obstacles.  You're on your way!!

Vent away!!  My sister is much the same as your mom - not supportive at all.  I've decided I am not going to go out of my way to talk to her about this, in fact, I haven't talked to her at all much, lately.  I'm sure there's something else going on that I dont know about.  Anywhoo - You know in your heart that this was the right decision to make for you and your family.  Please try not to let her get to you.  Everytime she asks, just say yes and move on to something else. You can do it - you've done a great job so far!  Hang in there!

Oh my! I was SO meant to come on here tonight! I'm new here! I've been poking around for awhile, but just posted for the first time yesterday.

I'm so glad to know that my mother is not the only one still trying to suggest other alternatives...for God's sake, she mailed me a bogus ad from a magazine about some pill to swallow and it blows up 200x its size in your stomach.....blah.. blah.. blah....I know she's concerned and probably scared for me since she is my mother, but tonight I'm SO down because I feel she doesn't have confidence in me to be successful. I am really missing my dad (who died over a year ago) because I know he would be so supportive and understanding. My sister is lukewarm and my brother hasn't said a wrod. Everybody but my family has been very supportive - I thought they would be more....

I should have a surgery date set soon - it will be sometime in June. I'm so glad to have found a group of fellow-Minnesotans here. I will be looking for continued support and advice here. Can I count on y'all????

You're even going to FVSD!!! That's so cool!! I have found great suppport here, at times more than the support I get in person around home, (not my immediate family) but others!! Hang in there your time will go fast and you will be on the loser side!!!!

As a pre-op or a "newbie", it's fairly easy to feel a bit wary or skeptical when people express their concerns or worries.  You're still uncertain yourself!

But the further out you get, the more your quality of life improves as a direct result of your WLS.  You will take those questions and comments with a smile, knowing in your heart that you did the right thing, and you'd do it again in a heartbeat.

Just know.  It makes those questions and comments much easier to deal with - even 2 years out.