Frustrated!

Since I've lost 140 lbs I've had more comments made about when "my baby is due" then ever.  It is really getting to my self esteem.  

Saturday night I put on some grubby clothes to run to Rainbow to get a couple things and the clerk who checked my groceries out asked me if this was my 1st Mother's day.  I was very confused looking at my groceries to see if what I bought maybe tipped her off to possibly having kids.  I told her I didn't have any kids.   Then she proceeded to say "well even if your baby isn't born yet it still can be considered mothers day"  Then she asked me when I was due.  I was shocked by this I just blurted out I'm not pregnant and got teary eyed.  She got really embarassed and I stormed out of the store as fast as I could. 

When I was 300+ lbs I never got these comments and now that I've lost weight this is like the 3rd time I've experienced this. 

you cannot, nor will you ever be able to fix stupid.  Hang around your OH friends.  We get it.  BTW, I seriously find that you look incredible.

Kathy:

I have seen you in person at the MG coffee gatherings and you don't look pregnant, you don't walk like you are pregnant and you don't act like you are pregnant.  In fact, I think you look like a normal weight person.  Perhaps it is your age, the time of the year or your gentle personality that would cause someone to suppose that you are pregnant.  Try not to let it bother you.  The opinions of strangers and idiots simply don't matter at all.

RP

Well it's easy for me to say this after reading your post, but next time - try to call out your inner *****  (I LOVE mine!)  Look at such a person and say - "You should really learn to keep your mouth shut.  I'm not pregnant.  Feel stupid now?"

You might also consider calling the store and sharing your story with the manager.  They should train their employees to refrain from such attempts at highly personal conversation.  It's one thing to be nice and warm, it's quite another to step over the line with a complete stranger.

Seriously.  Let that inner ***** see the light of day.  She'll help lessen the sting of such blatant stupidity.

Darla, I love that you embrace your inner *****!

You can't fix stupid so just ignore it! If it makes you feel any better (which maybe it won't)... almost all of us have had that happen to them before! It doesn't matter how fat or thin.... someone will be dense and say it. You definitely do NOT look prego.

Awe I'm sorry honey that sucks! People really need to keep their mouths shut! Here is a big cyber (((((((((((HUG)))))))))) for you! Keep your chin up you look great! I had some things like this happen and now am a big fan of body shapers.

Thanks everyone!!!  I won't let someone's stupid comments bring me down. 

What a doofus!  Was she young?  I think most women know not to dare ask someone or talk to someone about being pregnant unless you KNOW they are.  I've only seen you once, at the Depot, and no way did you look pregnant to me.  I like Darla's idea of contacting the store manager.

I read your post yesterday and have been thinking about it ever since.  First, I'm so sorry you were hurt!  It just seems worse and more hurtful when you're doing so well after surgery and then someone says something like that!  Like so many of us, I've been overweight almost my entire life.  I had about one year in my mid-20's when I was relatively slim.  I was at a restaurant wearing a tshirt and leggings, and someone asked when I was "due"!  I was so taken aback that I wasn't even hurt - I think in part because I knew how heavy I was usually, and the ONE time in my life I was relatively smaller, someone asked if I was pregnant!  People are just unthinking a lot of the time, and unfortunately that can hurt  us so much.  I think your response was perfect - because it was your honest response.  You teared up, showing you were hurt, and you got out of there.  So this person knew she hurt you, which is good.  She needs to learn this lesson, and I would guess or hope that she feels badly about it.  If she doesn't learn her lesson or feel badly about it, it's her problem, not yours.  I think you were right to be transparent in how you felt, and hopefully that will help others to think before they speak.  I'm just sorry that you had to get hurt.