Depression (long)
Rick...sorry to read about your struggles. I can relate completely. My depression is worse right now then it has been in many, many years.
I agree.....check out other medications....I have learned that having lost so much weight my meds didn't work like they once did. Keep trying and don't give up!!
Hugs....connie d
I agree.....check out other medications....I have learned that having lost so much weight my meds didn't work like they once did. Keep trying and don't give up!!
Hugs....connie d
Rick,
What you said in your post reminds me of what my husband has been saying. He tells me how unhappy he is at his job. However he does get a lot of pride in his job. But its very stressful job that requires him to work 2am to 2pm and only gets Wednesdays and Sundays off so he never has a weekend or even two days off in a row. He is always in bed by 7pm. I don't like his job much either but I kind of ignore what he's telling me about how unhappy he is. I think I need to listen to him more. I am scared of the instability of what a new job would mean for him.
Do you have ideas of what kind of career you'd like to persue? My husband says he has no idea so I think that is what scares me. Yet I know we want to start a family and I just don't want him stuck at a job he is unhappy with.
With all these unknowns in our lives its no wonder we get depressed and frustrated and even stuck. I think its good you are very aware of your situation and have put thought in how you manage your depression.
What you said in your post reminds me of what my husband has been saying. He tells me how unhappy he is at his job. However he does get a lot of pride in his job. But its very stressful job that requires him to work 2am to 2pm and only gets Wednesdays and Sundays off so he never has a weekend or even two days off in a row. He is always in bed by 7pm. I don't like his job much either but I kind of ignore what he's telling me about how unhappy he is. I think I need to listen to him more. I am scared of the instability of what a new job would mean for him.
Do you have ideas of what kind of career you'd like to persue? My husband says he has no idea so I think that is what scares me. Yet I know we want to start a family and I just don't want him stuck at a job he is unhappy with.
With all these unknowns in our lives its no wonder we get depressed and frustrated and even stuck. I think its good you are very aware of your situation and have put thought in how you manage your depression.
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Kathy:
If your husband is able to verbalize his unhappiness with his job, he might be more unhappy with it than he has let on so far. People also act out sometimes when they can't find any other relief from the stress they are under. His job sounds terribly stressful from both a schedule and down time perspective, too. You might try to probe a little deeper about why he is so unhappy with it. Many men can't force themselves to leave jobs that are bad for them emotionally because their self-esteem is wrapped up in being able to handle anything that work throws at them.......I speak from painful personal experience in that regard.
Starting a family is a scary proposition, but the consequences of living with unresolved distress from a job that is unmanageable could be even scarier in the long run as physical and mental health issues take their toll over time. So, talk with him, let him know that his happiness is more important to you than a particular level of income. Besides, I would think that he might still like the line of work he is in with a different, less overwhelming schedule.
I want to wish you good luck in finding a balance between income stability and job satisfaction that works for both of you. Having met you, I think you would make a terrific Mom. Since your husband had the good sense to pick you, he would probably make a great Dad, too.
Take care,
RP
If your husband is able to verbalize his unhappiness with his job, he might be more unhappy with it than he has let on so far. People also act out sometimes when they can't find any other relief from the stress they are under. His job sounds terribly stressful from both a schedule and down time perspective, too. You might try to probe a little deeper about why he is so unhappy with it. Many men can't force themselves to leave jobs that are bad for them emotionally because their self-esteem is wrapped up in being able to handle anything that work throws at them.......I speak from painful personal experience in that regard.
Starting a family is a scary proposition, but the consequences of living with unresolved distress from a job that is unmanageable could be even scarier in the long run as physical and mental health issues take their toll over time. So, talk with him, let him know that his happiness is more important to you than a particular level of income. Besides, I would think that he might still like the line of work he is in with a different, less overwhelming schedule.
I want to wish you good luck in finding a balance between income stability and job satisfaction that works for both of you. Having met you, I think you would make a terrific Mom. Since your husband had the good sense to pick you, he would probably make a great Dad, too.
Take care,
RP
Hey RP - glad to see you post.
I, too, thought the same as Elena - you are very aware of what's going on emotionally and physically and that is putting you ahead of the curve here. I deal with depression as well, and am very aware of the signs & symptoms within my own brain & body. Because of that awareness, I don't suffer for as long as I used to or sink into that black hole, which is a huge relief in and of itself. I know you'll understand that.
As for the meds, when I was in the "funks", the meds are the only thing that helped the cobwebs clear. I have always been told by my PCP that depression meds need to be re-evaluated every 3 - 6 months. If they are not effective, the dosage needs to be changed or the Rx. Not saying the meds are ALWAYS the answer, but just keep an open mind to knowing that once you're back on a Rx, the dosage or type may need to change. I've also always been told to stay on them for one year minimum and then re-evaluate the depression and cut back the med(s) slowly.
The job? I hear you! I hated being employed for monetary reasons. I would wake up just dreading going in because it wasn't a healthy environment for me. When I was laid off last winter, and since being home - I know try to seek out jobs that are going to bring purpose and meaning to my life. Thus, the self-employment. I love being my own boss!! I pray you find a suitable replacement. I imagine that if you're the primary income earner in the house, a decrease in salary may be a hard pill to swallow, but keep in mind that if you were to become unemployed, your family would have to make the adjustment as well and in these economic times - it's not too far from reality.
Lean on those you trust most because everybody needs to lean at times.
Peace out.
I, too, thought the same as Elena - you are very aware of what's going on emotionally and physically and that is putting you ahead of the curve here. I deal with depression as well, and am very aware of the signs & symptoms within my own brain & body. Because of that awareness, I don't suffer for as long as I used to or sink into that black hole, which is a huge relief in and of itself. I know you'll understand that.
As for the meds, when I was in the "funks", the meds are the only thing that helped the cobwebs clear. I have always been told by my PCP that depression meds need to be re-evaluated every 3 - 6 months. If they are not effective, the dosage needs to be changed or the Rx. Not saying the meds are ALWAYS the answer, but just keep an open mind to knowing that once you're back on a Rx, the dosage or type may need to change. I've also always been told to stay on them for one year minimum and then re-evaluate the depression and cut back the med(s) slowly.
The job? I hear you! I hated being employed for monetary reasons. I would wake up just dreading going in because it wasn't a healthy environment for me. When I was laid off last winter, and since being home - I know try to seek out jobs that are going to bring purpose and meaning to my life. Thus, the self-employment. I love being my own boss!! I pray you find a suitable replacement. I imagine that if you're the primary income earner in the house, a decrease in salary may be a hard pill to swallow, but keep in mind that if you were to become unemployed, your family would have to make the adjustment as well and in these economic times - it's not too far from reality.
Lean on those you trust most because everybody needs to lean at times.
Peace out.
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