Kathy, My heart goes out to you. Bless your Father's life by being there and loving him. It might be wise to tell him that you can and will let him go when his "time" comes. I say that because my Mom refused to accept that her mom's time had come and she suffered miserably for several weeks till my mom could let go. Also my 44 year old wife was very sick and told me she could not go on and i gave her a blessing releasing her to go on and she did in less than 12 hours. I will keep you on my thoughts and prayers. Gordon

Hi, Sounds like a visit to the doctor is order to be sure she has no health problems. Let the Doc explain the dangers of a lifestyle of indulgence. I am afraid to tell you that as the Mom nothing you say or do will make any difference cause you aren't cool and don't know anything. (She'll grow out of this thinking in 10 years or so) A teacher or someone she admires from church may be able to get through and save her some heart-break. If all of these fail, get a consult with LDS social services for some counciling. I agree sometimes we have to let them fail and suffer the consequences but this behavior will affect for the rest of her life and possibly eternity. Be proactive, this is a very serious situation. Save her Mom!! Gordon 6 kids, 3 daughters ages 30,26,20

Boy, that's a tough one. How did you react when she told you she'd just get fat and take the easy way out? I could go off on a tangent on that one!! Sometimes people just have to learn for themselves. Free-agency, choice and accountability . . . it's such an aweful pill to swallow. Especially when we have to see it happen to someone we love. Boy, that's a tough one. How did you react when she told you she'd just get fat and take the easy way out? I could go off on a tangent on that one!! Sometimes people just have to learn for themselves. Free-agency, choice and accountability . . . it's such an awful pill to swallow. Especially when we have to see it happen to someone we love. Try to set a good example and encourage her without being negative. Maybe you could have fruit washed and sliced up in the fridge or veggies or something so that when she opens the fridge she sees the good stuff first. Also, if you can get rid of all the bad stuff that will save you and her lot of heartache. Have a snack when she comes home from school and go for a walk with her. Maybe you could talk to the school councilor, too. They might be able to help out somehow. Also, if she's buying candy and stuff with her lunch money, start packing her a lunch. Maybe you could pack a few extra food items. That way if she gets hungry she can snack on those things. You'll have a little more control that way. I guess it all comes down to positive reinforcement and taking control (as inconspicuously as possible). I agree with Alfie. She needs to be educated about what will happen if she doesn't take care of herself and how to keep herself healthy. If you're belly looks anything like mine it will make a great teaching tool. Take her into your bedroom, show her your belly (or whatever) and ask her if that's really the road she wants to take. Maybe you can get creative and introduce her to people who have co-morbidities from weight (i.e. diabetes) and ask them to share about it (whether they have to have shots, life and death, before they had it, etc.). That's all I can think of. Those are things I think might have helped me when I was younger. Of course, you do the best you can and leave the rest to her. It's why we're here. She's old enough to make decisions even if she doesn't have the foresight to see what will happen in the long run. Good luck! Hydi I guess it all comes down to positive reinforcment and taking control (as inconspicuously as possible). I agree with Alfie. She needs to be educated about what will happen if she doesn't take care of herself and how to keep herself healthy. If you're belly looks anything like mine it will make a great teaching tool. Take her into your bedroom, show her your belly (or whatever) and ask her if that's really the road she wants to take. Maybe you can get creative and introduce her to people who have comorbidities from weight (i.e. diabetes) and ask them to share about it (whether they have to have shots, life and death, before they had it, etc.). That's all I can think of. Those are things I think might have helped me when I was younger. Of course, you do the best you can and leave the rest to her. It's why we're here. She's old enough to make decisions even if she doesn't have the forsight to see what will happen in the long run. Good luck! Hydi

Wow. Good for you. I try to take the stairs when I have a choice between an elevator and the stairs. The women in our ward started a weekly workout today. Today we were sweatin' to the oldies with Richard Simons. I think next week we'll do Yoga or Pilates. It's fun to do something good for yourself with other people.

Hi everyone Thought I would throw a few questions your way again... Just some silly stuff.. 1. What is your favorite color? 2. When did you first realize that boys were different? 3. What is your favorite animal? 4. Where were you born? 5. What do you do when you are angry..are you a stomper..are you a thrower...are you a shouter...are you real quiet?? Here are my answers: 1. RED..I love real deep clear REDS. When I was a teenager my favorite color was blue but somewhere in my 20's RED became the color for me. I think I turned SASSY. 2. When my Mom stopped letting me follow my brother everywhere and I asked why I couldn't go in the boys bathroom..haha Momma had a talk with me. 3. Dogs. They are loyal, loving, funny, protective and most important they love you no matter what..I love horses, donkeys, and kitty cats too 4. I was born in Salem Indiana...about 20 miles north west of Louisville Kentucky so I'm a country girl to the bone, 5. I get really really quiet when I get angry. My sweet hubby is a talker so he wants to talk it out right now no matter how heated things get..I can't do that I have to calm down first. We have kind of compromised over the past 19 years and I can start talking sooner than I used to and he doesn't push so hard to make me talk it out right now. I have been known to throw a few stomps here and there too.. Have a happy day everyone Alfie