stressful situation

To try and make a long story short. I have had to step in and help my mother get to her appointments this week. My mom is 77 and her health is not great and seems to be dwindling down. Her person she has to take her to appointments is on vacation and I agreed to help her in anyway.  I know as our parents get older the roles reverse and at times I know I have found myself being short with her and not meaning to be.This week has been an eye opening experince. I am praying to find more patience and understanding dealing with her.                                              Annie

I completely understand. Sweetie.  And as they get older it seems they are more childlike and dependent.  It is, however, a privilege to be able to help her at this time, and you are just learning to adjust to your new role.  It's not an easy adjustment, but one you will learn and become better at.  And feel free to vent any time.

Hi Annie -

As you know, my mother lives with me more than half the year, so I truly understand. As Suzanne said, it takes some adjusting on everyone's part. I can only share that patience is truly a virtue and like you I strive to maintain my mother's dignity and my sanity.

Hang in there friend,

Barb

I know how you feel Annie. I had felt that way a few times with my Mom too.  I now wish I could go back and help them more. They both died almost two years ago. They had been married 60 years. My Mom died unexpectedly and my Dad a few months later. He was soooooooo sad without her and not in good health himself. It was very traumatizing and something I haven’t recovered from still. Cherish each moment.  Hug her as much as you can and take a deep breath.  I so wish I could hug them and tell them how much I love and miss them.

 

 

Annie
I know how hard that can be, it is a role reversal for sure and I know sometimes you just have to step back and take a DEEP breath you are a true angel helping her out in her time of need even though it feels frusterating at times good for you Annie!!

Darcie

So sorry Annie.  It has to be a hard situation.  I hope things get better for you and your mom soon.  Maybe after the holidays things will settle down a bit. Take care. Ellen

Annie~  I can so feel your frustration.  Your mother is lucky that you are well enough and healthy enough to be there for her!  I am sure that she appreciates all that you are doing!!

Thank you each and everyone for your kind words. I am going to work on finding more patience and showing her how much I love her. I am very fortunate to be able to WALK because I am really getting my walking in going to the appointments. Also I am able to push her in the wheelchair and go from this section of the hospital to the next a year ago I could not have done that. I love you all so much you have always been there when I have needed a friend.                                                        Annie

Annie you are truly a gem for helping your mom.  You will receive the patience you need.  God has a way of blessing those that have the courage to ask for it.  You are doing one of the most grateful things a mother could want and need from a daughter.  How lucky you both are to have each other.   Like Bea said..  Cherish this time and Hug often.  Your mother might not say how much she appreicates it because she realizes how much she is dependent on you and it might embarass her to a degree.  I know I finally got that out of my mother.  She didn't want to seem like a burden or make me feel sad and embarrased that she needed to ask for help.  Well as a daughter I know you would do anything for your parents.  Thats just how daughters are wired.    Just think...you are already benefitting yourself with this new added responsibility.  It is benefitting you both to have some great time together.   Thinking of you and knowing you are truly special for helping your mom! Connie