Nerves I guess

My final pre-op appt. with Dr. Moran is tomorrow and then I have to go over to the hospital and get pre-registered. I'm getting really excited about my surgery on January 14th and I don't really have any nervousness about the actual procedure. Unfortunately, I'm more nervous about after the fact. I have all the paperwork from Dr. Moran's office and also from the nutritionist about what I can eat each week for the first 8 weeks and I know I won't break the rules, but sometimes I feel so overwhelmed by all the information that I worry about what if I accidentally do the wrong thing. I mean even simple stuff, such as sipping my water. I think OMG what happens if I accidentally take too big of a sip. I really need to see everything (a plan) in front of me in writing and I know I can follow it to a T because I'm too afraid of what would happen if I didn't. For example, I can stick to something that says eat so many ounces of this at a specific time or drink so many ounces of this at a certain time. I just feel like I need things more specific than just a list of the things I can have each week. I've seen people write that they didn't get physically hungry for like 6 months. So then I wonder well, how will I know when to eat then or how much of something to eat. This sounds silly, but is this something a nutritionist can sit down and go over with me? Can she sit and make me an actual meal plan, such as On Sunday at breakfast eat _____; On Sunday at lunch eat _____, etc. Or is that asking too much of the nutritionist to do? I just want to make sure that I absolutely use the tool I'm about to receive to it's fullest. I do not want to look back a year post-op and wish I had done something differently. Does anyone have any advice? Thanks.

I don't know how much I can offer to help, but here goes.....try not to worry first off. You will be fine afterwards but there is a lot that is trial and error. They will tell you the plan to follow and what things to eat for the first months or so. For awhile you are right, you may not get hungry but you can time your meals and you will measure as well. You cannot eat and drink and have to wait 30 minutes after drinking so that will also help dictate some of it as well. Because it will take a while before you heal, you will need to measure because you can't often tell when you're full. Also some of the foods can agree oneday and not the next. That's why I say alot is trial and error. One food will agree with you but some one else with RNY may not be able to eat it ever. That's why a nutitionist may not say eat this or that, but will just give you a basic idea of foods. I can understand not wanting to look back amd wonder but try not to do that to yourself. Feel free to seek out advice, but remember you may get lots of different advice bexcause each doctor has a different plan and the varriance is amazing. Some NUTS(nutritionists) give different advice as well. So it can tend to be confusing at times. I believe the key for great success is to learn to make healthy and wise choices in the long run to avoid the threat of unhealthy habits creaping back in. Try and focus on retraining your mind during the next couple of years after surgery. Get into a set exercise routine. The weight will come off after surgery. Another good word of advice is not to compare how long it takes you either. I have a friend who had RNY 10 weeks ago and has already lost 66 pounds. It took me 5 months to lose that. Point is I have achieved goal weight  and then some. It just took me a lot longer than some to get there. At times I thought I may never get to goal based on my slow loss. There were times that I lost only 1 pound per week....in fact 12 weeks or more and I thought...wow, I had to have my guts rearranged for this....lol I could have done this on my own. But truth is I can lose weight and have done so again and again, but have never successfully maintained a healthy weight. I am here now and will continue to work hard to stay healthy for the remainder of my life. Will I make poor choices every now and then....perhaps, but so do naturally skinny people. I just need to not make a choice of always making bad choices as I have done in the past. My tool is something I have to choose to use. I hope this helped some. Try to relax and get buckled up for an amazing ride as you change your life!

P.S. I live semi close to Clinton!

Lisa

My NUT told me at the one on one that I have to sit down and come up with a schedule and put it on my fridge or some such place so I can get used to it and stick to it.  I am sure she said this because of the lack of hunger afterwards.  I don't think you should need a plan to involved as eat this on this day but rather make a list of breakfast, lunch, and supper things you can have (remember you can update it as you go along and can eat other things) and make a schedule of times for the meals with little notes listed of the rules like no drinking for 30 minutes before and after meals.  That way you can go at the time to get the meal, look at the choices (which also is a list letting you know what things to buy at the grocery store), and eat one of the meals you can have for that time.

I am sure from having read this board a lot, that this is normal nervousness.  You can always ask questions every step of the way here if needed and you can also ask your Dr. tomorrow if there is anything you could work on with a NUT that would help this.