Barb, how are you doing?

Hey Barb,
You have been on my mind ever since your post about your mother.  Thinking about you both today and hope things are doing as well as they can.  Know that we here on the NC forum love and respect you and are here for you during this difficult time.
((((((HUGS))))))

Hi Lisa,

Thank you for asking. Mom and I have had a relatively quiet day today. My daughter made us scrambled eggs and french toast with SF syrup. 

My mom has something called Idiopathic Pulmonary Fibrosis... In the long run she will literallly suffocate. At this point she is on Oxygen and has recently been put on a new O2 Concentrator. I'm working on coming to terms with not only losing my mom, but also a good friend. Her loss is not immediately immanent. It may take many months or years, if we are lucky. I think what is scary is how much she has failed in just a few months. 

As you may also remember my husband lost his job in December and we've been struggling financially. He's looking for and applying to jobs, but only had one interview in January.  That's just adding to the stress level. I'm really not sure what the future holds, but have to say that it's more than a little scary.

You may have noticed that I'm not on the boards as much anymore... I'm trying, but not as able to do so right now. I do appreciate your thoughtful concern. 

 

 

Hi Barb,
  I am really sorry to hear about you mom.  My Grandmother had the same thing and I quit my job to take care of her and to help my mom out with her.  She moved in with my mom and I when she got sick and my mom worked at the bank so she worked through the day.  So I would take care of her through the day and at night and my mom would take care of her in the evening.  I know that it is hard just know that you are in our thoughts and prayers....Amy

Hi Amy,

Thanks for your understanding and commiseration. I'm worried about how to proceed. I had always thought she would be with me, but has decided to go back to CA for a number of years. My heart is just breaking. While I will be escorting her home, I'm not sure what the future holds once she is there and if we should try to relocate to CA or not... So many questions... 

As you shared, I recall when my grandmother was dying of pancreatic cancer and my mother and I took care of her in a hospice situation at my mother's home. It was grueling, both physically and emotionally for all concerned, including my grandmother. I'm afraid that this will be coming to us again, but I'm on the other side of the country... I just don't know what to do.

Thanks again for the support and understanding... as you know, it means a lot.

Hi Barb,
Just wanted to let you know that you are in my thoughts and prayers...I know it is SO hard but try and "keep you chin up", as my mom always told me...Keep me updated and if there is anything I can do let me know....Amy

Barbara, you and your family situations will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers!

I read somewhere today that the Raleigh area is one of the best to be in as far as jobs go! I doubt that's much consolation. I may be new, but I'll still be praying he finds a job soon.

I cannot imagine how hard that is. My best friend in college, her mother had a slew of health problems  (lupus, kidney failure, other things I can't spell), and she took care of her mother. She is slightly older than me (I'm about to turn 30), so her children were rather young (under 6). It was hard for them to watch, as well. Anyone who has to go through that journey, the strength it requires amazes me.

Hello Barb,

Sorry to hear about your mom and husband. It is said that god will put no more on you than you can handle. Just keep praying and I will do the same... hoping god will give you and your family strength and favor.