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Hello guys, Recently, I've received e-mails/posts messages regarding what I should do in regards to my surgeon. While I appreciate the advice, it is definitely counteractive and contrary to what I think and feel as being right. I thought I had made clear my feelings about my surgeon previously, but apparently it wasn't clear enough. Whether this is the absolute truth or not, I don't think my surgeon is the problem, but rather my bad luck and more realistically, my body for some reason. It certainly helps we have bonded on a personal level, but that isn't the reason why I continue to stick by him. He is an excellent surgeon and a rather humble one for that matter. He doesnt need to take out ads to prove this to himself and everyone else. He cares more about me and making me feel the best I can rather than how this all makes him "look". He could care less to be honest. Again, this is not the reason why I continue to recieve his services but it certainly helps me. Again, I appreciate the advice, but you are not me. And I'm not saying this in anger or frustration or anything like that. It's just true. Believe me, I thought about my situation, I've LIVED my situation and it's a hard thing. A very hard thing. I've thought about it and have a pretty good idea now on how to accept all of this and I believe I'm getting to that place where I have a clear idea of what I want. However, I have to say, the recent e-mails/private messages(even from people I have NO IDEA who they are) I received basically discrediting my surgeon, whom I do not blame and whom I actually appreciate very much, does not help me in the least. While the intent was to be supportive, it actually wasn't. So, again, I don't blame larry and if anyone has a right to, it's me and my husband. But, that's it. No one else. If you want to be supportive, ask me how I am, express your concern in a general way if you're concerned, and wish me the best. That would be good enough. I really do think you would have to spend a day in my shoes or have experienced what I have to really understand all of this. I do not mean that in a bitter way, so please don't take it that way! Anyway, you really do not need clutter up my email box with emails/posts apologizing and/or explanations b/c it isn't necessary. It is ok, really it is. I know some of you meant well and that is what matters. No hard feelings! Have a good day! Tavia

Hey Tavia, Off the topic, Ilyssa is ok she had adhesions (sp) She came out of surgery in pain so she is on major pain meds!!!! She is flying a kite in sky of morphine!!! Im pretty sure she will be spending the night at North Shore but I just wanted you to know that she is ok. Thanks again for all your warm wishes...OUR SURGEONS ROCK.. They are surgeons not god (well ya know "gellgod"). Anyone messes with the people who saved our lives can kiss our butts.. Dont take what ignorant people say. Like you said till the walk in your shoes they should just send basis "hope you feel betters"... Well have an awesome day! Stacey

Tavia, You could not have said what you said any better. Take care. Linda M

Hi Tavia, I think that we who have read your messages for a while understand where you are coming from--but the newbies may not ! They all mean well --I am sure--they just don't understand how you feel--thanks for putting your feelings in writing for them! I know that it is frustrating. But take the messages with a grain of salt and just let them be! Be Wel and Be Blessed, Marian S.C. 242.4/163.8/goal 125-130???

I'm glad you're not letting the naysayers drag you down in the game of blame. It may be the human condition that drives people to WANT to BLAME someone, ANYONE, but you and I and lots of the rest of us here know that will ultimately get you no where, just bitter. You and you alone have inspire me to make smart choices, that are not bitter, but smart and loving, and that are based in my own reality and I am proud to OWN them. I would probably be much less nice if and when the time comes that someone wants to question what I've decided to do. And I can't remember I time when I said, 'no hard feelings'. Props there my friend. Your a better person than I, girl, [ok, ok, it doesn't take much;)] and you continue to ROCK ON as hard as you can! I believe in YOU. xosm