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Hi Everybody, Just wanted to make contact and hopefully gain a little support. I decided it was better for me to keep my weight loss surgery secret until it was a done deal, so I've only told my nearest and dearest, and I'm feeling a little alone, a little scared, a little wondering whether I can actually make it through that first month. My surgery is July 12 at Good Samaritan in Suffern, and the only other person I know personally who's gone through it is a cousin up in Buffalo. I have a vacation planned for the week just before going to surgery (don't know if that was wise or not) and my fears are kind of freezing me up. Every day I say I have to study the information from the nutritionist, and every day I let other chores and responsibilities take first place. Please write just to say "hi" and let me know I've got some pals out there. Judy

Hello Judy, Hugs to you! Although I am a months away from getting my surgery, I was actually scheduled last year and was weeks away when I had to cancel. You can read my profile for that info. It is a scary time. I think if you were not scared you be out of the norm. If you take the time to look at profiles you will see that although people are VERY excited they are also a bit frightened by it too. The bottom line is... we are having a major life changing surgery. Every aspect of our being both physically and mentally will be changing. I am sure at this point your aversion to the packet of materials from your nutritionist is not that big of a deal. Scan over the materials from the nutritionist. You don't have to sit and study them. Look them over a little each day and make sure you have all of your supplies that they suggest. Do you go to support group meetings. I know most insurances only require two or so sessions but if you are not going, I strongly suggest you find one. You get SO much info at them and remember that everyone there is in the smae boat! They have ALL been or are going through this too! Just remember youare NOT in this alone. We are all here to support each other. Hugs... Lori

Thanks, Lori, for the kind words. All advice gratefully accepted!

hey Judy Congratulations on your up-coming surgery. I too kept my surgery a secret from the workplace. I confided in my family parents kids and ex-wife. I waited until the last day of work to bring my employees together and explain what i was going to do and that I would be out for 4-5 weeks. I did not want the rumor mill to take over and I felt it would be harder once i returned if everyone already had a preconceived notion of what went on. I found out (pleasantly surprised) that everyone was on my side and the comments were pretty much all negative, I work with all men and expected it to become a huge joke but the exact opposite is what happened. I actually cried as I was leaving as all my guys lined up and hugged me and gave me a few words of encouragement. I even got a standing ovation (who new my guys loved me so much) Or they were just happy the boss was out for 5 weeks. As for you fears you need to get this in check I had a huge case of the "what if's" I was sure I was going to become a statistic. I would look at my boys and start crying. I wanted to be here for them and I was almost convinced this surgery would take that away. You need to trust in your surgeons and their skills. Leave it up to god an dstay positive. I am just shy of 2 weeks and I feel terrific. I a,most can't belive I had the surgery I know I am probably doig more than I should but I feel great.Right now I am pool side sipping a protein shake watching my boy and his teamates have a pool party. Amazing !!!!!! best of luck and stay positive sorry such a long post.

Hey, BK, you know what was really terrific about your post? The fact that you were enjoying life by the pool!! I keep thinking I'm going to be debilitated for weeks, but I read so many from people that feel just wonderful the week after surgery. Thanks for the encouragement! Judy