Compliments--they can be deadly!!

Yes Deadly-- Don't get me wrong--I love hearing "you look Fantastic" "my goodness --I hardly recognized you!" " Wow --you look great" BUT: chair: I have started to realize that I need to keep the compliments from going to my head--I need to remember all those times that I heard them before--and started to allow myself --just a little more to eat. Just a little more ice cream or cake or bread. I would lose weight --then keep it of for a while--and wake up one day--only to find that I had gained some of it back--then the deadly cycle would take over again --and in the end --I would find that I had gained it all back--and some extra. It is true , that I now have a "tool" that will assist me to keep the weight of--BUT I have to remember --that I can't depend on my pouch to keep me thinner--I have to work on the psychological issues--I have a food addiction! I have to remember that --always--I have to stick to the basics! Stay with the rules! Do what I am suppose to do everyday--from now on. I am thankful that I can articulate my fears and concerns on these boards. I don't ever want to fall asleep again only to wake up to that fatty! This is the hardest thing that I've ever done--and the most drastic. BUT I didn't go through five hours of major surgery --just to end up the way I have always ended up--fat , sick and miserable. So thanks ! Everyone here who puts up with my posts--God Bless you all for your concern and caring. Be Blessed, Marian S.C. 242.4/159.2/goal 125-130??

Wow Marian, what a reality check your post was for me. I always had the same problem in the past and I know that now that I'm getting so many compliments and I can eat a little more, I'm starting to get ****y again. This past week at work we've had food everywhere and I've been more than happen to have a "little" of this and a "little" of that and I knew deep down that it was time to get a grip, but I hadn't thought about the reality of what I was doing until I read your post. Thanks for sharing!! Hugs, Violet

Marian, I have the below saying posted in my profile since I have to ALWAYS remember it: *Remember....you're only in remission....there really is no recovery.... It is so true......~hugs you~ Debra P

Hi Debra-- and you are absolutely right--REMISSION--and unfortunately, you can't quit eating --cold turkey. You can stop drinking totally and never touch a drop again--you can stop smoking and never take another puff--you can even stop using drugs forever--but food you cannot totally swear off! I have to be reminded each and every day that I am ONLY in remission--not cured! The pouch is just a tool and I (am the master of my ship)--I have to control my eating--Like I said before--thank goodness that I can vent here! God Bless you all for listening and caring! Marian S.C.

Marian, Thanks for writing that. I know exactly how you feel. It would be so easy to right back, wouldn't it. We all need to stay strong together, and continue the great support we have here on this board. S

Thank you so much for this reality check...I too have been fooling aorund iwht the rules lately. Testing my limits, seeing how much I can get away with, falling into bad habits. I'm aware the I have an addiction to food. But I have a false sense of security since the surgery. Thank you for opening my eyes again. It's back to basics for me, effective immediately!! Have a fabu w/e, folks... L*

Oh yeah Marian! That is exactly what happened to me in 2003. It wasn't the only reason I gained back, but I think that played a big part in the beginning of my gain, along with the emotional eating toward the end. I'd think to myself, oh this won't hurt me to eat this, and uh a little of that won't hurt because "so and so" thinks I look so good. Before I know it, that little bit of food that I thought wouldn't hurt me had caused me to go back up to 283. It's a matter of getting the overeating into our true reality. I know what you mean. Kristine