Sorry I've been MIA

Hello Everyone! Sorry it's been so long since i've been on the board... Life is hectic. I dont even know where to start... I am so happy that I had this surgery, it's not only saved my life, but given me so much. But lately, i havent been myself... Confident I am now that people treat me like a human being, but I have fallen into a depressed no longer chipper person. I quit my job about a month ago, not only has that been hard on me, but also our lives financially. I regret that I left my previous job for the one that I quit, it was such a bad move on my part.... My husband tells me to forget about it, but i keep on dwelling on it.... I've been on interview after interview and am getting call backs with low salary offers which I feel is a slap in the face, I have a degree and 12 years experience and these people are offering me entry level salary.... I went on one this morning and I liked everything about the company, position and benefits.... but I am not sure if they will call me back... I hope they do...I will not settle and I think its putting a strain on my marriage.... I dont even feel like getting out of bed anymore... I thought that once I got back to a normal weight I would have everything I need and want... but i was wrong.... anyway... dont want to bore anyone, just want everyone to know that i'm back and will try to visit the boards every day and that i missed everyone... Going to try to keep my head up.... Thanks for listening....(((HUGS))) Gia 258/136/125

Hi Gia! I'm sorry you're going through this job struggle, feel secure in knowing i'm going through the same nonsense. I'm a 36 y.o. college educated woman and i was offered 24,800 per year for a marketing assistant....i said for that salary i'm not getting out of bed or getting dressed so unless i can do this job from home NO DEAL! Hugs, ANDI

Hi Andi, Thanks... I wouldnt get out of bed either for that salary! Gia

Hi Gia, Sorry to hear about your troubles. I loved your profile! Your daughter is gorgeous. I used to live in Copiague and for the last 6 years I live in Sayville. I am scheduled to have the RNY 7/31 I was reading your before and we have a lot in common, approximately the same weight and similar issues. Anyway, just wanted to wish you well and hope that the RIGHT job comes your way ASAP. Maryellen

Hi Maryellen, Good luck with your surgery.... It was the best thing i've ever done for myself! ((hugs)) Gia

Hi Gia! Hang in there girl, you are doing the right thing. If you are not happy in a job that you have to spend most of your time in, it makes life horrible. You hold out till they give you what you are worth. Im sorry this is causing other stresses in your life. Hopefully you can find a therapist or a support group to help you through this tough time. This is a difficult journey even when we reach goal and we should not be on it alone! We are here for you too...smile!!! {{HUG}} LisaMarie

Thanks LisaMarie, I hope to get something soon... I am looking into a few therapists, but you know how little time us mom's have for ourselves! You look awesome! ((HUGS)) Gia

Hi Gia. With your education, your marriage, and your surgery alone you have come a long way. The good Lord has brought you this far, theres no doubt he can bring you farther. It's darkest before dawn. Have faith that one day you will look back on this and realize that God is good. The only defeat would be for you to give up completely. Your fight and struggles do not have to be in vain, life is full of surprises and blessings, some hidden, some not understood until later in life. Stay strong and take care. Liz

Gia!!!! Welcome back Sweetie...You look awesome! Sorry you're having some troubles in life but let me pass this on to you...I taught my children and grandchildren what my Mom (R.I.P.) taught me..It goes like this..." I cried because I had no shoes, until I met the man who had no feet"!! Things may be rough right now but you have your health and your family. Have faith in God and always believe in yourself. I too have been MIA...doing well though. I've lost 117 since surgery and feeling very healthy. Hope things get better soon. Don't sell yourself short Sweetie. God Bless, Carmen

GIA: Glad you are checking in and posting again. It sounds as if you are going through a challenging tine, although I can't 'diagnose you' via the web sounds like a case of depression has settled in. Us selfless caretakers NEED to make time for ourselves to be healthy for those that need us! A good therapist may help but if these symptoms last more than 2 weeks a good antidepressant may also be helpful/indicated. (you certainly are not the first to develop depressionpost WLS! I have personally seen it very commonly in my practice and support group!) Many of us have the MISTAKEN BELIEF that ALL our problems are related to our obesity and BECOME very DISAPPOINTED when these psychosocial issues remain. Difficulty INTEGRATING changes + THE DISAPPOINTMENT of continuing problems can lead to SABOTAGING EATING BEHAVIORS! I don't want that for you! Exercise can help many break out of mild/moderate depression, it may be painful to start but the reward is so worth the effort! I wouldn't wait for a call back, I'd send a thank you letter for the interview stating you will follow up in 1 week with a call, then call them! This can only help show your perserverance! Be well and post often! Take Care, Jamie Ellis RN MS NPP Lap RNY 10/9/02 Dr. Singh 320/163 5'9'' (lost 45# before surgery) Plastics 6/9/04 & 11/11/2005 Dr. King http://www.obesityhelp.com/morbidobesity/members/profile.php?N=c1132518510 "Being happy doesn't mean everything's perfect, it just means you've decided to see beyond the imperfections!"