REALLY REALLY REALLY NERVOUS

Hi, Okay, I'm 4 days away from RNY surgery. And I'm petrified. I've been runnning into soooo many people who have been trying to talk me out of having this. I'm starting to question it myself. Their comments have been, "You are not that fat". Well excuse me but being 110 lbs overweight is very uncomfortable to me. Do I wait? If so, undoubtedly, it will be 150lbs , then 200 lbs etc. It will only go in one direction! I wish these stupid uneducated individuals would keep their comment to themselves. I shouldn't have to explain myself to everybody, should I? I know now that I made the mistake in telling too many people about this surgery, Including my employer! Terribly stressed over their remarks! HELP What can I do to make these 4 days pass quickly and stressfree? I have a gift certificate for a massage that I never used, and I'm thinking of having it done. Also, is it true you can't have nail polish on toes or fingers during surgery? If not, then I'll have that done too. Maybe I'll just stay home and take a hot ? Please email me any suggestions that you may have used. I thank you in advance.

Hey Maryellen I know just how you are feeling. I'm having my surgery the following week, 8/7/06. I am so nervous And, people are telling me too that I don't need the surgery, I can do it on my own. My head is !!!! Well, I have 150 lbs now to lose and no I can't do it on my own. And I need to get healthy......so, let's hold hands and continue on this journey. I hear it's gonna be quite a rollercoaster ride Linda

Thanks LInda and good luck to you too! Maryellen Let's keep in touch!

STAY AWAY FROM PEOPLE !!!!!!!! IF YOU NEED LISA OR I WE ARE HERE!!!!!! i went thru it too its crazy that people are so niave about wls... you will do great i am rooting for you ...... like i said we are here for you !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Stacy

I know, THANKS! Maryellen

Hi Maryellen, just wanted to wish you luck on your surgery! Dont let ppl's comments get the best of you. They arent in your body, and certainly dont understand the lifestyle we'ved lived for so long. I too had WLS back in April, and had myself worked right into a full blown tizzy!!! I have to say, had I known how much easier it was than I thought it would be, I wouldnt have waited so many years to take the step! You too will do fine, just try to stay busy the next few days! good luck, marcy

Thanks Marcy, you are so right! Maryellen

Hi Maryellen, I too have chosen Dr. Ahmad as my surgeon and have my consult Aug 10. This will be my 4th surgeon and 2nd time around of going through all the pre-op stuff. I'm exhausted but forging ahead. I am grateful for your comments about telling too many people, so far I have been able to keep it quiet and until such time as I have a surgery date, I hope to keep it completely confidential. But I often wonder how I will not be able to tell people once the weight starts to drop off. They will all suspect as I am sure I have dropped hints and made mention of considering surgery at times. But I'm going to respond with "I don't wish to discuss these issues here at work" and hope that satisfies the curious one's who just want to use my situation for their daily gossip at the water cooler. Try to relax, take a deep breath and remember all the dreams you had and goals of when you first started out on this journey. If you feel like it, start a journal, that is what I am doing to release my fears and worries. I understand they are all normal. But its our "comfort zone" and what we know for too many years that we are worried about missing. We will now have to give thought and make conscious decisions about everything we consume from here on out knowing that our body will no longer tolerate our over indulging ways. Try to think of things that you will be able to do that you have pushed away from for a long time. These other people do not share your problem. I have "friends" who are equally as heavy as me and whom would NEVER consider wls. They are simply in denial about the weight and their control over it. You are doing the right thing for your health and from what I hear we will be wishing we did it sooner and be happy we did not turn back on our decision. I'm looking forward to sharing my story with others when I am further down the road. Turn your ears off to these people, do not even engage conversation with them unless its about work or something else besides food and your weight. Change the subject!! 4 days will go faster than you think. Much luck to you...keep us all posted. Trish

Thanks Trish, A journal is a great idea. I'll definitely try that. I am confident that you will LOVE Dr. Ahmad. I'm met sooo many of his patients and they all are so grateful to him. I was wondering if you've joined any group sessions? I've discovered 4 so far all on Long Island. Dr. Ahmad has one monthly, the Centereach library has monthly meeting- next one 8/25 (?) one at a private house in Selden, one at Good Samaritan Hospital (this Saturday is the next one-I'm going) Are you interested at all? They are all free. I've learned so much from each one. I'm not sure if I'll be always able to go to all 4 groups, but my surgery is on MOnday, so I figure it can't hurt to learn more and so far I've learned a bit from each group. Good luck on your journey and keep in touch. Hey, I live in Sayville, we are practically neighbors. Maryellen

Maryellen, If you look at the first paragraph you wrote you answered your own question. I am lucky to be totally supported but your right a lot of people just don't know enough about it. Others are jealous that you will succeed (believe it or not) Do what you feel is best for you.Honey- definitely go get that message.You will feel so calm and relaxed to make your decision.Shut the phone if you think people will give you negative vibes.You don't need that before surgery. For the next few days just talk to the people that support you.That will comfort you. Best of luck,being nervous is so normal!!!! Tina