Are these feelings normal?

I received a possible surgery date for May 15th, I just have to submit all the results from my testing to the program coordinator. As I was doing all the testing I was fine. Now that there's a date I'm absolutely scared out of my mind. Suddenly I'm wondering should I, shouldn't I. More than anything I'm scared of the unknown. I've never ever, ever been anything but overweight. I look forward to doing all things that I've missed out on because of my weight but at the same time it's all I've ever known. It's almost like saying goodbye to a friend. All of sudden I'm worried about making the people around me, my friend and family uncomfortable. I feel more upset now than when I was just upset about my weight!!!!

Christine, Hun they are very normal feelings and yes your life will change! I was scared and excited all at once This whole journey is a roller coaster of emotions! Please make sure this is really what you want and if so...GET IN, SIT DOWN, BUCKEL UP and HOLD ON because this is one awesome and crazy ride. What helped me the most was sitting alone and making a list of all the pros and cons, that really showed me what I wanted from this whole thing! It really helped to calm my fears as well. Well I still felt like I wanted to all the time but o well.... Take care of yourself hun ~hugs~ Debra P

I think your feelings are perfectly normal...........fear of surgery, and fear of the unknown..........what can you expect!??!! Just keep thinking about your healthy life after surgery. You will be so surprised.....pleasantly.........at how much you can do......what you have been missing out on, but not even knowing you were missing out on it.......going up steps without getting out of breath, walking further distances........and of course, fitting into regular size clothes. I hope to hear from you here often.............keep us all posted. You will be fine. YOu have found a good online supprt group here. SH

Trust me Christine it is normal to have fears before surgery I think it would be unrealistic if you did not have any concerns. Everyday I celebrate the improvements in my life and still I fear the unknown but I accept the challenges and am learning to embrace the new me that I am becoming So like Debra said just try to enjoy the ride it would always be smooth but it is definitely worth the trip vivienne

Thanks everyone for the encouragement. I like the idea of the pros and cons list. Thinking about all the pros of having surgery definitely brings all the fear I have into perspective

Yup...I have to imagine it is normal. I am just starting this journey, knowing that I have 5.5 months left of Dr supervised dieting before going any further and I'm already worried about the same thing. I don't know how to be not fat.

Hi - Yep, totally, totally normal. I was very cool until I got my date, and then was a wreck for a few weeks. I remember posting on this board I was having big problems with focusing on anything, including my job, with the exception of being totally pre-occupied and worried. I of course can only speak for myself, but the decision to have WLS was the first big decision of my life where I only thought about what was best for me - no caretaking anyone else's feelings or worries, just taking care of me and what I needed most. I also went through a big mourning period of losing my best friend, constant companion, almost-lover = food. I have pangs now and then about missing eating large quantities of food, but overall and really, really glad I had the surgery. I also made a pro/con list, and found it really helpful. Good luck to you, and wishing you all good things. Mary Mc