Pre-op appt:) lack in support:(

Is tomorrow!!! Im super excited!! My date is going to be switched to May 16th like I wanted:) What am I supposed to expect at pre-op?? I am also a little bummed! I was planning on not telling my dad about the surgery because he is one of those if you diet and exercise it will solve everything..says the man who is also overweight with every single one of his sister(5total) all being extremely obese with diabetes along with so many other health problems.but I told him anyway because I think if I was a parent I would not want my child hiding such a major surgery..I also begged him not to tell the rest of the extended family until I was comfortable..well that didnt happen I got a call begging me not to go through with the surgery and to..this made me laugh histerically...try acai berry supplements and I would drop all the weight I needed...big load of crap..he also told my brother who went to the military forever ago and he said he could drill me into shape military style..blah blah blah to that...do they not realize how much this is going to help me with my weight and other issues it not like I have 20 lbs to lose I have 100+..i wish they would understand!!  thank god for my mother and sister who are my biggest cheerleaders through this journey..I dont know what I would to with out them....I am getting this surgery whether they like it or not..My life..my body..my decision!!

I am glad you have your mom & sister to support you.  That will help make your journey sucessful.
You are right it is your body & decision.  But everyone has their opinion.  Drives me nuts.
I had a friend tell me that I didn't put my heart and soul into losing weight and that the surgery was the easy way out.  Whatever.  Wasn't asking for your approval, just telling you I was having it done.


Good luck!

Sarah

If I had a nickle for every single person that has asked me "are you really sure this is what you want?" or "you're not big enough to have that kind of surgery" I would have enough to pay for my surgery out of pocket with no insurance! I haven't told either of my parents or siblings at this point just because of that.  I'm just going to go visit at the end of September & shock the living h**l out of them! (they all live 1200 miles away)  Almost every single one of them has been fighting this exact same thing for most of their lives just like me & they don't believe in having surgery for this type of thing either.  "Just get off your butt & exercise girl!" Riiiiiiight!  Been there, done that & I'm not fighting it any longer!  I'm glad to hear that you at least have your mom & sister on your side though.  Hang in there!

My dad is the same way, but, I didn't tell him about the surgery until after I had my date and everything...When I used to talk to him about it, he would just say--did you try this? did you try that? What about hypnosis??

I'm glad you got your date changed. Hooray!! Pre-op was fairly simple for me. My surgeon said that because I was young and (besides being overweight) healthy, I only needed 4 or 5 things done. I had them finished in 2 weeks. But, my advice is that you should start making appointments the minute you get out of your surgeon's office. I did that and had 2 things checked off the list by the end of the next day. no kidding. (this is all assuming that your, "what to expect pre-op" has to do with tests an not just diet)

I hope you're having a super week!!

oh I hear you!

I kept it very secret from most people pre-surgery. I really only told a few work friends because here they wouldn't see me for 3 weeks and I'm NEVER out lol...

Family wise? I didn't tell ANYONE till 2 weeks before. My parents have always thought of surgery as the easy way out lol..yeah right lol...

My mom was beside herself - I'm gonna die, why can't I just to WW for the millionth time? She'll pay for it? She'll make my meals forever blah blah blah...

Dad was like -we support you if that's what you want

Brother said "Cheater"....and I wanted to drive to his house and punch him lol...but he really is good -he was very worried.
My SIL has been awesome...

It stinks that your dad ratted you out after you thought enough about his feelings to confide. I'm sorry...sometimes it's just all about them.

I told my grammy and my one aunt yesterday and my gram, who I was SOO worried about was SOOOO happy for me -that was a relief and my aunt was mad that I didn't tell her lol

Everyone will always have an opinion -but this is your life girl and you can't please others above yourself. I think that's one way a lot of us got to where we are...but anyway -good luck -in the end it will all work out and this will be passed you -and I'd bet you that when you are on your way to a healthy lifestyle and that some of those naysayers will be jumping on the surgery bandwagon so to speak! ! Some people are just scared if they don't know anyone that has gone through with it.
Sorry for rambling!

Hooray for your mom and sister, how can someone who is overweight tell another person what they need to do to loose weight, huh????? Girl you got to do what's best for you, but kep in mind those same ones are going to have a lot to say whenyou are healthy and looking good.  You are going to ride theat train to HATER-VILLE from the family.  Let them know, if you are taking med right now for blood pressure etc. hey guess what I don't need to worry about that, no crazy meds to keep you blood pressure in check, that's not a cool club to be in.

Keep your head up and keep it going, I believe they are scared of what you will become with the surgery and that you had the corage to have it done and not cntinue to kill youself slowly.

 Girl, I understand the lack of support all too well! I didnt even tell my dad, I had my mom do it. To this day if I didnt know she told him I wouldnt even know that he knows! He never came and saw me in the hospital or even lifted a finger to send a text message. Also, he went and told his brother (my uncle) THE ONLY person that I didnt want to find out because I wanted to see him at the end of the year and shove it in his face that I did it (Ive always had issues with him and hes picked on me since the day I was born, I swear). But I had my mom who eventually came around and my little brother who gave the the only family based support. But I did it and am one month out now, happy, and getting healthier every day! Good luck to you!!

Uggh I haven't told my dad for the exact same reason and I made my mom promise not to tell him either.  He'd also be the type to tell me "Oh, just push away from the table."  Dad we are soooooo way past that!  

I'm right with you.. "My life..my body..my decision".  And if you don't like it please feel free to keep your opinions to yourself!

Sometimes the only times you can get through to these people is to be successful.
Stay your course!
Deb T>

Thanks guys! I am going to tune out the negativity and focus on the goals ahead..I know for sure he is going to be the first one to comment on how great I look so Im just going to rub it in his face. I have a solid support system already..so extra baggage is not needed