People's Stupid Comments

My cousin told me that I am stupid for believing my doctor and that 1 out of every 2 people die on the operating table from my surgery!

My mother-in-law and grandma-in-law keep telling my husband that he better divorce me now because when I get skinny, I'm going to start drinking and cheating on him...but they tell me that I am wasting the Air Force's time and money because I've always been fat and I'm not going to lose any weight anyway. (I am a Christian woman, wife, and mother. I have never drank or done drugs and I haven't looked at another man for the entire 9 years my husband and I have been together!) I want to them out of their name SO bad, but I don't because I am trying to live my life as an example for my children.

My mom told me that if I would take the kids to the park more often, I wouldn't even need the surgery.

ALOT of people told me that I am stupid for having the surgery cause of all of the food I will have to give up. They say it's not worth it.

My aunt (who is a crack head and meth addict) tell me that I am cheating and that I am lazy and I should lose weight the right way. I'm like, "Well, I could use meth to get skinny, but then I'd look like you!" but I don't say that.

I really hate it when people don't have a clue what they are talking about, but they don't let it stop them from opening their mouths!!!

See if you can work in the following phrase:

"It's better to be silent and thought to be a fool than to speak out and to be known for one."

Or, if you don't want a war in the family try the following:

"Thank you for your comments.  My surgeon, my husband, and I are working together to make sure my procedure is a success."  And then refuse to discuss the matter.  If they continue to make ignorant comments, you can always just get up and go home.  So much nicer than telling them to "STFU", which as a nice lady I'm sure you wouldn't do!!!  Of course, the crackhead aunty doesn't deserve any politeness.

Hang in there, Kid;  there are a LOT of stupid people in this world.  You have to do what is right for you, not what is right for them.  Just remember, the world is full of people with opinions.  It doesn't mean you have to agree with them.

Best wishes, 

After I reach my goal weight and have the surgery to remove my extra skin, I'd like to have a photo shoot in a pin-up girl style, but still be modest. Then, I want have the pictures made into cards and send them out on my surgeversary to everyone who told me it was a bad idea.

I already have 2 dresses picked out from a place called starlets and harlets. Just waiting to be thin enough to fit in them.

You won't have to wait that long.  As your weight drops off, just keep buying well-fitting and stylish clothing (you don't have to dress like a tramp to look sexy), and when you show up at family functions, just smile nicely and say thank you, then go onto a different topic. 

Have fun!  Just remember to buy smaller undies BEFORE they fall off as you are standing in line at Walmart!!!

My jeans fell off at Wal-mart the other day! I have been really bummed that I have lost over 50 pounds and was still in a size 28! When I tried on new jeans, I fit in a 24 and they were a little loose!!!

I rest my case!

Make Goodwill or Salvation Army your new best friend;  great new(ish) clothes and very inexpensive.

You'll be wearing a size 12 in no time!!

I know you are a christain woman,but that's what they feed on they know you won't say anything. 
When it comes up again, close your eyes say "forgive them Father they know not what they say" then say "forgive me Father what I'm about t say" and the GO OFF ONE GOOD TIME LIKE A CRAZY LADY.  Then take a deep breath look at them smile and say would you like to continue this converstion or are you done, becasue I am. 

I LOVE IT!!! It'd probably give them a heart attack though. My husband and I started dating over 9 years ago when I was a senior in high school and he was a sophmore. I have NEVER been disrespectful to them.

I got pregnant with our oldest daughter while my husband was a senior in high school. He graduated in May, got married in July, and we had Evalyn in September of 2004. We've been married ever since. They ruined our wedding and our video even has his grandma saying, "It's not official. He didn't sign any papers yet. He doesn't have to marry her just because she's pregnant. We don't even know if it's his baby!"

Then, when Evalyn was 4 months old, we found out that I was pregnant with Berlin. I was fat that no one could tell I was pregnant so we didn't even tell his family till I was about 8 months pregnant because I didn't want to deal with their nonsense. In the Hospital, his grandma tried to change Berlin'e name because she didn't want us naming one of our kids after my husban's real father. She told the nurse that I changed my mind about Berlin's name but that I was too tired to sign the papers so I sent her to do it. 

When I had my son, I was so heavy that I almost died. His mother and grandmother both said that if I would have died, they know some girls that would be great for my husband and it's too bad that I didn't die.

Then when we decided to get saved and start living our lives for the Lord, they told everyone that I was brainwashing him into it. We homeschool our children so that they can have a Christian education and his family tells everyone that we are child abusing our children by allowing them to be ignorant and saying they won't be able to survive in the world.

While my husband was in basic training, he didn't want any of them writing him or sending him things (like porn) so he asked me not to give them his mailing address. His grandma called his recruiter, lied to him, & told them that his grandpa was dying and I wouldn't give them any of his information!!!  I am SSSSSOOOOOO glad that we live half way across the country from them!!!

Pls stay away from those people.  Tell them as little as possible about what goes on in your life.  They will pull you down if you let them.  Been there and done that.   

ruby
rny 3/2005

Now that we live in California and they live in Kansas, live is amazing!!! I miss my parents and family like crazy and so do the kids, but it almost seems like a fair trade off to not have to see his family.

Since I have started losing weight, I have been starting to see my self-worth for the first time in my life. The other day, I stood up for myself the the first time since my husband and I got together. I was very polite, but very firm. You can read what I said to them if you click on my picture and read my first blog.