NSV's 2 years out....and it makes me wonder

Today I had to get groceries and find a birthday gift for my mom....

I ended up eating at Chili's, and ordered Margarita chicken. (Skip the rice and it is enough chicken for 2-3 good sized meals, w/ chicken and black beans). Service was good and they weren't busy. But the mgr. came by as I was scooping food into my to go box and asked, "Is everything all right???? Was it delivered promptly for you??? Are you in a rush??? Can I put your drink in a carry out cup??? Are you SURE things are all right???"

He kind of doted on me. I assured him that everything was fine, but then I wondered....how would he have reacted if I had been 258 lbs? Would I have gotten the to go cup for my iced tea, do you think?

Then off to Coldwater Creek, trying to find the birthday gift (on sale). Of coruse I got into trying on some things for myself. One jacket looked pretty good (yeah, I bought it) - the salesperson commented, "That is really nice on you. It doesn't look at all good on me!" I said, "Oh you're kidding?" and she replied, "Well you are really thin...."!!!!!! What?????  (See, I HAD to buy the jacket!)

The CC story was just purely great, it made me feel so good.

But the Chili's story almost makes me a little sad, because I remember being so invisible before. For me, the world is truly a nicer place now that I am thinner. I don't quite know how to process that.

Just to put it into another perspective....

If you were a manager for a restaurant and you had a customer who was packing up 3/4 of their meal  and hadn't really touched their iced tea, would you have assumed maybe there was a problem with the food? Or that maybe they had an emergancy and needed to leave RIGHT NOW? Maybe that was his thinking?

When  you were 258 pounds and walking out, how often did you do it after not really eating anything you ordered?

I'm sorry he made you feel sad, but he might have just been concerned with maybe the waiter was horrible to you, the food wasn't to your liking, etc....

Glad you had a great experience at CC to help you get over it though! I love some of their clothing!

Ah, Katari, perspective is important. I forget that what is normal for me isn't a bit normal for others, even though I eat much more "normally" at this point in the process!

But the Chili's story almost makes me a little sad, because I remember being so invisible before. For me, the world is truly a nicer place now that I am thinner. I don't quite know how to process that.

We've had this discussion here before. Yes, there is a bias against fat people. It does exist. But for me, I know that most of the time I wanted to be invisible. I rarely made eye contact and did not chit chat with people. I really wanted to be left alone most of the time. I know a lot of the attention I get now is because of how I act and reach out towards people. I have the self-confidence now that I never had before.

And I loved your CC story, too!! Good for you!!

Laura

I hear ya, I know I wouldn't have gotten the job I have now if I had still been heavy. I am an accountant and really don't need to be mobile, but I can just tell I wouldn't have.  People treat me WAY better now too and I am still overweight, but not like I was.