Have you become a divorce statistic--please share...
Well, I know I've mentioned my marital woes here before... and nothing has changed for the better since my last post. I see the end a'coming... I've already been making plans, etc. I think that this would have happened with us even without the surgery... but overall I feel stronger now, and that definitely helps deal with the situation. I am of the strong opinion that I would rather be alone and dealing with a solitary life than live a life of hell brought on by other people's issues and anger.
So, I suspect around April-May next year I'll be moving back north (Ohio maybe? Michigan again?) ... but he will be gone from here well before my lease is up. I'm thinking the end of September or October...
If I make it through this challenge and all the pressure and emotions of this change without fattening back up, I think I'll be able to manage to keep the weight off for life. This is definitely going to be a trial by fire.
tori
So, I suspect around April-May next year I'll be moving back north (Ohio maybe? Michigan again?) ... but he will be gone from here well before my lease is up. I'm thinking the end of September or October...
If I make it through this challenge and all the pressure and emotions of this change without fattening back up, I think I'll be able to manage to keep the weight off for life. This is definitely going to be a trial by fire.
tori
If I make it through this challenge and all the pressure and emotions of this change without fattening back up, I think I'll be able to manage to keep the weight off for life.
OR you may find yourself in the other situation, losing more weight and struggling with eating enough. My PCP and OB/GYN called it the "divorce diet". More often then not, people tend to lose weight dealing with all the emotions of a relationship breaking up.
OR you may find yourself in the other situation, losing more weight and struggling with eating enough. My PCP and OB/GYN called it the "divorce diet". More often then not, people tend to lose weight dealing with all the emotions of a relationship breaking up.
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I actually never even thought of that... something to which I need to pay close attention. Since stress eating was always my modus operandi, I figured the same would happen here... not the reverse. While I still think I can lose a little weight without looking scrawny, I don't want it to get out of hand... my booty is severly lacking at this point already! :)
tori
tori
I have said the same thing about maintaining my weight--if I can survive this and not balloon up, then I can survive anything. As a matter of fact, I just put on another thread that I truly believe I have conquered a lifetime of obesity. This time of my life is, in large part, why I believe that. Boy do I wish for some weight loss I wasn't planning on (and only cause I still have 40 to go until goal--know it is no joking matter if you are having trouble keeping weight on).
I say we both get ourselves a nice fire extinguisher to put out those fires that we may be tried by!!
Good luck to you as you go through your trials!
I say we both get ourselves a nice fire extinguisher to put out those fires that we may be tried by!!
Good luck to you as you go through your trials!
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RNY 2/3/09, LBL/BL w/Augmentation 9/16/11
Start weight: 335 Current weight: 185 Goal weight: Whatever the hell I can maintain without driving myself insane!
*6.5 lost preop
... and the very best of luck to you in your situation, too. I hate that it's come to this, but this situation is not what I signed on for.... at least I'm adult enough to realize that any sort of abusive relationship does not deserve my loyalty, thus my decision. I feel very alone... but as I said in my first post, I'd rather feel alone than spend my every minute on guard against rages and such.
I might not have always felt that I deserve better, but at least now I know I don't deserve THAT... no one does.
Who knows if I'm lovable, if I'll ever get into another relationship... I leave this one knowing that being alone is better than what I have currently. I've been alone, I can do it again if I must.
tori
I might not have always felt that I deserve better, but at least now I know I don't deserve THAT... no one does.
Who knows if I'm lovable, if I'll ever get into another relationship... I leave this one knowing that being alone is better than what I have currently. I've been alone, I can do it again if I must.
tori
I was a skinny little thing and divorced from my first abusive marriage when I met my DH 32 years ago. He fattened me up but it took him about ten years and four babies to do it LOL! SO he knew me healthy and slender and knew me unhealthy and SMO and for the road from first to the second. Now he has watched me recover from my obesity and cheered me into returning to school and staying healthy. My only issue I have with him is that he isn't as healthy as he could be and still doesn't see it. I am a little restless in this marriage right now but I am still sticking with it because he stuck with it when I wasn't all that great to be with. Still somewhere down the road if we growtoo far apart I may make a change. I don't see it right now though. Besides we have finally gotten all of the kids out of the house so maybe he will be a little more fun once in a while. We will see.
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32 years!! Wow! Six kids!! Bigger WOW! You two go find that fun--you surely deserve it!!
Hoping you the both find the spark that led to those 6 kids!! ;)
Hoping you the both find the spark that led to those 6 kids!! ;)
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RNY 2/3/09, LBL/BL w/Augmentation 9/16/11
Start weight: 335 Current weight: 185 Goal weight: Whatever the hell I can maintain without driving myself insane!
*6.5 lost preop
I was married to a wonderful woman for 32 years until breast cancer took her from me. I wish she was here to live this journey with me. I know she would support me every inch of the way. She always worried about my weight. I know she would be so excited to see me 112 pounds down from where she left me.
Back to the subject. I was dating a woman for a while. We were getting along great and I was starting to think there might be a future for us. When I decided to have WLS she dumped me faster than I could get the words WLS out of my mouth. Maybe she just likes big guys.
Back to the subject. I was dating a woman for a while. We were getting along great and I was starting to think there might be a future for us. When I decided to have WLS she dumped me faster than I could get the words WLS out of my mouth. Maybe she just likes big guys.
So sorry for your loss. And she does see you 112 pounds down, I promise. :) I say the same thing about my mom and dad though. Lost them both before my surgery and what I wouldn't give to see my dad's face if he saw me right now. Mom too, of course, but she'd offer me a donut. She nurtured with food! :)
I'm sure the right one is out there for you. Like my father-in-law always says, there is an ass for every seat. I joke back and say I see my mother-in-law found her ass!!
Take care!
Denise
I'm sure the right one is out there for you. Like my father-in-law always says, there is an ass for every seat. I joke back and say I see my mother-in-law found her ass!!
Take care!
Denise
Check out my blog--menumealplanning.com. Tales of making meal planning managable, family fodder, and everything else under the sun.
RNY 2/3/09, LBL/BL w/Augmentation 9/16/11
Start weight: 335 Current weight: 185 Goal weight: Whatever the hell I can maintain without driving myself insane!
*6.5 lost preop
What guy wants to be on an island with all males stripping?
21 + years of wedded bliss (the occasional argument when she's wrong about something), I wouldn't trade her for a whole island of male strippers.
Or did you mean that there would be women there for that?
Could we have some to do laundry too?
And while were talking about it - who wants to have a baby every time they have sex?
I mean really, what kind of guys do you hang around?
21 + years of wedded bliss (the occasional argument when she's wrong about something), I wouldn't trade her for a whole island of male strippers.
Or did you mean that there would be women there for that?
Could we have some to do laundry too?
And while were talking about it - who wants to have a baby every time they have sex?
I mean really, what kind of guys do you hang around?
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