I think you owe it to yourself and your kids (if you have them)
Nothing upsets me more to see people putting themselves down in front of their kids. I have a friend (and I know a lot of people do this) who will talk about how "fat" or "big" she is in front of her daughters who are 9 and 15. It makes me want to cry. Why would you put that on your kids? What is that teaching them? I have never dogged on myself around my son. He doesn't even know what the word fat means. Therefore, he would never address another as being "fat". What my son does know about is eating and exercising to be fit and healthy.
If I was ever frustrated about my weight or myself (which was many times) I would talk to my husband about it after my kids went to bed.
My own mother did this (she was anorexic and was hospitalized many times due to weighing 82 lbs @ 5ft 6) What she didn't realize that ever time she did that and even when she didn't, I always felt like I was never "good enough" in her eyes. She put HER issues with her weight on me and look what ended up happening.
So, the next time you go to put yourself down in front of your kids, think about this....Do you want your kids to feel like they are not good enough or don't measure up, b/c YOU have issues with your weight? You owe it to yourself to be kind and if thinking about yourself doesn't work, think about your beautiful child/children.
Vent over.
If I was ever frustrated about my weight or myself (which was many times) I would talk to my husband about it after my kids went to bed.
My own mother did this (she was anorexic and was hospitalized many times due to weighing 82 lbs @ 5ft 6) What she didn't realize that ever time she did that and even when she didn't, I always felt like I was never "good enough" in her eyes. She put HER issues with her weight on me and look what ended up happening.
So, the next time you go to put yourself down in front of your kids, think about this....Do you want your kids to feel like they are not good enough or don't measure up, b/c YOU have issues with your weight? You owe it to yourself to be kind and if thinking about yourself doesn't work, think about your beautiful child/children.
Vent over.
**SHELLY** HW: 316 SW: 256 GW: 125 CW: 118
I totally agree. My 4 year old daughter is my biggest cheerleader and I have always discussed it with her as "Mommy is fixing her tummy so she can be really healthy and have lots of energy to play with you".
I want to be a good role model. Not a source of angst.
I want to be a good role model. Not a source of angst.
Jenny HW: 268 / SW: 254 / CW: 180 / GW: 140
First 5K: 4.21.2012 - Time: 34:45 - 2nd Place in age group
Second 5K: 6.2.2012 - Time 37:09
First 5K: 4.21.2012 - Time: 34:45 - 2nd Place in age group
Second 5K: 6.2.2012 - Time 37:09
I agree.
Kelly
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I so totally agree! I was put on "a diet" from the time I was 13 y.o., and never felt good enough
just being my own healthy self. then there were all the other messages to overeat "Clean up
your plate", "Waste not, want not", "Take all you want but eat all you take", "You shouldn't weigh
any more than (fill in your own worst # here)", etc.
When I had my first child, I decided I wouldn't put those messages on her. I taught her to pay
heed to her own "fullness" message, and I had to learn what those were myself. If she wasn't
hungry I didn't make her eat. I did encourage her to eat a wide range of healthy foods, but didn't
deny her any treat, but did restrict the amounts given.
With this, I can proudly say that 43 years later, she is at a healthy weight, doesn't stress about
eating or losing weight or have an unhealthy body image. I'm so proud of her, but I'm even more
proud of the fact that I've managed to bring up a healthy woman. My dear son was genetically
predisposed to excessive weight as a child, but at adolecence he shot up (and not out) and is
now at the age of 41 years, very tall and slim, just like his father's father.
I hope that more parents will take this approach to childhood health, and that more and more
children will be able to have healthy views of themselves. In this day and age of childhood
obesity we all need to pay attention to the messages we are transmitting to our children.
I hope you are putting your good epiphany to use in your own family.
Good luck!!
just being my own healthy self. then there were all the other messages to overeat "Clean up
your plate", "Waste not, want not", "Take all you want but eat all you take", "You shouldn't weigh
any more than (fill in your own worst # here)", etc.
When I had my first child, I decided I wouldn't put those messages on her. I taught her to pay
heed to her own "fullness" message, and I had to learn what those were myself. If she wasn't
hungry I didn't make her eat. I did encourage her to eat a wide range of healthy foods, but didn't
deny her any treat, but did restrict the amounts given.
With this, I can proudly say that 43 years later, she is at a healthy weight, doesn't stress about
eating or losing weight or have an unhealthy body image. I'm so proud of her, but I'm even more
proud of the fact that I've managed to bring up a healthy woman. My dear son was genetically
predisposed to excessive weight as a child, but at adolecence he shot up (and not out) and is
now at the age of 41 years, very tall and slim, just like his father's father.
I hope that more parents will take this approach to childhood health, and that more and more
children will be able to have healthy views of themselves. In this day and age of childhood
obesity we all need to pay attention to the messages we are transmitting to our children.
I hope you are putting your good epiphany to use in your own family.
Good luck!!
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