Has anyone else been told this?
Thank you everyone for your replies! I also LOVE the trophy wife answer :)
I guess I need to make my hubby's family realize that I'm doing this for myself, yes, but I'm also doing this for my family and that INCLUDES my husband whom I love with all my heart. I'm doing this in part for him and for our daughter and our future children that we can't have right now because of my weight!
I don't know what's going throught their minds when they're asking/saying this, but next time I hear it, I'll be sure to speak up! :)
I guess I need to make my hubby's family realize that I'm doing this for myself, yes, but I'm also doing this for my family and that INCLUDES my husband whom I love with all my heart. I'm doing this in part for him and for our daughter and our future children that we can't have right now because of my weight!
I don't know what's going throught their minds when they're asking/saying this, but next time I hear it, I'll be sure to speak up! :)
Sometimes family can be the cruelest of all. I often bring up family roles and perhaps some are jealous of your decision. My husband was against me having the surgery as he was afraid I was going to die on the table. I also believe there was a little insecurity there too and nothing like having an unsupportive family there to make insecurities worse. Fortunately, my family was supportive.
If this were my problem, I would have told my family I couldn't believe they thought so little of my devotion to my husband and kids. I would also remind them that I was doing the surgery not only for myself, but to be there for them for many more years than I would be if I didn't have the surgery. And, if I were fortunate enough to be ******y, and skinny again, that's all the better for keeping my marriage hot. Shame on them for trying to create problems where there may not have been any.
I mostly got comments that no one thought I could possibly qualify for the surgery (outside my family), which also hurt deeply. No one thought I was fat enough, yet they weren't walking in my shoes, with my pain, and my co-morbidities.
Most unsupportive people are ignorant or jealous. Just saying...
Paula
If this were my problem, I would have told my family I couldn't believe they thought so little of my devotion to my husband and kids. I would also remind them that I was doing the surgery not only for myself, but to be there for them for many more years than I would be if I didn't have the surgery. And, if I were fortunate enough to be ******y, and skinny again, that's all the better for keeping my marriage hot. Shame on them for trying to create problems where there may not have been any.
I mostly got comments that no one thought I could possibly qualify for the surgery (outside my family), which also hurt deeply. No one thought I was fat enough, yet they weren't walking in my shoes, with my pain, and my co-morbidities.
Most unsupportive people are ignorant or jealous. Just saying...
Paula
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