Post-op sex!

I want to have a really good weekend with my bf and I am only 8 days post-op. How long did you wait before sex? He's great so just know this isnt basic intercourse; it's barberic and I need advice!

It may be a little early for "barbaric" sex, so maybe talk to your BF and tell him that while you would like to be intimate with him, he's going to have to take it easy for another couple of weeks most likely... 

If he's unwilling to be understanding with this, send him to the bathroom with a girlie magazine to be as barbaric as he chooses... alone... 

Lol! Thanks! Its so hard because I feel amazing and "feel" fully recovered! I have to remind myself that this is major surgery!

You do NOT want to hurt yourself, believe me!! Take it easy!!

Laura

 "barbaric" lol! Well said :) 

Vegas,

This is the most asked question on the Sex Board.

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Quick answer is most docs say two weeks but if you feel up to trying doggie with a pillow underneath is most recommended. What ever you do if it hurts - STOP!!

This.  Also, I'd suggest waiting until you are completely off all pain meds.  That way if something hurts you will actually be able to feel it.  For the first couple of times, I'd suggest taking things slow.  The barbaric sex will be sooo much better after a few more weeks....TRUST!

My doctor said 2 weeks. Have a great weekend

Wow, my doc said as soon as I feel good, go for it.  He did say to be careful of using my "core" or doing things that required use of abdonminal muscles for a few weeks but I basically have no time limit. 

I would think your boyfriend would be understanding and can also have just as a fantastic time while being more "vanilla"!   Just take it easy and like everyone says...if it hurts, STOP and find something else.  Good lawdy there are a MILLION things you can do that are...well...low impact on your abdominal wall.  It's fun time to be creative!!

well I hope you are doing well and enjoying barbaic sex by now. lol I realize this was posted a while ago. I was supposed to wait 2 weeks. Day 8 I felt great and did it. Day Day 10 felt even better and did it, doggie style. Day 11, today, major adominal pain. Yea not good. I called the doc, went in to do a Barium swallow, all looks well in the xray no leaks, but if the pain doesn't go away by tomorrow I have to go have catscans done. :( I hoping I didn't do anything to my sleeve, hoping for just a pulled muscle!~