ON STRIKE UNTIL I HAVE MY RNY!!
I am hopefully scheduled to have my Rny by the middle of DEC, as long as I complete some of the Pre op test that my surgeon needed. But here is the thing, I feel like I am at a stand still in life, sort of like I am on strike! I really don't want to go to no social events, if I did not have to go to work I would'nt, I will go to events that my kids are in, because I know that it is important to them. I feel bad that I don't want to do any thing but focus on having this surgery! I get invites to alot of social events, and I hate that I don't show up, but I just can't wait to go to these events after my surgery. Have anybody else felt like that during there Pre op when your surgery date was getting near? I am just so ready to live again!

I had many of those same feelings - for years before WLS. Now that I've lost considerable weight (about 70 lbs), I'm more comfortable meeting new people, and I feel like I'm "me". I used to think I was thinner than I was, and I'd look into the mirror and not recognize the person there.
Pretty soon, I might allow someone to take my picture!
My advice to you is to start being as active as you can. It will help tone you throughout the weight loss process, and give you a little jump start now. Even when your weight loss stalls, you'll see the inches drop if you exercise.
Good luck
Pretty soon, I might allow someone to take my picture!
My advice to you is to start being as active as you can. It will help tone you throughout the weight loss process, and give you a little jump start now. Even when your weight loss stalls, you'll see the inches drop if you exercise.
Good luck
Yes, I remember exactly like you have stated. But now I no longer enjoy getting dressed due to being in the in-between stage. All of my clothes are getting too big and I don't really want to shop until I lose about another 30lbs or so. I find it hard to buy clothes that will be too big a month down the road.... just doesn't seem economicaL to me. A lot of people use thrift shops, but I am not a successful thrift shop peson. Bassically what I am trying to say is there will always be something and it takes awhile befoe our minds catch up with our WL. Start living your life for now, because tomorrow isn't promised to any of us and it will make your process go by faster while you wait for WLS.
Once I started focusing on other things and not WLS, the process seemed to go by faster!
Be Blessed,
Evelyn
Once I started focusing on other things and not WLS, the process seemed to go by faster!
Be Blessed,
Evelyn
I am pre op too. I'm supposed to have surgery next month. These last 3 months have been all about me obsessing on this journey. NOTHING else matters to me right now.
My social life is halted and my work life is an inconvenience.
I am 100% focused on me and that is fine... This maybe the first time in my life that I have put me before everything else.
My social life is halted and my work life is an inconvenience.
I am 100% focused on me and that is fine... This maybe the first time in my life that I have put me before everything else.
You know it is funny because I feel like I obsessed pre RNY and now I am 6 days post and I dont feel like anything has changed. Granted I am still healing but I think I am numb, I am ready to actually taste food, I am tired of sipping, sipping, sipping and OMG protein drinks are not the best tasting. I am paranoid about making sure I take all of my recommended vitimans daily, everytime my feet fall asleep I have visions of blood clots...... I am ready to get back to my "normal" happy self.
My start to surgery date went so fast it was less then 6 weeks, that I am still in shock. Try to enjoy everyday. I thank God that I haven't had any issues. I do miss food though, I have to work with liquids until Tuesday then I can have cream of ...... yeah! just miss chewing and all the different foods.
Hang in there its coming, enjoy Thanksgiving, because you will be recovering at Christmas!
Yes you are right vivianne, I am definately going to enjoy Thanksgiving, and it will give me time to talk to family members that I have not seen about my WLS, I am definately going to enjoy the food, because that will probaly be it for awhile, but I am so ready to let food go! Thanks and good luck with your journey!
Thanks for the advice ladies, and I agree with all of you guys, I feel like if I exercise more it will give me something to do, keep my mind focused on something else than WLS, and it will also keep me toned and ready, but I definately agree with Debra she hit it right on the nose, I am so focused on me right now, I am always making sure that everybody else is good that I rarely take time for myself, but that is going to change, I joined a gym 2 weeks ago, but I missed all of this past week, due to menstrual cramps, and my stomach felt so bad! I just felt really ill, and I just lost my pep! I am ready this week, and Monday I am back at it! Far as the social events, I will work on that. ALL I CAN SAY IS COME ON WLS!
If you are ready to live again, why not start living now? If you can't wait to go to social events after surgery, have you considered that if you don't show up for things now, people may stop inviting you because they'll think you don't want to come or that you don't like them or something. By the time you have surgery, you may not be getting invited to many social events.
And again, why should you put off starting to live until after surgery?
And again, why should you put off starting to live until after surgery?
Please note: I AM NOT A DOCTOR. If you want medical advice, talk to your doctor. Whatever I post, there is probably some surgeon or other health care provider somewhere that disagrees with me. If you want to know what your surgeon thinks, then ask him or her. Check out my blog.
Miss Poet Kelly you are right, and I agree, I usually do make important social events, I have not started feeling like this until the past month or so. Up until then I was fine, but my friends and family *****ally know me, they will understand, and if they are my real friends they will be there after I have my Christmas Day "RNY", because that is how I am feeling anxious, sort of like how a kid feels on Christmas! So if I don't make a couple of things Pre op, I have faith that they will still be there Post op> If not then they were not real friends in the first place! Far as living goes, I always have fun , enjoy myself, and my family. I am very outgoing person, who will make a joke out of everything! I can have fun just sitting at the dinner table making jokes with my kids and husband, that is just me the life of the party! That is why I get so many invites!
VSG on 06/11/13
I know how you are feeling. I was a hermit the entire summer. All I did was read, research, and prepare. I drove myself nuts. I wasted a lot of time thinking about it so much. I was out of school so it was worse. I suggest you force yourself out there or take baby steps. Some opportnities will be missed and never come again if you pass them up. Also obsessing and focusing on something that is just a waiting game will change nothing. What will be will be.
