Why is my temper so short?

 I am only 8 days out and have been feeling really good overall.  I am doing everything I am supposed to do - taking my nutrition, giving myself lovenox shots, getting up moving around etc etc etc.  Very few side effects so I am really lucky.  What is puzzling me is my temper.  

I have been married 38 years and my husband was 100% supportive of this decision.  Yet he kind of forgets I might need his help.  I asked him to pick up milk. I want skim and he does stop and get it but it is ON the expiration date. I got one day of milk from that quart.  I mentioned I needed the EAS AdvantEDGE carb control protein shakes and he brings me Ensure.  Guess what the 2nd ingredient is??  SUGAR.  I asked if he fed the dogs and reminded him it will be cold tonight and they need to come so he asks me to go make up their beds and feed them.  Seems to me he should be helping a bit more instead of expecting me to do all the chores.  

Yep I have been a wee bit cranky. Obviously his support was for the day of the surgery only (oh and he was not even in the waiting room when the dr came in to update him. - this was a big deal to me and he knew it).  If I was the type woman that would hit another human being I think he would be #1 on the list! LOL

Have any of you felt this anger?  Is it normal?  Do I need to talk to my therapist? I don't have much relationship with him - only getting approved for the surgery. I don't want to be mean but I can't stop the feelings.

A lot of what he's doing seems like typical guy stuff to me.  Last time I sent my partner to the store, he could not find my protein bars (insisted they did not carry that brand, but they do, he was looking in the wrong aisle), brought home some variety of cat food the cats cannot eat because one of them is diabete and can only have certain foods (and has been on the same foods for about 18 months now), bought the canned chickpeas in the international aisle (which cost more) instead of the store brand in the aisle with all the beans (even though I specifically wrote where to get them on the shopping list - but then, I wrote what aisle to find the protein bars in, too, and he couldn't find them).

Is it possible he does these things a lot but it's just irritating you more than usual right now?

Who usually does the shopping?  Would it even occur to him to check the date on the  milk?

I don't mean to discount your feelings.  It is annoying.  I'm just guessing he doesn't mean to be annoying you.

Yes, I have been that angry and yes, it's completely normal. It took my husband a few weeks to get with the program. He was so used to me stepping and fetching he didn't know what to do with himself when he had to rustle his own grub. I had to remind him I had major surgery--he needed several reminders.

 well I have always been the one to do all of the shopping, cooking etc.  I guess when he is ill or injured in some way I dote on him and make sure I have everything he needs.  I think nothing of running to the store to get items.  I feel he should WANT to do the same for me.  

I may be just a little overly emotional since the surgery.  But he better get his butt in gear! Anniversary 40 is a renewable option!  LOL

One thing that happens sometimes is, you might dote on him when he's sick, eager to help and give comfort, but he might actually prefer some time alone and less attention.  You may be giving him what you think he would want and what you would want if you were sick, but not what he wants.  And he may be doing the same thing.

The bottom line is, you need explain very clearly what things you'd like him to do to help you.  It doesn't mean he doesn't love you if he can't read your mind to figure them out.

If you're dependent on others to get items you need as a post op, WRITE THEM DOWN.  Old habits, poor memory, lack of reading labels, etc. will lead to a lot of disappointments.  Personally, I seem to have a limit of 3 things to remember for the market. If it's 4 or more, I'm likely to forget one.  So write down things you want--that way there should be no mistake unless it's intentional.  Or, drive yourself to the store to pick up items, or have a friend drive you to pick up your items.  Each post op, or their family member who does the shopping, as to learn to READ LABELS after surgery.  It sounds like you need some more support other then your husband.  Make sure you attend support groups. You may find a fellow post op there to exercise with, or to encourage you when you have issues.  "..a wee bit cranky" is a real possiblity, as female hormones fluctuate greatly post op, causing wide mood swings.  If you feel the real need to talk to a professional, then do so. No sense in living with these feelings when you talk to someone to feel better. You'll have enough challenges the first few weeks post op. DAVE

 You might also consider that we store excess hormones in our fat.  As we lose that fat, those hormones are realsed back into our system.  Think of it as an extra dose of PMS.  Another thing to think about is that you no longer have food to help you swallow your feelings.  You can't sugar coat your anger/frustration/sadness/worry with a piece of cake or the last few bites of that half gallon of icecream in the freezer.  I cried for a month.  I bit everyone's head off for... okay, I still have days where my son, dog and cat run from me after taking one look.  

It's a pain in the keester, but it does ease up.  

I think too, if you were the one that did all these things pre-op, they are not ingrained in him to come naturally. He probably honestly doesnt even think about it, and is not doing it, or not doing it(depending on the situation) intentionally.
We have a routine in my house, and my husbans is responsible for certain things, but when I shake up the routine, it's actually hard for him....men!