Oh my aching bum!

I already know that many of you have experienced this because I've read posts related to this very thing, but for some reason I never thought I would be one of the lucky to have the tailbone pain.

I swear it doesn't matter how soft and cushiony a seat is, after a while my tailbone just aches so bad! And forget about leaning back and relaxing in the tub! I tried to do just that last night and literally had to sit on my hands because it felt like my bone was directly on the hard bottom of the tub!

Now, any suggestions on how to deal with it? Pillows, getting up and moving more often or adjusting position? How long did it last for those who have dealt with this issue?

I am 20 weeks out and my bum always hurts. I sit sideways, with my tail bone pointing either left or right, never straight down.

I have had this for months.  I have found that the "tush cush" works quite well, and really helped the pain, but it took a few days. You can find them online.  The real tush cush works better than the cheap ones.   It makes you sit very forward, so it will take your back a while to develop strength so it doesn't hurt....

I had this issue that bothered me daily about 6-8 months postop, and the pain subsided with time.  www.backjoy.com is their site. There was only one model then, and I saw mine on QVC shopping channel.  I still use it in my office chair when I might have to sit for an extended perios of time.  The "Relief" model today is likely suited to tail bone issues, from the site's description.  Even in a soft padded car seat, I could only drive an hour before my tailbone really hurt early post op.  DAVE

I am two and a half years out and still have this. It is so miserable that I spend most of my day laying down in my bed. It hurts too much to sit.

I recently spent a week in the hospital and had to have pain meds because my but hurt too much. Due having sleep apnea and no machine at the hospital with me I had to sleep sitting up. My tailbone hurt so much.

Out of everyone I have known that had WLS and had the tailbone pain has all had it go away after a period of time. I haven't tho. Don't know why I had to hit the tailbone pain jackpot but i'd still do this whole thing all over again knowing i'd spend the rest of my life barely able to sit.

Losing the weight I have lost is worth dealing with what i've had to.

I hope that your pain goes away soon. It's miserable to not be able to sit. Be sure your doctors know how much it hurts tho. There are things they can try to do so that you don't hurt too much. No one should have to live in pain if it can be helped.

Take care and let us know how it all goes for you!

 i've had this problem my entire life as i've never had any cushioning on my bum. it's kind of sad really lol. a woman actually stopped me in the subway station about a month ago to tell me my pants were going to fall down, they weren't, that's just how baggy they are on my butt!

Works better for me to move the pressure off my tailbone, and onto the outter part of my bottom. Some people use the traditional donut pillow. If you can't find the right size, stop by Ace Hardware and see if they have an inner tube that's the right size. Thats what I did. I partially inflated it, and stuck it in a pillowcase. I alternate it with another type of pillow from a drugstore. Good luck.

 This is the first I heard of this!   What causes it?

As you lose weight, you lose padding.

I'm the Queen of the aching bum

search on Amazon.com for a ****YX CUSHION.... NOT a donut pillow, but a wedge shaped cushion with a divot cut out the back side. It'll give your tailbone breathing room, and allow your bum to acclimitize to your new situation.

MOST people (perhaps 90% to 95%) who experience the aching butt get over it in a few weeks to months. Using a ****yx cushion expedites this for most folks

SOME don't get over it that easily. For those folks, I'd suggest seeing an orthopedic doctor, or an orthopedic pain specialist (that is the specialist I saw) for the folks who go this route, usually a series of one, two or three cortisone shots to the tush over time eliminate the problem. For me the first shot helped, the second left me at 15% max pain for a year, and the third and fourth didn't do diddly.

For a very teeny tiny minority, (say one in 100,000) the tailbone pain doesn't respond to anything. In that case you're in for a medical fight to get something done about it (I really honestly would say that this is almost as rare as the incidence of lightning strikes amongst the gastrically altered)... if you are like me, you'll eventually get around to having it removed. In my case I had big-butt-syndrome from a very young age. The muscles that pull the tailbone up when sitting atrophied or never existed for me. When I lost my butt-shelf and ultimately anything resemblng a caboose, my tailbone was being traumatized EVERY time I sat down. Then I fell and broke it again, and even though my pain specialist assured me from day one that he NEVER refers ANY patient to have the tailbone removed, that is exactly what he did. In my case I was NEVER going to get better. So I took the plunge and had the surgery. I blame regaining back to the BEST weight for me me on the surgery (up 9 pounds directly after surgery, another 9 pounds in the months following)

****ygectomy is tricky and iffy. One in four have severe complications (some as extreme as colostomy!) and one in five experience WORSE pain after than before. For myself, I'm down to a pain-medicine-assisted 15% max pain. Much better than how it was, but still not optimum.

So...get thee a ****yx cushion, and someday soon you'll forget you have a tailbone.