Weird Issue

I know this is strange, but I'd like to hear opinions from others.

My entire adult life I have hated, literally hated, shopping for clothes.  I am not stylish, and coordinating outfits is extremely difficult for me.  I was a teacher.  I would buy several pants and shirts at the beginning of school and wear those same outfits all year long.  Horrible

Since I have lost weight, I have purchased some new things - not a lot because I do not work, so I do not need a wardrobe.  But this is my issue.  I have all these new items hanging in my closet, with tags, and I don't wear them.  I don't know why.  I don't know if it is because I don't want to "mess" them up.  These are casual, very inexpensive clothes.  I went into my closet, which is very small. to look for a pair of jeans and found some black Capri's, with the tags, I don't remember buying.  That is how long ago I bought them.

I'm trying to understand why I do not want to wear these clothes.  Did I go so long without dressing nicely?  My husband brought this to my attention a few days ago asking why I don't wear all  those pants that are hanging with tags.  He asked if I knew I had them.

 Do you feel you don't deserve nice clothing? Because you do. :) 

My advice? 

Wear something new everyday this week. Enjoy it! You deserve to look and feel nice.

I just stepped out of the shower.  The entire time I was in I was asking myself that same question.  I'm getting my hair cut today, and I have on old jeans and old faded Walmart shirt.  I don't know if it isme wanting to be comfortable?  I do believe there is something I need to get in touch with.  You read my mind this morning. Thanks

Good advice, Bella.
I totally agree  :)

Bella's right. Decide to wear a new outfit every day this week. You are so beautiful and you should be dressing beautifully as well! Wake up and say to yourself " I'm going to look great today" then open that closet and glam up. Lol. Add two pieces of jewelry to your outfit as well!

Congrats on you because you look great!

Another idea. Grab a stylish friend and have her go through your closet w you and put together outfits for you. Take pictures of them and make a book or use you cell phone camera and save pics of the outfits so you can use them to put your outfits together!

I've started looking at how clothes are coordinated on various websites.  When I first began losing weight my oldest daughter kept telling me she wanted to take me shopping, but she wanted to be able to pick out everything.  We did that, but our tastes are very different in a lot of areas.  I gave away 4 tops a while back that I had never worn.  I think they were too young looking for me.  My check and arms were exposed, and there is too much loose skin for my comfort.  My husband began buying me James Avery, my favorite silver jewelry, and I do not even wear those pieces.  I am going to have to break myself out of this rut.  Thanks

Hey Honey,  you're hot!  Flaunt it.  Get out of the crappy jeans and wal-mart shirt just because they are "comfortable"  There are plenty of stylish clothes that are just as comfortable.  You've worked hard to look great.  You no longer have to hide behind drab clothes.  When you dress it up, you'll feel alot better about yourself.  I'm sure you spent so many years trying to hide your body and dressing down so no one would notice you had a few extra pounds.  Now is your time.  No longer necessary to hide anything.  Come out of your shell and show the world how beautiful you are. 

Thank..that was very nice.  You are right.  I am naturally introverted.  That is my personality.  And your are right about dressing down...it is easier to hide.  That is why I am so happy for the younger ones on this site who are doing this for themselves while younger, so they can have years of healthy enjoyment

And here's something as well. We did this surgery for health, right? And you are healthier. But one of the (awesome) side effects is feeling more comfortable in your own skin and looking better, right? Clothes fit better, clothes look better.

So, I am ordering you to take off that wal mart shirt and put on something nice. Okay, not ordering, but asking you. And put on a piece of jewelry. Then go get your hair done. And buy a new lipstick. It's time to invest in YOU, and reap the benefits of this surgery.