pissed

I'd be  mad, too.  It sounds like your "friend" is not such a good friend, though, if you can't trust her not to tell the whole town.

Since the cat is out of the bag now, just remember you don't have to discuss your medical care with anyone that you don't want to.  If someone asks you, you can just say "I'd prefer not to talk about it."  If they keep asking questions, you can tell them they are making you very uncomfortable.  That stops most people because most people don't want to make others uncomfortable  But you can also end the conversation and walk away if they are persistent.

 I only told two friends that I thought I could trust. I found out later that one of them told all of our other mutual friends. Needless to say, we are not friends anymore. A friend that has broken your trust like that is not a friend at all. 

 yea she knows she pissed me off .. i wasnt ready and it really hit me off guard today .. needless to say we will see how this relationship pans out :(

I agree with everyone that this girl is really not a friend. 

I would express to her how disappointed you are in her and let her go now.  If you can't trust her now, she will not be there to support you in the long run and you need to surround yourself with a supportive group.  


Sarah

 thanks everyone .. i love this website ... you guys make a BIG difference in this process

I didnt mean anything by the question and i completely agree thats not a very friend like act. i was simply asking your point of view on why you didnt want to tell people. so that i could try and understand. a person in this conversation pretty much called me a bad person for  asking. and it offended me. Im sorry your "friend" violated your privacy and im sorry if my question offended you. that was not my intention.

 nothing was wrong with your post at all :)

I read all of the posts and I didn't see anyone call you a bad person.

I have to tell you that when I read your post it kind of came across like you were putting the blame on her for not telling people. She was betrayed by someone she believed to be her friend and I feel so bad for her. I KNOW you didn't mean to make light of what happened. I can tell you that NO ONE here thinks you're a bad person, so I hope you won't worry about it!!

Tell your "Friend" you are getting rid of the excess weight and tell her GOODBYE

The behaviour your "friend" has displayed was immoral if not borderline criminal.  As a grown man I would never go in my wife's purse without her expicitly asking and wouldn't open another mans wallet on a dare.  Is that usual behaviour for that person?  I agree with other posters that it is grounds to say, bye-bye and to make it clear why unless that is the kind of relationship you want.  It is your rightto keep your surgery private, and you don't have to justify to anyone.  Your weight loss will require 1:  hard work,  2  eating only tiny meals & 3: excercise.  So if anyone ever asks "what's your secret?", that can be a truthful answer if you so choose  Some people who don't even know me personally but have seen me around the office are complimentary about my weight loss, and I just say "thank you" or " I feel good". If they ask, pry, or be nost, I give the same answer.  My business is my business, and you have that same right to privacy.