Dealing with the unsupportives

You will need someone to take care of the dogs when you're in the hospital, but when you get home you will be able to feed, water and let them out just fine.  In fact, you'll be able to fix meals, wash dishes, etc.  It's just the bending/lifting stuff you can't do much of and you do get tired easily and may have to take naps.  The really good news is that, if you're in the city and walk your dogs, you can kill to birds with one stone by getting your walking in. 

One caveat, if they are big dogs and you have to walk them, you will need some help so if one of the dogs decides to take off, you don't risk suture damage trying to hang on to him.

As far as support goes, it may make better mental health at the time, but you must remember that you are taking this journey for you.  There's a lot of time you need to spend solely with you in the preparation and execution of all of the plans.  No one, no matter how supportive, will ever know or understand all you're feeling.  IMHO, the good folks here at this forum are the best support of all because they understand from being there.  I have good family support, but my best encouragement has come from the terrific folks here!

My mother was the same way.  Once she realized I had made my mind up and my surgery date approached she stopped worrying and stepped up and helped me A LOT...I found out later after talking to her she was so unsupportive pre op because she was scared for me.  I'm her only child so she didnt want me to have surgery because she know the possibility of dying on the table...her fear though came off as unsupport..

but once my surgery day came and i made it through she took the wheel and handled everything..she stepped up so much to the point i was surprised.