Need to vent about poor fashion choices post wls

I think this is an interesting conversation and I've read all replies. I don't really worry about what others wear usually although I believe dressing appropriately for the occasion is important.

I try to wear stylish age appropriate most of the time, at work always. I will admit to buying and wearings things "because I can". Fairly conservative I don't show my ass, pubic line or breast. Showing some cleavage heck yeah I do because I have it and I can. I also wear low rise jeans and pants and no muffin top from hell hanging over yet I do have a slight pair of love handles that show sometimes through my clothes.

My body proportions are more jr sized (thin legs and noassatall) if I buy ladies sizes I look like a clown with baggy pants. I go buy the saying "just because it's in my/your size doesn't mean you should wear it" essentially if it doesn't accent your body type in a positive way find something that will.

 I've always had a very specific sense of style.  I like tailored trousers and jackets, a-line skirts with clean patterns, and solid colored t-shirts, sweaters and blouses.  For casual wear, I like well-fitting t-shirts and straight legged or wide-legged jeans, paired with fitted jackets or sweaters.  For dressy wear, I'll depart, but that is always the most complicated shopping.  

My sense of style is not going to change with my weight loss, because it is part of my core aesthetic.  While I'm losing weight, I may find it difficult to find the idea fitting clothes, but so far, I've managed to find acceptable clothing that works at the thrift and consignment stores.  

My biggest challenge, besides making sure I don't wear things that are way oversized has been to find foundation garments that fit.  My bra size went from a 42C to a 36/38 A/B.  I wouldn't say that I don't need a bra, but man.... when you're that small, you run the risk of having a bra that does way too much for ya!  Those babies could poke an eye out!

As for judging other people's sense of style (or lack thereof), given how painful shopping has become for me post-menopause (I always get hotflashes), I'm really not comfortable going there.  However, I do disagree with those who say we don't have a right to judge.  We do have a right to judge.  Just as others have a right to judge us for judging.  The question is whether judging serves any purpose that is consistent with joyful living.  That is for each of us to decide for ourselves.

I'm pretty much wearing the same stuff I wore before. I have always shown cleavage & I still do, though they are smaller now. But in all honesty, I don't care what others wear. They can wear what they please. I wear what I please. And I'm not a junior, but that is what I wear! I have no hips or butt, so ladies is to big. So juniors it is! I dress casual for work, and I dress up, spiky heals and all, when I go out.

My only concern is that post-WLS, most of us are a bit lumpy-bumpy. If you want to wear tight revelaing clothing, please do yourself a favor and wear shapewear to smooth everything out. 

I bought a couple of the nicest shapewear tanks, and I'm startled by how nicely they just smooth things down a bit. Still lumpy and bumpy and don't always wear them, but it makes me feel good looking and as beautiful as possible for me, and I enjoy feeling like I look my best. Some days though I don't put much effort into it.

This coming september though I'll be on television for the month, so I might even invest in a small amount of makeup, a hair-dryer, a curling iron, all that stuff.... look good on TV stuff.

I might even get my ears pierced! 

I realize this post is about POST WLS attire, but as I was outside today in the 91° heat it dawned on me that MAYBE how someone dresses post WLS is exactly how they dressed PRE-WLS. Just a thought!

Pre-op I wore what fitted and what I purchased (not so cool) and what hubby picked out as nice while we shopped (always better than my personal taste).

I think it's funny how clothing that others pick out for me is always complimented on a lot more than stuff I pick out.

I have no dress sense.

I have nothing further to add but want to push this post one step further toward 100 replies for absolutely no good reason.

That is all.

Well, un that case I'll post too, but I will add that I wear shape wear, and if Adele can wear four spanks to an event, I can wear two to look awesome! and to hide those lumpy bumps.

 Although I am still *in progress* I struggle with this daily. In spite of my horrid batwings, for the first time in too many years, I am wearing short sleeves and be damned if you don't like it. lol It feels good to not be dressed like a polar bear!!! I'm trying to work on wearing capris...(my calfs and ankles are horrible too!)