weight loss and relationships

So every Friday I clean clean my house. Fridays the only day I dont have class so thats when I get everything done ( I like to have my weekends free :) So while I clean thats my thinking time. I was just wondering how weight loss has affected your marriages or relationships. My fiance and I have been together for a little over 5 years. When we met we were both overweight. After he became a police officer and went through the academy he lost about 50 pounds. Bringing him down to about 250. He is a about 6'3 so it was a good look for him :). Well after the academy he gained it back plus some. So right now we are both very overweight. For the most part we dont do any physical activites. We love to eat. I think thats probably our favorite thing to do. Other than that we love to go to the movies, we go every sunday. We both love to read and have tons in common. When I got my lapband in the beggining I worked out ( I did water aerobics) and couldnt get him to come with me. He also didnt make an effort to change his eating habits at all.Which I know that just because I chose to try and change my life doesnt mean he has to jump on the band wagon. However you who know me know I had a lot of issues with my band and am having a revision to RNY. Im just a little worried now how it will affect our relationship. I have such a desire to be an active person. All our friends are super healthy and are always doing something. Hiking, marathons, playing softball you name it. Im really excited to lose my weight and start doing these things. I am 24 and my fiance is 25. We could be doing so many things but cant because of our weight. I just worry that once I lose my weight and start getting actice what will he do? I hope with maybe seeing the weight come off of me it will encourage him to lose as well. I swear he loses weight so fast I dont understand! LUCKY HIM :) I just want us to both be happy and healthy together. We havent had kids yet but plan to after we marry and Im done with school. I want us to both be active and to set an example for our children. I want to lose weight so we can have a long life together. Im hoping he will join me on my journey but what if he doesnt? So I was just wondering how the weight loss has affected what you and your signifigant others do together?

My weight loss hasn't affected my relationship with my partner very much.  I'm not a real active person and neither is he, but that doesn't mean we do the same things all the time.  We both like to read, and he loves to watch movies, and I like to do some crafts, and if he's watching a movie I'll read a book or work on a craft, and if I'm working on a craft he'll watch a movie or read a book.  We are OK with doing some things together and some things not together.

We both like to eat, too, and like to go out to eat.  I just eat different things now and less of them.

Well, my husband was already overweight to begin with...and truthfully, he gained more weight after my surgery because he ate all my leftovers.
He likes to do sedentary things...movies, dinners, concerts. That's fine, we still do those things. If I want to go on a walk, or go for a bike ride and he's not keen to do it, I find someone that is. I'll go with my daughter or sister.
I think it's important not to leave his interests in the dust when you're out climbing mountains and running marathons, but just balance them with his.
Maybe you'll get lucky and he'll be motivated to include more active things in his lifestyle.
Good luck in the next part of your journey!

Lol my situation was completely reversed.  My husband had RNY 2 years ago and lost 250lbs and was being very active while I was overweight and wanted nothing to do with physical activity and sweating.  He would ask me to go to the gym or on walks with him and I simply would not go.  He never forced the issue, just explained that he really wanted me to get a little active and have more activities to do together.  Well now that I have had my surgery my desire to workout has sky rocketed.  Now we go to the gym, walk, bike, and swim together.  It's really awesome having these activities to do together and to be able to motivate each other.  I love being physically active, and I LOVE my hubby! 

 My wife and I are both 52 and have been married for 18 years. We've both been overweight for most of our adult lives- when I made the the decision to have surgery to improve my life, my wife was very supportive-  however, she did joke and say she would be pissed when I weighed less than her. Well, now I weigh about 60 lbs less than her. I run 5 or so miles a couple of times a week and visit the gym for free weights to maintain my weight loss and overall health.  I have encouraged her to participate with me with little to no avail. She keeps saying she wants do do it, but she doesn't. So I quietly do it on my own. I need to be very careful about my comments these days because for a long time I was not active and didn't take care of myself either, and surgery does not seem to be an option for her, although she would probably qualify for it. You can't make someone do someting that they're not ready for. See alcoholic- I just know that I need to take care of myself and don't worry if anyone else is coming along for the ride.
Just sayin'

Tim T.