OT-I'm so not ready for this. (Ladies only please)
My 12 year old daughter is growing up too fast. Today she finally started her period for
the first time. I could of cried. I started at age 13, but it still seems kind of early to me,
but I knew it was coming soon so I've been preparing her since the beginning of last
school year. Now its here & I'm so not ready for this. Lol I told her at least she started
at home & not in school like I did. She is embarrassed about it all. I told her theres
nothing to be embarrassed about, it just means she is growing up. Any mothers out
there that have already gone through this phase have any words of encouragement or suggestions?
the first time. I could of cried. I started at age 13, but it still seems kind of early to me,
but I knew it was coming soon so I've been preparing her since the beginning of last
school year. Now its here & I'm so not ready for this. Lol I told her at least she started
at home & not in school like I did. She is embarrassed about it all. I told her theres
nothing to be embarrassed about, it just means she is growing up. Any mothers out
there that have already gone through this phase have any words of encouragement or suggestions?
Highest weight : 315 lbs, Surgery weight: 298.5 lbs, Current weight: 183.5 lbs
I'm not a mother but I was a very late bloomer. I didn't start my period until I was 16 and it happened in school. That was bad. My mom did this with me, she took me aside and asked me if I had any questions or if I would to get any questions that she would always be there for me. She took more of a friend role which made it easier for me. She told me what happened when she was on hers and what she did. I would tell her the difference between pads and tampos and what type of underwear kinda fits better with what. I would teach her to mark down the day she started so she has a rough guess in 28 that she will be starting again. I would try to be more of a friend with a shoulder to lead on until she is able to cope with everything and let her know you will always be there. I hope this helps.
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Not a mom but congrats on your daughter. Look at it for what it is, you have a healthy young lady on your hands that is speaking to you about this even is she is embarrased. I was 11 and luckily at home. I was an active girl but mom didn't like the whole idea of tampons so I had figure them out on my own which was not a pretty situation. Good luck to both of you and try to include your husband so he stills knows that his now "grown up" daughter is still his little girl.
My 11 year old just started a few months ago. I knew it was coming, but when she came down stairs and said, mom..... I said, NO, go to your room.. she just stood there and said, what do I do mom? ugh.. she started a week before my dad passed away, so you can imagine the huge emotions I have had to deal with these past few months. We homeschool, so I didn't have to worry about her starting at school, but I was always worried she would freak out...she was all calm and didn't seem to care. We were at walmart and she announced..and I need pads by the way.. I wanted to crawl under a rock, she just kept walking. I think since we've taught them its normal and nothing to worry about, they are just okay with it. When I was a kid the school made a big deal about it, seperating the boys and girls and making a big thing of it, I think it made girls feel like it was a dirty secret. I have two more girls to do through this with!
Girls are starting earlier and earlier, it seems. Some people think it's due to all the growth hormones in milk now.
Try not to make it seem like a big deal to her and like you did, tell her it's nothing to be embarrassed about, it's something all women do. Maybe it would help to refer to her as a woman, you know, 'cause kids like to think they are growing up.
It's a good time to talk about sex, if you haven't had the sex talk yet. Or even if you have, because it's good to try to keep an open dialog going about that. So explain why women have periods and how they can get pregnant and how to prevent pregnancy, and explain how you can get STD's and that they can occur even if you have oral sex or even if you have sex with another woman. Let her know she can come to you with any questions.
Try not to make it seem like a big deal to her and like you did, tell her it's nothing to be embarrassed about, it's something all women do. Maybe it would help to refer to her as a woman, you know, 'cause kids like to think they are growing up.
It's a good time to talk about sex, if you haven't had the sex talk yet. Or even if you have, because it's good to try to keep an open dialog going about that. So explain why women have periods and how they can get pregnant and how to prevent pregnancy, and explain how you can get STD's and that they can occur even if you have oral sex or even if you have sex with another woman. Let her know she can come to you with any questions.
Kelly
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They sure are starting earlier. I did tell her now she can get pregnant if she ever has sex & her eyes got big as saucers. lol She said she was not going to do that & I said good cuz I'd kill you. lol Of course this was all in a semi-joking tone. She is still holding on to mommy said I cant have a boyfriend until Im 18 or moved out & I'd like to keep it that way as long as possible. lol
Highest weight : 315 lbs, Surgery weight: 298.5 lbs, Current weight: 183.5 lbs
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