OT: Homecoming Dance update

So homecoming was Saturday and my son was so excited, he picked up her corsage, and he bought a tie to match the girls dress, he was so nervous, and he looked so handsome! My husband washed this Charger so we drove that to go and pick her up. She looked cute with bright purple and blue hair and purple eyebrows and she seemed really nervous just as you would have expected her to, but she was polite and seemed sweet. 

When my son and I got to the house she was just sitting on the porch alone waiting for us...I thought that was odd where were her parents? didn't they want to meet my son or at least see their daughter off to her first homecoming dance? take a picture? Anyway I didn't ask after all maybe they were at work?  I just introduced myself, told her how happy I was to meet her, and that she looked beautiful. I snapped a few pictures of them and we were off! Things seemed to be going great, My son even put her corsage on the correct wrist, just as we had practiced :)

I took them to meet a group of friends at a pizza place and after that I dropped them off at the school for the dance.

When I went to pick them up, my son said she left in the middle of the dance because she said that she just really did not want to be there,  was not having a good time and wanted to leave... so she did.  He seemed sad and disappointed but he said that he was not surprised that she acted this way because,  
 
a few days before the dance he has asked her about her religion (it had never ocured to him before I brought it up last week)
She told him that she was a Satanist sub religion (I can't remember the exact name of it) But it was not about doing evil or hurting people but it was about self preservation, self enhancement, and doing whatever necessary to elevate ones self regardless of others. I asked him if he felt like she was serious about this and truly believed this way or if it was just something she was saying, trying to get attention, or something like that he said that he believed her and she seemed to be open and honest about it. (I don't know how true that is, my gut tells me that she is just crying out for attention)

So my son feels like she bailed , for no reason he said that things were going great, everyone was having a good time and she just pouted and complaned the whole time after he tried so hard to make the evening nice.  At  this point he says that he does not think they can even be friends.

I guess staying out of it and allowing this to play out on it's own was the best decision, I did not have to call her out to show him how she was, she did it herself without any intervention from me.

I felt really awful about the whole thing, I honestly was hoping that they would have a good time and enjoy the party.  I never wanted him to feel rejected especially by a girl at his first High School dance, but I think he still had a good time with his other friends.

Thanks again for all of your input everyone, it really did help me make a better decision on how to approach the situation :)

 Well, shoot! I was hoping he would have a good time. But, there's a lesson in there for him. Sounds like you've done a great job Mom!

My some had a few of those homecoming and prom nights where the girl was self involved and pouty. He soon learned what type of girl was for him and he enjoyed the rest of High School. I'm sorry she turned out to be that way and I hope he had a good time anyway. You did the right thing by staying out of it and believe me I know how hard that was. Being a parent is the hardest job we will ever have.

You know, it sounds like she is pretty troubled.  Maybe you can suggest to your son that she might have some problems, that don't have anything to do with him, that made her unable to enjoy the dance and have a good time.  He did everything he needed to do to make it a nice evening but he can't fix her problems.

And yeah, it sounds like you handled it just right.  If you'd told him he couldn't go to the dance with her, or given him a hard time about her, now he'd still be mad at you and wanting to prove you wrong instead of realizing she isn't the right person for him.

Sucks she just left like that but from your post and her missing parents it seems like she might have some at-home problems. I hope your son really did have a good time with his friends. In a few years when this girl is older and out of this phase she'll look back and remember the nice normal guy that took her to the dance and made her feel special when she felt the whole world was against her.

 Glad to hear things worked out. It stinks that she was miserable, but she probably wasn't used to all the positive attention she was getting from people. I hope your son still had fun the rest of the evening with his friends. 

I'm sorry that happened to him, that couldn't have felt nice. I am glad he had fun with his friends. Being a teenager can be so tough sometimes!