i still feel like it

 ive lost 85lbs so far. i love my rny, and wouldnt change it for the world. i take monthly photos to prove to myself that this is real. but i can not get it thru my head that ive lost 85lbs and im skinny/small/normal in other peoples eyes. to me i still feel like the 260+ lb person. how do you get it thru your head that you are no longer that and you've changed for the better?? i mean i can see my clothes fall off of me and everything but for some reason i still feel it.   

It's normal to feel this way, I am told that eventually our "head" will catch up to our bodies and we will have an "Oh Wow" moment.

I'm right there with you.  I think because it happens so quickly, your brain needs to catch up with your body.  I feel this same way.  Most of my clothes are real loose or no longer fit, but I still see myself as being morbidly obese, and I want to get the rest of the weight off of me.  I have another 40+ pounds to lose to get to goal and now that the scale has slowed down to almost a halt, my brain is starting to catch up.  Still, I know I have a long way to go.  I still feel like the big girl in the room, and being that I'm still considered "obese" for a few more pounds, I still feel HUGE! 

I think it takes time.  Be kind to yourself, relish the NSV's, and maybe make a list of things you can do now that you couldn't do at your start weight.  Even such small things as: I can cross my legs now, or how about.....I can shop at a store that doesn't sell plus sizes.....this is a journey that we have only JUST started a few months ago.....it's going to take some time. :) 

That being said, congrats on your amazing weight loss!! :) 

It just takes time. The other day I finally looked at myself in the mirror when I was washing my face and for the first time noticed the difference in my upper body. Where I used to see as boxy and big I finally saw rounded shoulders and collar bones. Wow!!! I was amazed at the lady that was looking back at me.  I mentioned it to my oldest daughter and she's all "Well Duh, We've all noticed for a while now and you're just not seeing it?"

Last week at Disney I saw a group of guys all dressed up alike in cowboy shirts and jeans for Halloween and I told them they looked so cute as I passed by them.  One said "You don't look so bad yourself there little lady"   I was feeling pretty darn good about myself after that and had a huge smile on my face the rest of the night.

It takes time and little things will help you wrap your head around it.

You have done an amazing job!!!! Keep up the good work!!!