She's ruining my NSV's!!! (Or, I'm just an ungrateful b*tch...)

I always do my clothes shopping with my sissy...since I was a kid, decades and decades ago.

She is always my support and my cheering section, no matter what.

But lately....(and here's where I feel a little like the wicked witch...)

Whenever we're in a store, and I try something on, or go to purchase something I just fell in love with, she feels it necessary to tell everyone, Oh, yes, she just lost 75 pounds!!!

I know she most likely means it in a proud way, but COME ON!  I don't want to be "that fat girl" anymore!  I've worked really hard to put that behind me, a pound at a time!  Why does she insist on throwing the label on me in front of total strangers.

I shouldn't care what total strangers think, and really, I don't.  I'm just not sure if she's proud of me and I'm being over sensitive.  But PLEASE stop telling everyone I used to be a big fat pig......

I love her dearly, really I do.  I can't help thiinking that maybe she's a little resentful.  She has struggled with weight issues here whole life.  I was always the smaller, cuter sister (ha!!!).  Then I got much bigger than her.  Now....you guessed it....I'm a size smaller.  Last time I walked in the house, Mom blurted out, "Oh look....she's skinnier than you are" to my sister.

Ha....paybacks?  Who knows.

Oh god, I'm such a *****!!!!

xoxoxo

Maybe you need to sit down and talk to her about how it bothers you for her to go around telling people about your weight loss. I always believe communication is key.

sibling rivalry...seems we never outgrow it...doesn't help when mom (even unintentionally) promotes it (given her comment comparing the two of you).

I think I would just ask her nicely not to tell others.  "Hey sis, love that you are proud of me but it makes me super self-conscious when we tell others I have lost a lot of weight."  Then give her a big hug and tell her how much you appreciate her support and love throughout your life.

Enjoy the shopping :)

Andrea.

She could be saying a whole lot worse.

I don't think it must have been nice for her to hear those words from your mother.

If it really bothers you then you'll have to let her know .

I lost a bunch of weight years ago and had a friend always do the same thing. We would go out and meet guys and whenever they would pay me a compliment she would say "she just lost 80 pounds". I was so embarrassed. I lost the weight and you still have to remind me about it. I've since gained all that weight back and now am in process of having wls. But I always remember that about her.

I'm getting alot of the same things from my family too. I don't have any answers but wanted you to know that you are not alone. I almost feel like my family may be resentful and maybe a tad bit jealous. I am smaller than all of them now.

Have you told her that you don't want her to do that?  Maybe she is really trying to complament you.
If she continues after you let her know maybe start shopping without her.  If it continues let her know you will start shopping without her.

As for mom's comment, maybe mention that it is hurtful to both of you.  She may think that would be motivation for your sister to drop some lbs.  I can see my grandma doing that.  Passive-aggressive at its finest.

This must be a girlly thing. I have heard here, things like this mostly from women. If you don't like I think you are going to have to ask her not to talk about it. But me I brag about my WLS to eveyone who will stand still long enough. I am proud that I was smart enough to have WLS and now am down over 100lbs.

The way you stated her words, I take it that she is proud and bragging on your accomplishment. She is basically saying "Look what my sis has done!!"  Now, if she was saying things like "oh, she used to be so big" or "Man, she used to be fat", I would think she is being spiteful.

Give her the benefit of the doubt. Tell her you appreciate her being proud of you but please stop saying that to people-that like you said, you are putting it behind you and do not want it brought up over and over. I bet if you tell her it embarrasses you, she will stop as long as her intentions were pure to begin with. GOOD LUCK!

Oh, and you might ask your mom not to make any more comments. Explain that you think that those comments might bother your sister.