2 years post op and cant stop gaining....

Nope. I follow the 30/30 rule.

THIS is why I am not a big fan of the 5DPT. It doesn’t really DO anything, as you saw.

So firstly, about the weight gain. It happens. To a lot of us. So many, in fact, that I heard regain was a major topic at the last gathering of the American Society for Metabolic and Bariatric Surgery. So you aren’t alone.

I took the time to read your replies and others before responding to this. You have three kids and “they are your exercise.” Sorry but that’s not enough. Your body is accustomed to the activity involved with keeping after your kids and fortunately/unfortunately the body is very adept at burning calories efficiently during times of normal/every day activity. So my first piece of advice is to find time to work out. I get that it’s hard. I have two kids a dog and no spouse. I have to get up at 5:45 a.m. to exercise. But I do it. Because it’s important. So do it.

Eating. I second the recommendation to get your RMR tested. Obese/formerly obese people tend to have wonky metabolism from years of on-again/off-again dieting. There is a logic to how your body (or anybody’s body) burns calories you just have to learn YOUR unique formula.

Support. While you may not have a bariatric surgeon there are plenty of nutritionists that take insurance. I’d encourage you to find and work with one. I’d do that AFTER you get your RMR tested so you know what kind of plan to make. And that plan should include a plan for eating AND spending calories.

Having said all that, my last piece of advice is to utilize the support here. There is a daily eating thread most days. I’m going to TRY to commit to resurrecting the dinner thread (the morning thread is more what ARE you eating while the dinner one is what DID you eat?). Sometimes patterns we don’t see can rise to the surface there.

And you emphasized that you cut out all white carbs. White carbs aren’t the only simple carbs. Many simple carbs are healthy in moderation but can cause gains if they make up too large a portion of your daily eating plan. I’d encourage you to look at your daily eating plan pie chart. Just as an opening suggestion, aim for 40% of your calories to come from protein, 35% from carbs 25% from fat. That’s a good, protein-forward ratio. Of course, if you see a nutritionist, their advice supersedes mine as I am not a professional!

Lastly, I would encourage you to be empowered to be calm. Not calm as in “I don’t care about this.” But calm as in “I’m going to get to the bottom of this and resolve it.” Stress = cortisol production = weight gain = more stress. It’s a cycle. Don’t fall prey to it. 

Thank you so much for input and advice Nik!
I would love to utilize a nutritionist but unfortunately, my insurance does NOT cover it at all. Its actually excluded. We are military, and our insurance is very picky about what is and isnt covered. I had to pay for my bariatric nutritionist prior to surgery, out of pocket just to get cleared for the surgery.

Oh, poo! That's no good then. Well you can get plenty of great ideas here and online. Like I said, keep watch for that ratio of calories. And even if you just do Wii Fit or something do something your body is not used to! It helps.